To want to re home our 10 month old puppy...

[intheloudhouse]

We got a cockapoo last summer. He's a nice natured dog and house trained quite easily but he just causes me so much stress.

I have a very active 4 year old and I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant with HG so most days moving from the sofa is an effort at the moment.

He chews all DS's toys, all of my underwear to shreds (he gets it out of the washing basket) he terrorises the cat, (we have to now feed the cat on the kitchen table as he eats her food) goes into the bins and rips everything up that's in then, he annoys DS and steals food from his plate, he constantly jumps up on the back of the sofa to look out of the window and bark.. when DP is away I can't even go and stay with my parents for support as he hassles their elderly dog.. and quite simply I honestly don't have the energy or headspace to be able to give him the love and attention he needs at the moment with me being so unwell and then obviously I'll have a baby too in 5 months.

DP will not have any of it that I want to rehome him. He says he would rather get rid of me first. But it's me that's left with him while he goes out to work or for meals or days out with his friends on a weekend!

I just don't know what to do.

Message from MNHQ - please do read all the OP's posts before commenting as there is more to this thread than initially appears and the OP is in need of support. Thank you.

I’m Sorry OP. That’ll teach me to read the whole thread. I see you have a lot going on. I hope things improve for you and I’m sorry you are in this situation.

I really feel for you OP, you are in a really difficult situation. With regard to the pup, if he is registered in your name ie his microchip then you may wish to have a look at the Spaniel Aid website, there is info re relinquishment, your pup would go to a vetted foster home for assessment and then up for rehoming. That will give you the headspace to get yourself sorted out and clear your head to make decisions which are going to affect moving forward. PM me if you would like a chat.

@museumsandgalleries666 and I hope someone else can be arsed to read the whole thread before being so mean. Have the decency to ask for your post to be removed

Wow there are some true bastards on here today!!

Why do these sort of people always get cockapoos?
There must be so many lockdown cockapoos being rehomed because of people like the OP. And just think of the overbreeding to keep up with the demand. What a mess.

Cavapoos and spaniel crosses make lovely pets with a bit of training and a great deal of exercise. If I didn't have an anxious Lab, I'd be volunteering to rehome your dog. Mine is fit but getting on, and we already walk in the wilderness for between 45 and 90 minutes daily.

Read. The. Fucking. Thread.

Ok- I need to retract my statement above saying your DP is smart. He sounds like a vile douche bag. Unfortunately I still feel quite cross when people get dogs and then get rid when circumstances change. Please rehome your dog and rehome your DP- you deserve much better 🌈💐

@NotaCoolMum Try reading the full thread before being so judgemental. There is so much more to the OP's situation than the rehoming of a dog ☹️

Best of luck to you, OP, with everything 💐

@catwithflowers-try reading my amended comment below my original comment. I still stand by what I said about the dog.

I’d reported this thread again. This is really showing the worst of Mumsnet. Both the title and original post need amending as clearly that is the only bit some posters read.

Op get rid of your dh, keep your baby and rehome your dog. Good luck love big hugs xxxxx

You don't sound very enthusiastic about the dog and you should definetly look at rehoming it.

You made a very big mistake and due to your current situation you are ruining what could be a lovely dog.
Do the right thing and sell him to someone experienced who will love him and take him out for long walks to burn off his energy to stop him stressing and importantly train him because this is going to end up being a disaster if the poor thing stays with you.

Hello again, @intheloudhouse

We're just popping on here to let you know that we've added a MNHQ message to the bottom of your opening post to encourage folk to read the full thread - or at least all your posts - so that they have the full picture before commenting.

We hope that helps.

@NotaCoolMum I posted my comment before your amended one uploaded. Apologies.

@intheloudhouse wishing you strength. You ARE strong - you can protect yourself and your child, even if you don’t feel like that’s within your power right now. Go and stay with your dad for a while. Let him look after you, and slowly you will feel stronger.

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@catwithflowers no worries 🌈💐🌈 I think it’s a really emotive topic and so I read the first few posts and jumped on too quickly. Lesson learned and I do hope all goes well for you @intheloudhouse 💐

OP my heart absolutely goes out to you.

I had HG with my twins. I found myself considering abortion several times and these were IVF babies that I'd dreamed of having for 15 years. HG is vicious and robs you of your ability to think straight.

Keep your baby, rehome the dog (fuck your dp) and go to your dad's

Gosh you are having an awful time :(
Can you speak to your midwife/gp for referral to a consultant and ask for induction at 37 weeks? I know it’s still 17 weeks but you are over half way and doing so amazing. HG is horrendous without everything else you are going through.
Ditch the Dp, find the dog a new home (make sure you are safe if you rehome the dog while you are still at home) and go stay with your Dad.

I think you are being really brave and thinking of the dog first by rehoming doggie
Just please use a rescue so he is homed and cared for properly.
In 2007 I had a puppy and pregnant- I too felt the same but we put the effort in to train her.
It was well worth it...we had 12.5 wonderful years with her..every moment was a joy. But you have to want to do this, I decided with DH that we wanted to and the deserved better.
We lost her last November. It was the worst thing I've gone through I miss her every day,
But she loved us as we did her and I'm so very glad we didn't give up on her.
You just need to make the decision. Either way is fine but you can't stay in this indecisive period- the time to decide is now.

And I for one think everyone needs to be supportive of the Op. she's having a dreadful time physically and emotionally, she's asked for advice not for people to be unkind.
Come on people don't be horrible

@intheloudhouse I am sorry to hear of your troubles. Do what you need to do for yourself and your four year old. I am glad to hear that your Dad is supportive.

I am as far away in England from you as is possible to be but if I was nearby I’d offer to walk the dog, so it was one less thing to worry about.