baffy, i so empathise with what you're going thru. i think i'm only just starting to see H's behaviour with un-biased eyes and marvelling at how accepting and accomodating i was of all his victim/poor pitiful crap.
i wish i had the balls to face up to him and the situation the way you have done tho.
but, your posts this week have given me some strenght wrt to the impending meeting on saturday morning.
what i really want to do is hurt him badly, rant and rave and tell him how his behaviour has affected me and dd. i keep running conversations over and over in my head.
i won't get that opportunity on saturday, maybe never will.
but i can't wait to be in my own place with my gorgeous girl with all my shiny new bits n bobs. i am so looking forward to the mental space that will give me.
thanks for posting because you're really helping me.
tanee, it is a shock when you hear about something like that. i lost a work colleague when i was on mat leave and didn't find out for weeks. i was really upset that i missed the funeral.
carpe diem i guess.......
ps: thanks for all the crossed fingers! you may uncross them on Monday when I have the keys to Paddle Palace!