More Legs chapter three - the one where there’s a little light at the end of the tunnel

[MoreLegsThanMe]

New thread. Can’t believe I’ve got to three.

It’s a good chance I think that they’ll stick together, happy or not. They’ve given away absolutely everything (although she still sees her children) so they do need each other don’t they.

I have my fingers crossed for the marriage certificate tomorrow. I really believe he thinks I wouldn’t go ahead with it. I also think it might prompt a flurry of messages asking what he’s supposed to do. Bloody pay a solicitor that’s what you can do.

I think of the two of us I will come out the other side better than him. I have the support of his family, all the DC, and you wonderful women. He has her and that’s it. I don’t know about her family and I’m sure as can be that the pair of them have created yet another lie as the backstory to how they met. Can’t exactly tell the truth can they. ANC in a few short years he’ll be 70. Yuk.

It still doesn’t feel like I’ll be better off at the end but I’m hoping that feeling will come.

If anyone knows how to link this thread to the old one can you let me know please?

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Get well soon, Legs. I hope you’re resting up and your lovely children are looking after you.

Thinking of you and hoping you're on the mend MoreLegs .

Get better soon Legs.

Thank you!

I’m over the worst, and I’ve spent a whole half a day out of bed…

Just wanted to let you all know that I’m so grateful for you asking after me and thinking about me. Other than the DC you literally are the only people in the world who know about this!

Yesterday was DD3’s birthday. Luckily I’d got her presents before I was ill. As expected STBXH sent a money-filled card. Also messaged her calling her “darling” and saying how much he loved her. Barf.

DS had a change round in his bedroom today. He asked if he could so who was I to turn him down. It’s a small room bless him but I think he’s made it look good. Even emptied out his own wardrobe and got rid of a load of too-small clothes. Another sign he’s growing up (too) quickly.

I’ve barely thought about STBXH while I’ve been ill. Almost like I’ve got better things to do..

Now that I feel so much better I’ll be back each night to offload. Thank you so much again for your support. It means more than you could ever know.

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Despite not being well, you’re sounding really good @MoreLegsThanMe!

Oh you do sound quite perky MoreLegs. You must be on the mend. Hopefully you'll be completely well again very soon. And yes, your health is far more important than idiot STBXH. As time goes by he's becoming more and more irrelevant.

Your DD3 shares the same birthday as my DD! Fingers crossed you can have a proper celebration when you're better but in the meantime happy birthday to her and I hope she enjoyed her presents.

Your DS sounds lovely (well, all your DC do).

Get well soon.

You do sound good considering, glad you feeling better.

I'm glad you're feeling better, I have been quite worried about you Legs

I'm pleased you're on the mend Legs, take care.

Pleased you're feeling better, legs

Good to hear you're feeling better Legs, take care x

Hi Legs, hope you've recovered, hang in there girl. How are you doing?

Legs so pleased to hear you are feeling a lot better. Take care

Hey Legs, sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. I hope you are on the mend now and looking after yourself ? X

Thank you x

I thought I was better, but all of a sudden it just seemed to come back! Back to bed and everything. Still, all over now. It daren’t come back again I refuse to allow it.

The DC have been absolute rocks throughout. None of them are affected despite me asking them every five minutes if they’re feeling okay. It was strange to be ill without STBXH being here through at least part of it.

Next step is to get Decree Nisi. I had the house valued today, just so I have something in writing. I have no fears that he’d try to buy me out or force a sale - too cowardly and couldn’t afford it anyway - but I’m just covering my back in every way I can.

Can’t remember if I told you we got through DD3’s birthday just fine. The next blip is the anniversary which is next week. I’m just trying to pretend it’s not happening and not think about it. On the actual day I’ll just keep busy as best I can and once I start thinking about it just let the thoughts come. I know now that they will go away.

I feel like I’ve learned an awful lot this past fourteen months. I never thought someone as old as me would have anything left to learn.

I’ve accepted a date to see a nice man a week on Saturday. We’ve had to rearrange three times because I’ve been ill and that hasn’t put him off so fingers crossed. We’ve spoken on the phone and he seems genuine enough. How horrible that I should even have to think that about someone- basically whether they are a liar or not - but I will never ever ever be taken in again.

Hopefully now I’m back I can take advantage of your collective wisdom again.I often read back through the threads and try and imprint it on my brain!

Thank you so much again. Legs and her army marching on?

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Glad you’re recovering Legs! Onwards now, let the anniversary thoughts just flow through you, you can’t stop them coming but they will fade away. Be too busy creating a lovely future for yourself to give them much head space. X

So glad to see you back, Legs! I rarely post but I check in every night to see how you're getting on (and cheer you on!) and I was worried about you x

Great to hear you've a date lined up - hope it all goes well, and looking forward to hearing about it in due course

Ooh exciting, where are you planning to go?

The wedding anniversary is just another day, unlike birthdays and Christmas which will remain significant, this time next year you probably won’t even have it on your radar. It’ll be fine, we’ll be here as sound boards if you need us.

Glad you’re feeling better, it sounds like you got it bad thank goodness you’re fully vaccinated or it could have been much worse.

Maybe you managed to contract a case of Covid @MoreLegsThanMe. Sounds like you’ve been pretty unwell and it sounds worse than the usual reaction to the vaccination. Regardless, I’m so pleased you’re feeling better!!!

I hope your date goes well.

Glad you are feeling better.

@Legs do hope you're now on the mend and getting stronger.

Hope you are well legs 🥰

Thank you x

All better 100% now I’m pleased to say. Was like a really nasty flu for me. No cough to speak of but I had the fevers and aches etc. Like you say @Billybagpuss it could’ve been worse without the vaccine.

Wedding anniversary is nearly upon me. So not looking forward to it. I doubt he’ll remember but in any event I won’t know will I?

Just that and DD4’s birthday end of this month and then I am stopping the antidepressants. I’ve said before I don’t know if it’s them that have helped or you lovely women and a dose of time. I’ll be glad to be finished with them, it’ll feel like such a big leap forward.

I need to apply for Decree Nisi next. Like issuing the Petition, I’ll just need a little time to fully get my head round it, but once I do that’ll be it and I’ll apply.

Date-wise it’s just a walk through a local park and then, depending on how things go, maybe a coffee and sandwich or something. I have no real hopes for it, but equally I’m open to trying!

Thank you all again, so much. Still marching on…

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So glad you're better now MoreLegs. You're doing so, so well in every way, and you have coped so admirably with every hitch and stumbling block. You should be very, very proud of yourself. I hope you are.

Sleep tight, lovely. Keep marching on.