Polly and her Dollies continue to improve in every way

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Can’t believe it, but here we are on Thread 5!

Thread 4 here

Just back from a 4.5 mile run - bit cold this morning! I’ve sea monkeys growing in the kitchen, soaps hardening in the bathroom, and the carpets are full of glitter. They had a great weekend!

The thumb also seems to be improving. Phew.

All on today to prep for tomorrow’s meeting with Geller. He really does seem broken. But I will not waiver.

Hope everyone had a good weekend and all health ailments are on the mend. Time to slap on some moisturiser - caught the sun this weekend - but look much better for it!

The cutlery! OMFG, I thought it was only my mother that marked my territory as hers, by relocating the bleeding cutlery!

I got so fed up, that the next time I went to her house, I went straight into the bloody kitchen, without a word, and rearranged her sodding cutlery.

She got the message. My cutlery never moved again. It was a really rather chilly visit, for some reason, though. . .

You know what would be awesome? Mix the cutlery up. Seriously - spoons, forks and knives, all together across the compartments.

FIL has cutlery sets. My parents have a mishmash of cutlery that has seen better days. Once, FIL strode up to my DM in church, brandishing a spoon, saying "Is this yours? I found it in my cutlery drawer!" DM eyed it up and said "Could be..." 😁😁

I had very functional parents who never rearranged anything in my house. Nor did I rearrange anything in theirs. I miss them.

In other uneventful news, my cats are moving in on the 19th!

Ooh can we have a pic of the cats please? And has the washing machine turned up yet?

Had a super day out yesterday, really lovely, to a place I’ve wanted to go to for years. Fell in love with a handbag in the gift shop and decided to treat myself. Cue comments about ‘well, if you’re SURE you can afford it’ and ‘it’s not my style but if you think it’ll work for you’. Then when we got home a pair of shorts had arrived. Tried them on and they fit but I need to lose another half stone - which is what I want to do anyway - Mum walks in and says oooh no, you’ve still got a lot to do, but you can use it as motivation, you just need to keep going and stop having seconds - you’re so RIGHT-there’s no bloody wonder I ended up with Geller.

Giving DI Dishy some space. Managed not to text yesterday and I haven’t heard from him. The ball is in his court. He’s wrestling with some pretty big stuff right now. I’ve read all the way back through and actually the messages weren’t that bad. I’m just going to leave it. He’ll be in touch when he’s ready. Plenty going on in my own life to get on with. And he knows that I’m busy.

And because I’m a glutton for punishment, I started Champix yesterday. Official quit day is Wednesday. Putting it out there so I can be accountable to you all!

Good luck with quitting 💐

My washing machine is here, and not a moment too soon. DH doesn’t believe in separating lights and darks to the same extent that I do, or believe in delicates bags or gentle cycles… and of course it’s my clothes that get ruined when he goes to the laundromat. Currently dyeing a jumper that used to be cream, as it is now mottled greige in a ver unattractive way… Good for you with the quitting… Not only did I nurse my parents through long, icky, smoking-related illnesses that took away every shred of their dignity, I remember the terror I felt as a child knowing that smoking was lethal and that my parents both did it anyway. (Also, no amount of washing, laundry, air freshener, etc, ever gets rid of the stink completely…)

Good luck with quitting smoking and well done for making the decision to quit - think how much further/faster you'll be able to run and the money you will save for gin. My dear dad had emphysema for years and died mid sixties, all caused by smoking, so I applaud you for taking this step.

I am currently being a lady with lunches in London/Surrey catching up with many friends. I survived the long drive which I was worried about as only gone 45 mins since my stroke. Was fine cruise control on, light traffic during the weekday - so much easier than about town and didn't get fatigued etc.

See people again is so wonderful. Even sharing tears was worth it!

I had to force myself to run yesterday and then walked 15k around town between coffee shops, lunch, gin etc.

Hopefully I'm walking the calories consumed off???

Yeah to quitting smoking, it will be worth it and you'll be rich! How many do you smoke now?

Think of how many handbags you'll be able to afford when you aren't buying cigarettes!

Reading that post made me think there was one extra bag in that shop, and it wasn't one that was for sale.

There will be cat pics, obviously!

Oh god I’m struggling so badly with quitting Polly let me know how Champix goes or whatever it’s called, I’ve bought a nicotine spray thingy but haven’t managed to get the ball rolling yet. It’s so annoying that I started again!!

Good luck with giving up smoking, @StuckInPollyannaMode!! I used to smoke (over 20 years ago now) up to twenty a day! First thing I thought of in the morning wasn't a cuppa but my first cigarette. Last thing I did at night was smoke a cigarette. I had bronchitis too often. And I was spending a fortune out of my inadequate salary. And cigarettes were far cheaper then than now...

The best thing I ever did, both from a health and financial aspect, was to give it up.

Good luck! You can do it - see what you've already accomplished. 🌹

@DartmoorDoughnut @StuckInPollyannaMode congratulations for trying to give up smoking, I gave up after smoking for 22 years it was bloody hard work but I've been free from cigs for a good few years now .
it's well worth it but I must admit I put a bit of weight on because food tasted so good I also found that smoking had masked a lot of dental issues, my mouth was awfully sore after about a week of giving up .
I found nicorette lozenges worked for me as every time I wanted a cig I took one of them ,if it wasn't for them I would have given up .
Good luck both of you and anyone else that's trying .

I just faked a work call to get out of the house to go for a walk and have three cigarettes in quick succession.

It’s clearly not kicked in yet!

Giving up smoking when you're in a stressful situation with your cutlery moving hypercritical mother at home might not be the best timing in the world. Maybe wait until they're gone?

@pointythings

Giving up smoking when you're in a stressful situation with your cutlery moving hypercritical mother at home might not be the best timing in the world. Maybe wait until they're gone?

I second that! 🌹

@mbosnz

The cutlery! OMFG, I thought it was only my mother that marked my territory as hers, by relocating the bleeding cutlery!

I got so fed up, that the next time I went to her house, I went straight into the bloody kitchen, without a word, and rearranged her sodding cutlery.

She got the message. My cutlery never moved again. It was a really rather chilly visit, for some reason, though. . .

Nope. My late MIL used to do that.

Also, when left unattended for too long once, she rearranged an entire child's bedroom in such a way that the door could no longer close.

Fear not my friends, you take it for a few days before it kicks in. You’re meant to carry on until your quit day…Wednesday for me. Well done to everyone who has stopped. My problem isn’t the first week - I can do 3 weeks no problems- it’s keeping going after that. That’s why the doc recommended Champix as you take it for 12 weeks. Might be worth looking at @DartmoorDoughnut?

Utterly utterly shite nights sleep for me (insomnia is a side effect but you guys know I’m not good with sleep anyway). Been awake since 2. The birds are going nuts and the sky is gorgeous.

Been looking at cool things to do to build up my list of stuff for the summer. Now got a couple of nice walks, a couple of adventure activities and a couple of cool nights out to look forward to!

I have sat firmly on my hands and not messaged DI Dishy this weekend. I know why he hasn’t been messaging, he said he needed space as there’s so much going on, and it’s absolutely nothing to do with me…I just have to deal with my own insecurities and not being in control (he’s not in control of this stuff either, it’s not a power play or anything). It’s a changed pattern for me to go ok, cool, do your thing and catch up next week.

One more day. I’m working this morning, and having a run. Then we’re off to a National Trust place before they head off and I head home with the kids. And breathe…it’s been lovely but I think we’re all ready for some space now. I lost it at the point Mum asked me what I want for breakfast when we go to a wedding in July.

I lost it at the point Mum asked me what I want for breakfast when we go to a wedding in July.
Did you laugh or cry? 🤯😂😂

Omg how long have they stayed for? Have you not heard of the 3 night rule?

I lost it at the point Mum asked me what I want for breakfast when we go to a wedding in July

?🤣?🤣?

Champix worked really well for my DH, for BIL and a friend. All have agreed it was easier to quit smoking (with Champix) than give up sugar.

Wow you’re doing really well.

Good luck for giving up cigs, DH replaced his with vape, he cut down on the nicotine slowly.
Now I’m hoping he’ll give up the vaping!

Tell your mum you’re going to be spontaneous about breakfast in the month of July. Including at the wedding 🤣

When I got together with DH post divorce from ex I wouldn’t text him first. I wanted him to want me & make an effort. Not sure if it makes sense.
I don’t do casual flings, (that’s all down to me no judgement on anyone else). For me I get emotionally attached and I know I would end up hurt by a casual thing. So I needed DH to want to be with me and to be into me and do the chasing.

You sound like you’re doing amazingly well re fitness. I’m jealous.
I’m hoping to return to my pre pregnancy weight and shape without the effort (it’s not working 😒).

I keep losing this thread I post on it and it disappears.

@frazzledasarock

I keep losing this thread I post on it and it disappears.

Me too! I thought it was just me - I keep having to go to my advance search list to see updates. 🤔

FFS. Message from Geller.

Hi. I’ve been asked to attend a workshop and dinner on Mon 28 June. Are you able to do pick up and tutoring?

Increasingly this will become a challenge across different days and different weeks.
In that specific week, I’d be very happy to pick up on Tuesday and feed, and they can stay over if they wish, or just return at say 7.15pm.

no that doesn't work for me

he needs to understand that he has to find alternative childcare if he wants to do this sort of stuff and you are not it!

I see this as a step forward - he is at least acknowledging that you need advance notice and he is asking you rather than assuming you will be able to do it.