Please advise me

[Chocky75]

Hi I’m new here and looking for advice on my current situation, me and my partner are currently on a break as he can’t put up with my moods I do admit I am hard work and fly off the handle at the slightest thing, I’ve spoke to my doctor and he’s put me on citalopram, what’s bothering me is my partner hasn’t bothered to find out how I am how I’m getting on with them just no contact in 3 weeks, all he said at the beginning of the break was we’ll see if we can get back together at the end of the month, but I thought he might have contacted me especially as my father was diagnosed with cancer at the end of February so he knows what I’m going through but hasn’t even bothered to find out how he is, we are meant to be going away at the end of May but I don’t honestly know if I want to go. But apart from this things are bothering me anyway his hygiene levels are not good he doesn’t wash his hands when he goes to the toilet, he comes to my house doesn’t take his shoes off and the other week he broke my coaster as his feet were up on my sofa his trainers knocked the coaster onto the floor I was livid as my friend bought me it. Unsure what to do my friends said don’t contact him am I being petty with the hygiene things or would it bother you?

To be honest I'd have left him for wearing his trainers in my lounge at all let alone on my sofa. As for not washing his hands after the loo. Ffs what a minger.

Also a nob for not asking after your dad

@Chocky75 yes, you are

[quote DizzySquirrel90]@Chocky75 yes, you are[/quote]
I’m getting bored now of your unhelpful replies to be honest you sound hard work.

Because he knows what I’m going through with my dad’s cancer diagnosis.

I get that but this sounds like an unhealthy relationship all round and I'd take his lack of contact as indicative of his feelings in general.

I'd also consider that 'a break' requires no contact or its not a break.

Tbh, I think that, rather than wondering why he hasn't contacted you, you take this time to think about and plan a life without him.

That would seem to be healthiest.

I’m getting bored now of your unhelpful replies to be honest you sound hard work.

made me spit my tea there OP
your denial and lack of self awareness is out of this world!

@Chocky75 some people cant see the reality even when its staring them in the face

@Cloudfrost

I’m getting bored now of your unhelpful replies to be honest you sound hard work.

made me spit my tea there OP
your denial and lack of self awareness is out of this world!

@Chocky75 some people cant see the reality even when its staring them in the face

If you have nothing helpful to say don’t bother replying simple

i have something helpful to say: go to a therapist and take some medications.

@wishywashywoowoo70

To be honest I'd have left him for wearing his trainers in my lounge at all let alone on my sofa. As for not washing his hands after the loo. Ffs what a minger. Also a nob for not asking after your dad

Thankyou at least someone on here is on the same planet as me!

@Cloudfrost

i have something helpful to say: go to a therapist and take some medications.

Decided only recently I must say like in the last two days I don’t need a therapist or meds just need him out of my life

its agood thing then that he isnt in your life anymore, isnt it?

@Cloudfrost

its agood thing then that he isnt in your life anymore, isnt it?

Of course

Thankyou at least someone on here is on the same planet as me!

Well, tbf, I said the same

But you're not on the same planet as the other poster because you didn't dump him.

@LaptopDying

Thankyou at least someone on here is on the same planet as me!

Well, tbf, I said the same

But you're not on the same planet as the other poster because you didn't dump him.

Because I was confused but having the time away from him has made me realise

Well done OP
I would still consider therapy as it will help you in future relationships.
Remember you are in charge of what happens in your life and if a man isnt good enough then dont bother trying to change him or change your values, get rid.

@Templetreeee

Well done OP I would still consider therapy as it will help you in future relationships. Remember you are in charge of what happens in your life and if a man isnt good enough then dont bother trying to change him or change your values, get rid.

Thankyou for your help and advice

Ive pmed you @Chocky75

God I could have written this OP. I went to see a psychiatrist because my moods were terrible, I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD, I won't go into the details, currently having therapy (NHS) for 6 months and on citalopram.
Whilst having therapy - all this after my husband left - I realised I didn't love my ex husband, he was a selfish pig and the reason I hadn't sought help before was because I was too busy running about after him. My ex also stank and had terrible breath all the time.
I'm just so glad we split up and now have time to heal properly, something I should have done many years ago.
Go see your GP, try to get referred and start taking care of yourself now.

@Shehasadiamondinthesky

God I could have written this OP. I went to see a psychiatrist because my moods were terrible, I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD, I won't go into the details, currently having therapy (NHS) for 6 months and on citalopram. Whilst having therapy - all this after my husband left - I realised I didn't love my ex husband, he was a selfish pig and the reason I hadn't sought help before was because I was too busy running about after him. My ex also stank and had terrible breath all the time. I'm just so glad we split up and now have time to heal properly, something I should have done many years ago. Go see your GP, try to get referred and start taking care of yourself now.

Thanks I’ve never heard of it I’ll look into that.