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Oh god

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lostsoul1989 · 22/05/2021 17:43

I know I have posted loads.

So I wanted closure and yes mistakenly went to the boyfriends house to see what was going on.

I went in I stayed at the door bit and I asked what was happening.

"Nothing I am just tired" "thought I was seeing you tomorrow"

This has happened after a full day of ignoring my calls and texts.

I said I just wanted to know what was going on. Just wanted to know if he still wanted to be together. Then again "I thought I was seeing you tomorrow"

It's like he has me clinging on. Me feeling hopeless as I don't know what I have done.

This has happened since last week and going to bed drunk. When everyone there said I was fine.

Once again I am left in limbo. I can't even cry. Maybe it would be better if I could.

I don't even know what to do. My ex is getting married and seems to have the perfect life, where as me just seems to fuck everything up.

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lostsoul1989 · 24/05/2021 09:06

Very truthful and thank you

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lucy5236 · 24/05/2021 14:57

@lostsoul1989 glad you're starting to feel better about this crap situation and hope you get some good news from your test results soon Thanks

CoelacanthSharpener · 24/05/2021 15:23

[quote SakuraEdenSwan1]@CoelacanthSharpener harsh? Truthful more like[/quote]
Disagree. OP's responses show she's listening. And even if she wasn't, people are not obliged to agree with feedback, which is what I suspect you really mean by 'listen'.

lostsoul1989 · 24/05/2021 20:42

So day 3 and it's getting a hell of a lot easier!

No anxiety today! No checking phones!

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unicornsarereal72 · 24/05/2021 20:44

Yay. Glad you had a good day. There maybe wobbles. But that is because you are human. Onwards and upwards.

lostsoul1989 · 24/05/2021 20:49

Yeah thank you! Looking thinner too so thats a boost too!

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Moonface123 · 24/05/2021 21:24

Just know that these feelings are only temporary. You need to distract yourself. Zero contact is the only way to go to get him out of your system. Look at "Mr Unavailable, Baggage Reclaim" blog and Susan JElliott " Getting past your breakup" both good forums you will find much support from others in your situation. You will break your co dependency and have peace of mind, which is priceless..Also try looking at being single in a different perspective, be wild and free, the grass isn't always greener.

KinseyWinsey · 24/05/2021 22:41

You're free! Well done. Amazing.

DoubleTweenQueen · 25/05/2021 07:14

@lostsoul1989 Great that you're feeling more positive! Your recovery from your op will take a while, so be really kind to yourself xxx

lostsoul1989 · 25/05/2021 17:22

Thank you! Onwards and upwards

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me4real · 25/05/2021 19:12

Well done @lostsoul1989 . Keep going. xxx

lostsoul1989 · 25/05/2021 19:47

Thank you all so much xx

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DoubleTweenQueen · 27/05/2021 12:54

@lostsoul1989 Thinking positive thoughts on your behalf and wishing you a little stronger and happier each day x

lostsoul1989 · 27/05/2021 12:56

Awww thank you so much! It does get easier xx

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Happinesscomesfromwithin · 27/05/2021 13:33

Actions speak louder than words OP.

Men hate woman that are clingy and non stop on at them. Just sit back and let him make the first move, mirror his behaviour. If he cares and is interested he will reach out and If not well at least you know where you stand.

lostsoul1989 · 27/05/2021 14:16

I think it is just because he made me feel so bad, that I had upset him, so he has made me be that bit needy.

I like to talk I like to clear the air as life's too short for rubbish like that.

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ShouldersBackChestOutChinUp · 27/05/2021 16:36

God don't feel bad about upsetting him. Jesus. He doesn't give a shit about upsetting you.

You weren't offensive when you were drunk, if you're the same poster.

He just made that up so he could ignore you or bin you.

Stop being so soft. Grow a thicker skin and a bit more of a fuck you attitude.

You'll save a lot of time.

ShouldersBackChestOutChinUp · 27/05/2021 16:36

He didn't make you feel bad either.

You make you feel bad.

Don't indulge yourself so much.

lostsoul1989 · 27/05/2021 17:21

I won't hahaha, it's because I don't drink. Not use to it at all!

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Fabiofatshaft1 · 28/05/2021 08:44

We are needy 😉

Talk to us......

lostsoul1989 · 28/05/2021 08:58

Hahaha yeah I will! How are you all? Off to get my hair done and that today x

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DoubleTweenQueen · 29/05/2021 10:57

Envious of your hair appointment :)

Fabiofatshaft1 · 29/05/2021 11:23

Bet you look a million dollars 😉

lostsoul1989 · 29/05/2021 12:18

It's took ages to get! Eeej I feel great xx

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