He's finally moved out, but taken the dog

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So I've posted before years ago under a different username how I wanted to end it with my OH of 11 years, but the only thing stopping me was the fact we have a dog together who is my world. Well I finally but the bullet and he's moving back to his parents today. I've just got home from having my first jab and he's packed up a load of stuff (which I'm not going to argue with), but he's also moved everything off the dogs crate, implying he's taking this with him, implying he's expecting to take her with him! His parents only live 5 minutes away and I know they would happily have the dog staying with them, but there's no way on his planet I'm prepared to let him take her full time, we need to sort something out, but I'm so scared that he's going to railroad me and try to control me and not bring her back 😥😥 She's registered with the Kennel Club, microchip and vets all in my name, but he used his money to pay for her 3 years ago. I'm devastated 😢🥺😢🥺

I don't know what I'm hoping people will reply with to be honest, but I can't sit here in silence waiting for him to come back for the rest of his (and her!) things 😭

Is she with you now?

Is there somewhere you can go with the dog today?

She's in your name so I'd use that to argue she stays with you. Maybe try to agree she stays with him a few days a week?
What discussions have you had about her?

He's taken her with him 🥺

Can you ask a friend to come round and support you?

Sorry I know this is pathetic in the grand scheme of things and a proper first world problem, but I'm devastated 😩

Does he love the dog and take good care of her or is he doing this because he knows it will hurt you?

It's NOT pathetic!

@VettiyaIruken both, although he'd have to leave her with his parents all day every day whilst he's at work (she'd love this, she loves his parents!) whereas I work from home, so that to me is the sensible and mature solution

So you are registered owner. Surely he doesn't get a say? Tell him dog back or you report her stolen.

Omg I would be devastated if this happened to me. I’m so sorry! I don’t have any advice except like a pp said is to report her stolen. I’m sure he’s mainly taking her to spite you.

The dog is in your name, that is ownership. She was a gift for you.

Can there police and get her back!

From what I've read it's a civil matter & the police won't be interested. I get on really well with his parents - I can't see them approving with his way of doing things. When he gets back to collect the rest of his things ( her food, bed etc) I need to appeal to his more mature side, but i think he's doing everything to spite me at the minute 😢

This happened to me. Unfortunately in law the owner is the one that purchased the dog unless it was a gift. My ex was going to give the dog (that he didn't care about) to his mother who was in no position to have her. Unfortunately the dog had an accident and at the time was not insured. The bill was £1000's. I knew he was a tightwad so told him he could keep the dog but would have to pay the vets bill. The dog and I had a very happy further 12 years together. Good luck!

This could get messy as a civil case because he bought the dog. The first question anyone will ask in court is who bought it. I can buy a car and register it in your name but that doesn't mean it's your car.

To be fair he has no proof he paid for her, as our copy of the receipt / contract just has the sellers details on. I'm praying he's just taken for her a walk and he's got no intention of doing this, but I know him too well unfortunately. I can't ring him as he's blocked me.

Can you buy another set of equipment and then just pick up the dog from his parents and bring home? What would happen?

Maybe see a solicitor to agree a joint ownership?

She’s your dog, you have the documentation to prove it. He has no documentation to prove he paid for her. Could you try speaking to CBA to see where you stand legally? I’m pretty sure he can’t just take her.

I love my dog dearly, but...think of the freedom you will have to rebuilt your life without the ties and responsibility dog ownership involve. Perhaps it's meant to be?

Don’t forget to change the locks on your house. He’s probably taken other stuff too and you haven’t noticed yet.

Changing the locks is shit advice you can get yourself into a lot of trouble just doing that .

he probperly feels the same about the dog I don't know how who's feeling trumps the others

I'm so sorry but whoever paid for the dog is the legal owner. He'll probably be able to show the money went out from his bank, one way or another.
The microchip details just show the registered keeper, not the legal owner.

Change the locks and look around to see if he's taken anything else.

She’s registered to you. She’s your “property” in the eyes of the law.