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He's finally moved out, but taken the dog

121 replies

katmunchkin · 22/05/2021 12:10

So I've posted before years ago under a different username how I wanted to end it with my OH of 11 years, but the only thing stopping me was the fact we have a dog together who is my world. Well I finally but the bullet and he's moving back to his parents today. I've just got home from having my first jab and he's packed up a load of stuff (which I'm not going to argue with), but he's also moved everything off the dogs crate, implying he's taking this with him, implying he's expecting to take her with him! His parents only live 5 minutes away and I know they would happily have the dog staying with them, but there's no way on his planet I'm prepared to let him take her full time, we need to sort something out, but I'm so scared that he's going to railroad me and try to control me and not bring her back 😥😥 She's registered with the Kennel Club, microchip and vets all in my name, but he used his money to pay for her 3 years ago. I'm devastated 😢🥺😢🥺

OP posts:
Livandme · 22/05/2021 13:30

I imagine he hasn't thought it through.
Turn up at his parents to collect the dog when he's at work.
You could share her in the short term but long term I don't think it would work.

Thelnebriati · 22/05/2021 13:32

Again, the keeper named on the microchip register is not the legal owner.

The keeper is the person legally liable for any damage or injury caused by the dog; so if you are not in possession of the dog you need to get your details removed from the register asap.

Freyaismyname · 22/05/2021 13:38

It's not pathetic. She's a part of your family. It's like taking a child from its mother. I'm sorry op I really do hope you can come to some sort of reasonable arrangement WineThanks

OnlyToWin · 22/05/2021 13:40

Don’t the kennel club documents mean anything though? On ours we are both named as dog’s owners. Is that different legally than microchip?

motogogo · 22/05/2021 13:51

You need to talk properly and share the dog. If you live close by there's nothing to stop this logistically. I share custody of my ddog, though I don't have him that much as I know he prefers to be with his papa.

Blueskytoday06 · 22/05/2021 13:55

Can you agree on joint custody ?

Thelnebriati · 22/05/2021 13:56

Kennel Club documents just relate to the activities of the KC. You are registered as the owner with them.

BigFatLiar · 22/05/2021 14:01

Afraid this is going to have to be settled via solicitors as part of the divorce.

Wfh may be good as she'll be with you but if his parents are at home and able to take care of her during the day that's probably better as she'll get the attention and while wfh you are meant to be working not playing with the dog.

Melitza · 22/05/2021 14:03

Fetch your dog when he’s at work and let him fight you for her.
Unless he can prove otherwise deny , deny, deny that he paid for the dog.

BigFatLiar · 22/05/2021 14:06

@Melitza

Fetch your dog when he’s at work and let him fight you for her. Unless he can prove otherwise deny , deny, deny that he paid for the dog.
deny , deny, deny that he paid for the dog

Be careful of this, if he actually can show he paid for it and you are shown to be lying it can set a precedent for anything else you say.

Jcre · 22/05/2021 14:18

@katmunchkin

To be fair he has no proof he paid for her, as our copy of the receipt / contract just has the sellers details on. I'm praying he's just taken for her a walk and he's got no intention of doing this, but I know him too well unfortunately. I can't ring him as he's blocked me.
Likewise you have no proof you paid for her either, and that's the problem. Registering something in your name doesn't prove who paid for it.
Jcre · 22/05/2021 14:19

@OnlyToWin

She’s registered to you. She’s your “property” in the eyes of the law.
No, she isn't. Learn the law.
isitsummertimeyet · 22/05/2021 14:22

whilst this sucks, the dog belongs to the person that paid for it, pet kennels and the like dont mean anything in regards to ownership.

If you both love her which im sure you do, you can only appeal to his better nature and try and work out a share system, a week each or so, but with this in mind, you wont ever sever the ties with each other until the dog passes away if so

OnlyToWin · 22/05/2021 14:32

@Jcre

Okay. I will learn the law. Just got a few bits and bobs to do first. 😂

user1471457751 · 22/05/2021 14:37

I really wish people would do even some basic research before posting. The OP is not the legal owner of the dog so really, if she goes around to ex's parents and takes the dog without his consent, then she is the one stealing.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 22/05/2021 14:39

@ChiefBabySniffer

The dog is in your name, that is ownership. She was a gift for you.

Can there police and get her back!

This, do not let him get away with this.
Jcre · 22/05/2021 14:40

[quote OnlyToWin]@Jcre

Okay. I will learn the law. Just got a few bits and bobs to do first. 😂[/quote]
Well it might help, rather than giving incorrect advice to the OP. It's already been explained that registering something in your name does not mean it is your property. It is the property of the person who purchased it. Hope that helps x Wink

Jcre · 22/05/2021 14:41

Get away with what? He bought it. If he bought his car should she also not let him get away with keeping that too?

Jcre · 22/05/2021 14:43

@ChiefBabySniffer

The dog is in your name, that is ownership. She was a gift for you.

Can there police and get her back!

Where did the op say the dog was bought for her as a gift? I'm sure people make it up as they go along on here lol
OnlyToWin · 22/05/2021 14:44

If it gets as far as the courts then lots of things would be taken Into consideration to determine whose property the dog was, including registration documents, who provides most care etc. Then one decided, the failure to return a dog to the rightful owner is a breach of the Torts (Interference with Goods) Act 1977 and comprises a “wrongful retention” in respect of which compensation can be sought, as well as an Order from the Court that the dog be returned. Hopefully the OP can resolve the matter privately before taking it this far and avoid all the expense and hassle. Sharing the dog might be the best option.

Opentooffers · 22/05/2021 14:49

I'd go to his parents and say you'd like a day or two with the dog, but you will bring him/her back. If they are reasonable, they will probably go along with that.

Anydreamwilldo12 · 22/05/2021 14:49

How did he take her if you were there. Did you try to stop him?
No advice OP but You must be so upset.

BarbarianMum · 22/05/2021 14:58

It's his dog (unless it was a present). You're going to have to talk to him and agree access/ a shared are agreement.

BarbarianMum · 22/05/2021 14:58

care