Polly and her Dollies continue to improve in every way

[StuckInPollyannaMode]

Can’t believe it, but here we are on Thread 5!

Thread 4 here

Just back from a 4.5 mile run - bit cold this morning! I’ve sea monkeys growing in the kitchen, soaps hardening in the bathroom, and the carpets are full of glitter. They had a great weekend!

The thumb also seems to be improving. Phew.

All on today to prep for tomorrow’s meeting with Geller. He really does seem broken. But I will not waiver.

Hope everyone had a good weekend and all health ailments are on the mend. Time to slap on some moisturiser - caught the sun this weekend - but look much better for it!

I've just been googling the afternoon away and found a gorgeous, antique Ruby ring. £14500 sigh your fault Dolly

I think your SHL has your best interests at heart, and you should listen to her advice.

I think your SHL has your best interests at heart, and you should listen to her advice.

Yep, your SHL is being a SHL.

Phew... it's taken me a couple of weeks but I finally got through all your threads 😅

This is inspiring stuff Polly! I'm in the beginning stages of initiating separation and am really buoyed by your posts. You've done amazingly well by the sound of things.

And another recommendation for the Gilmore Girls - I especially love the single mum/daughter dynamic. Very apt I think!

Sorry about the double posts, MN threw a wobbly this afternoon

Also, if it goes to court and the Judge throws it out as unfair to you, it will cost more money and delay things even more, to have to go back again when its been sorted to SHL and your satisfaction.

She's really got your back @StuckInPollyannaMode.

I can't remember if you've said - did you trade the pensions for something else?

Here you go folks - sorry for the flurry of PMs - I didn’t know you can’t send pictures by message. I’m keeping my eternity band which is half hoop of diamonds and I’ll wear that next to this one

If we ever get to the point of the fucking absolute.

Suddenly feeling very very low. DD1 had her first meltdown in ages this afternoon, then as I was making dinner for us all my hand held blender suddenly made a horrid whirring noise, the blade popped out and gouged a huge strip through the bottom of the pan!! Non stick all through the curry...that was dinner in the bin, along with the frying pan.

Saves on washing up I suppose.

Feeling tearful. Headed to bed. You’re all right, SHL has got my back. I just thought we were done.

That is lovely! (And you have beautiful hands and nails)

What a beautiful ring and a horrible evening. It's no wonder you feel tearful. It's so stressful and you're not even dealing with a reasonable person.

Oh sorry to hear you are feeling low Polly

Hope things seem a bit better in the morning. SHL has got your back and you have lots of support here too!

Love the ring btw, and glad you have treated yourself!

That's a gorgeous ring. And you've had a shitty day, you're allowed to feel miserable. Life just has more ups and downs for you right now, but go with what your SHL advises and it will all settle down in the end. Pans and blenders can be replaced. Ex husbands can and will be left behind. Get a good night's rest, tomorrow is a new day.

What a beautiful ring! Your shl is on your side. Such a relief, I always feel terrible for women here who have found average lawyers who aren’t quite up to the particular job of divorcing their awful husbands.

Hi Polly,
Tomorrow is a new day. Sending you a friendly smile (in case a hug is too familiar!)
and remember, the divorce settlement is not just for you, it is for your DDs futures as well. Fight for them.

That's a beautiful ring Polly. I always find when the meltdowns come out of the blue you suddenly realise that there hasn't been one for a while and for that reason that feel like they knock the stuffing out of you more. When they're regular you get used to dealing. Big hugs. Glad your lawyer is on the ball however tiresome it may seem right now.

Lovely ring and I have to admit that I was worried about you signing something without your lawyer present. Geller is such a toad he will take any deal that suits him. It obviously does!

Your SHL has your back - that’s what you’re paying for Polly!

Gawd. When will these high flying twats stop trying to do a deal over the kitchen table?

(Been there, seen it, got the t shirt... my SHL said ‘NOPE’!)

It is possible to think less of Geller !

He was happy to take a deal so poor for you that the court is unlikely to agree it. Wow!

That tells you something about his feelings for you and your DC...

Money is his true-love after all. Don't forget this and do stay strong.

it was inevitable that if he was happy with it, that it was an unfair deal for you.

Sorry about the dinner/melt down though, did you have emergency fish fingers in the freezer ?

Good luck with your meet with DYD☺️

And ring your SHL so she can talk SH stuff at you😄

Sorry you're having a bad week.
Does SHL think she can get you more?

I'd think carefully if it's worth the fight if you're happy with what you've agreed.

Having said that, I regret not getting all I was entitled to in mine but I didn't have the strength to fight. You only get once chance at this. I didn't have kids then so no need to maintain amicability

My DM got divorced after we left home and at the time pensions were a huge issue so she got very aware about them and got advice from other women in the same position (she's in her late 70s so had almost nothing herself). I got the impression from her that it's really important to make sure that is covered in a divorce.
For my own situation, DH main pension from his previous job is lower if passed on to me as a surviving partner if he pre-deceases me because he's more than 10 years older than me . Seems discriminatory to me.

I HAD SEX!!!

It was AMAZING.

High on life right now.

Oh

My

God

I’ve had shit sex for years and THAT is what I was missing out on?

Wow.

Night folks😂