Polly and her Dollies continue to improve in every way

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Can’t believe it, but here we are on Thread 5!

Thread 4 here

Just back from a 4.5 mile run - bit cold this morning! I’ve sea monkeys growing in the kitchen, soaps hardening in the bathroom, and the carpets are full of glitter. They had a great weekend!

The thumb also seems to be improving. Phew.

All on today to prep for tomorrow’s meeting with Geller. He really does seem broken. But I will not waiver.

Hope everyone had a good weekend and all health ailments are on the mend. Time to slap on some moisturiser - caught the sun this weekend - but look much better for it!

Please, don't be unkind. I live on my own. A singing washing machine is most welcome

I've been really extravagant, and bought myself a copy of The Domesday Book. I live on benefits, and I apologise, so much, for my stupid expense I'm not even vaguely intelligent .

@BobISMyUncle - thank you thank you. At last...at the ripe old age of 54, I will now be able to spell diarrhoea!

@StuckInPollyannaMode - a word of dating advice from an oldie - just keep it FUN. Enjoy all the stuff you never got from Geller. Lap it up. And live in the moment. Just take it as it is.

I’m sure my date and I are actually just boosting each other’s egos tbh... it remains to be seen if he’ll last the course!

We just go from one date...to the next.

@BobISMyUncle

I've been really extravagant, and bought myself a copy of The Domesday Book. I live on benefits, and I apologise, so much, for my stupid expense I'm not even vaguely intelligent .

De-lurking (Hi Polly, I'm following your story and cheering you on from the sidelines) just to say that I'm not on benefits, but if my taxes have funded your Domesday book, I'm thrilled. Why shouldn't you have things that interest you? You're every bit as worthy as I am

Benefits are to cover necessities - books come into that catagory.

(The history included in that particular book already belongs to you anyway.)

I worked on the Doomsday project (redoing the Doomsday book on its 900th anniversary) as a kid! My village featured in the original. Very cool use of funds.

BobISMyUncle I'm delighted if my taxes can contribute to something that will enrich your life and bring you joy.

Joining the chorus to say books are a good use of my taxes! Good for you Bob.

What is going on with the trolls by the way? Assume that's what they are...

Well, I'm just back from a thoroughly delightful walk and coffee with DYD. We didn't stop talking for nearly 2 hours. And then I went to the jewellers and swopped out my rings... and bought the most expensive present I've ever gifted myself.

Geller might get to keep my beloved car and have screwed me over and made me thoroughly miserable for several years - but I now have an absolutely beautiful sapphire and diamond ring to mark my new beginnings.

I rang my friend who is an accountant and has been utterly marvellous to check her thoughts before splurging (and splurging it was, my god) and she was all for it. But that's IT for the spending now.

It's so SO pretty.

I am going to wait until the absolute is through to wear it. I'll put it on the night I open the champagne...remember the Tattinger folks?! Still got it in the cupboard!

So, remember FWB? He hasn't even read my message accepting dinner on Thursday. I'm bloody fed up with this, talk about a lack of respect. For my time if not for me. It's nothing to do with the fact things are going well with DYD, it's to do with me standing up for myself and saying this isn't good enough.

I'm going to message him to say I'm not sure what's going on with him but I'm not up for this any more. He's basically ghosting me and wants to pick me up when he's ready. That's not on.

This is a HUGE step forward for me.

Suggestions on what to say to him welcome ... oh, and I have a third date with DYD on Saturday night! We had a hug today and ooooh it was nice. We're both in the same space about relationships and that we're not ready but it is about respect and communication. We'll just see what happens physically once we've had a couple of glasses of wine one evening...

Oh, and when I got back to the car I'd got a ticket. Most expensive day I've had in a long time!

I've done it. I've messaged FWB. All done. With honour and integrity. I suspect he will breathe a sigh of relief.

Time to move on - again. But I feel strong and positive about it.

Good for you Polly! On buying yourself the well deserved beautiful present, the lovely date and for the message to FWB! I can’t stand the whole game playing part of things so think you are definitely better go without him, who wants the hassle!

So pleased for you that the date went well and you have another planned soon 😊

Oops that was meant to say ‘better off without him’!

He’s apologised- profusely. A few nice messages back and forth. All is good.

I think this is probably the first time I’ve properly stood up for myself in a relationship. It feels fucking GREAT.

Breaking news: Polly is taking no shit. From anyone.

I'm very jealous about the ring, sounds gorgeous!

Excellent work, Polly. Former potential FWB will just have to go elsewhere, and you have proved that you're strong, assertive and independent and you take no shit from anyone. Best of all, you've proved it to yourself!

That's reminded me I should get my mums diamond and sapphire eternity ring resized (I now have fat fingers and it only just fitted me pre small person!) Those stones are always such a lovely combo, well done on the extravagance!

Yeah! We’re getting attacked by spam bots @StuckInPollyannaMode. They are leaving some lovely porn links with comments about wet pussys. HQ are on it but we’ve had a few slip through and it’s been a bit of a difficult time for us Night Watchers zapping them when they pop up.

Woah! Congrats on putting FWB back in his box, Pollyanna. Taking back some power is quite exhilarating!

I’m well jell of your jewellery splurge @StuckInPollyannaMode. I am SO SO SO going to cash in mine when the Absolute comes through. Not sure I want them remodelled. I just want new stones.

I have it all planned. A week in Kalkan in Turkey. A trip to the jewellers with dosh and assorted bits of jewellery, and an idea on design. A week later... Ta Dah!! Sparkly fingers! (And a tan)

Well done Polly - do we get a picture of your new ring?

I didn't know that cashing your rings in was a thing! I am going to have to look into this.

Loving your updates Polly. I'm cheering you on here, so pleased you've stood up for yourself, and your own needs and boundaries. After being conditioned into putting someone else first, that's such a huge positive step. Well done.

Good news: next date with DYD has been brought forward to tomorrow night 😂 this time there will be wine, so hopeful of a snog at the very least! My sex drive has suddenly gone through the roof, I don’t know what’s the matter with me 😁 not sleeping with him if there isn’t a spark though, I’ll be a grown up.

Bad news: SHL has left a message - wants to speak to me later. There is no WAY she will let me sign the deal Geller and I agreed, it’s massively unfair. Capital is fine, spousal is fine, pensions is a complete no go and she wants to speak to me ASAP.

Sure you can see the ring - PM me and I’ll send you a pic! Just a bit wary of posting it openly

I think SHL has your best interests at heart here, and if that means things coming to court, so be it. If the arrangement is considered to be unfair (to you), a judge will just refuse to sign off on it anyway. I reckon your SHL thinks this is likely to happen, hence she's putting the brakes on now. It's a pain, but in the end you're likely to end up with more.

I think SHL has your best interests at heart here, and if that means things coming to court, so be it. If the arrangement is considered to be unfair (to you), a judge will just refuse to sign off on it anyway. I reckon your SHL thinks this is likely to happen, hence she's putting the brakes on now. It's a pain, but in the end you're likely to end up with more.