@PyongyangKipperbang
I am just amazed that a man who is such a witless pillock has managed to amass such a large amount of money!
@R0SEMARY
On behalf of all of us who didnt get what we earned in our marriages to these men, take this arsehole to the cleaners and when you do, raise a glass for us! I for one wont bregrudge a second (or a penny) of your happier life :)
Thank you
@PyongyangKipperbang. I was conscious it must seem very crass to women who struggle to get £20 a month out of their ex.
I’m touched by the generosity and kindness of everyone posting on both my threads. I’ve been lucky to escape the usual step mum haterz and now the “ be grateful for a tenner because I only get a fiver “ crowd.
John is indeed very confident in his own interpretation of the law . Eg that child maintenance is based on his interpretation of my need and not on his income.
Through to be fair I’ve seen dozens on threads here on MN with second wives / new GF complaining that their partner shouldn’t have to pay for his children as his ex doesn’t need it as she has a job / went on holiday / gets her nails done/ once bought a carry out meal.
So clearly these are common views - that the NR parent gets to decide on the level of CM and that R parents should not be allowed the smallest of “luxuries”.
He obviously thinks that “ you should cash in your pension instead “ is a clever argument. BTW this is a good public sector pension that I accumulated before I married him . So he’s very irritated that I’ve got that sitting there and he can’t touch it. But of course it would be complete and utter madness to take that all out now.
And I have no pension for the duration of our marriage because I was working in our business and he said we couldn’t afford a decent salary for me, let alone pension contributions. He was lying ( you will be surprised to know ).
I was saddened by his idea that he’s willing to give the children the money to spend on trainers / computer games but not to me to keep a roof over their heads. I have to say it shows how little he knows his children, because 2/3 of them are pretty well aware of my financial situation and would pass it over straight away.
They are old enough and smart enough to understand that we are not poor ( we have a nice house and run a car ) but that most of my income goes to pay off the mortgage / bills so we don’t have a huge amount of disposable income.
But I know that CMA will force John to pay CM to me and not the kids. But no doubt that will take months.
Once he actually gets himself a real lawyer I assume they will tell him he can’t get out of this. AFAIK there’s no way around it for salaried employees - you have to be self employed / have your own company /work overseas / work cash in hand to dodge it.