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I need a hand hold

377 replies

iwanteggfriedricefuckingpronto · 26/05/2021 18:38

After almost two years of bullshit I'm leaving tomorrow. I'm booked into a refuge through women's aid.

So why do I feel guilty? I feel deceitful. I feel like a terrible person.

OP posts:
Icanflyhigh · 27/05/2021 13:51

Couldn't read and run, you're stronger than you realise.
If you can find a way to take the car, take it - but if not, the most important thing is that you take your girls and make you all safe.
Good luck, I will check in later x

monkeyadja · 27/05/2021 14:22

Good luck you amazing, strong lady. Never look back xx

Lougle · 27/05/2021 14:31

You are a hero to your children. You don't know it now, but you will. Flowers

Hen2018 · 27/05/2021 14:59

I’m picking my niece up from school now so hopefully you are about to do this same with your children and this is your moment!

Enough4me · 27/05/2021 16:11

Repeat positive messages to yourself "moving forwards, this is best for me and my girls". Focus on the visualisation that in a week this will be your new normal, in a month you will have had a break from him and have a safer life.

OnTheHuntForAHome · 27/05/2021 16:20

Good luck 💕

financialrecovery · 27/05/2021 16:24

Thinking of you op xx

financialrecovery · 27/05/2021 16:25

You can do this. Right now xx

NatWestPigFamily · 27/05/2021 17:03

Hope all went well OP and that you are now safe. Remember you are strong and taking back control over your life.

blitzen · 27/05/2021 17:14

Really hoping you got away with your kids, OP. Thinking of you xx

ClaudiaAndTheCauldron · 27/05/2021 17:20

Whatever happens please let us know that you are ok.
We are all here to support you 💐

youvegottenminuteslynn · 27/05/2021 17:25

Let us know how you are when you get a chance, whatever happened Thanks

Onthedunes · 27/05/2021 18:48

Hope you are ok op.

Remember, don't think of this as leaving a life behind, think of this as your new safe haven, just for you and your daughter, where you can breath and think.

Whatever happens, this place will be your safe place so you can be shielded from everything. It will be yours to retreat to.

I hope you did go through with it but if not, do not think we will not support you further.

Flowers
Chinam · 27/05/2021 19:18

I hope you are settling into your new flat. Best of luck for the future.Flowers

VanceRefridgeration · 27/05/2021 19:24

I am thinking of you OP having read your thread. You are an amazing, courageous woman.

Stand firm and stand tall. You can do this xxx

RandomMess · 27/05/2021 19:41

You're all in my thoughts Thanks

youvegottenminuteslynn · 27/05/2021 20:10

@iwanteggfriedricefuckingpronto

Are you ok?

Positivelysober · 27/05/2021 20:20

Thinking of you.

Stay safe.

financialrecovery · 27/05/2021 20:24

OP if you didn't manage to do it or backed out, please don't feel too upset to come back and talk. We just want to know you're ok x

Cleverpolly3 · 27/05/2021 20:31

Hope you are ok

YukoandHiro · 27/05/2021 20:37

How are you OP?

iwanteggfriedricefuckingpronto · 27/05/2021 20:42

I did it.

I'm here in the flat. It's very basic and I've had to deep clean it. Wonderful facility though, they've gone above and beyond for the girls.

Just sat here eating a microwave lasagne wondering what on earth my life has come to.

OP posts:
justthecat · 27/05/2021 20:46

U are amazing , life is going to be the same 💐💐 well done you did it 🤗

Hen2018 · 27/05/2021 20:46

Well done!

I’ve been checking in every half an hour or so. Smile

It’ll be weird for a bit. I had 3 very down days when I first went to a refuge. On the third evening, I bought chips and we walked to the station to watch the trains coming and going. It was so relaxed and such fun that it was the turning point for me. Hopefully you’ll get to do something like that in the next couple of days. (Good weather too - I left in January!)

youvegottenminuteslynn · 27/05/2021 20:47

Oh my god I could burst in to tears!

I am SO PROUD OF YOU.

I thought you had backed out and I apologise - you have given your girls the most amazing gift ever today.

Loads of us have been thinking of you all afternoon and are here if you need to chat or be distracted Thanks