Would you go on this date? Red flags ?

[walkigonsuncc]

I started talking to a guy a week ago and we have a date arranged tomorrow (meal and drinks)
He has been annoying me past couple of days ..I don't know if I'm just being picky.
Some of the things he has said...

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

Then he went on to say tonight (trying to flirt I think)
What's your plans tomorrow?anything fun(wink face)
So I just replied "washing my hair ha ha"
He replied ...
"Oh you washing that hair to impress me,are you painting your nails too?"

I replied yes ...
Then he replied "are you doing that to impress me"

Then I just mentioned my friend is booked into same restaurant next week and she's asked me to take a couple of pics of the food

He text "oh so your only meeting me to get pics for your friend"
"I bet you will be making a run for it half way through"

Then asking if I'm wearing a dress for him

Is he just too much?
He's irritating me a bit ..
I haven't really dated In years ..is this normal ?

Yuck. He sounds like a disgusting misogynist.

Did you cancel?

Ask him if he's doing his back, sack and crack because you're doing yours.
Then sign off as
Your name (nee Dave).

I was talking to someone online and he called me and sounded really nice. On the lead up to the date he kept saying he loved high heels and he couldn’t wait to see me in my sexy heels. It was so much pressure I cancelled.

How hairy is he that it’s going to need a couple of days to sort his beard out? Does he need a weed whacker? He sounds rather.... inexperienced, tbh.

He hasn't text this morning.
I'm kind of hoping he doesn't text and I don't have to say I can't make it.

When he said he was trimming his beard ..I said I was going to trim mine.
He actually thought I was being serious.

@walkigonsuncc

He hasn't text this morning. I'm kind of hoping he doesn't text and I don't have to say I can't make it.

When he said he was trimming his beard ..I said I was going to trim mine.
He actually thought I was being serious.

Oh just cancel. He's a twat but it's not fair to leave him expecting a date if you don't intend to go

@GentlemanJay, a woman shouldn't meet with a strange man who is pushing boundaries before they meet. It's not safe for women and if you have daughters it's best to encourage them to listen to their instincts

Op, get yourself on the dating threads as it will save you some bad experiences. Have you had a virtual meeting with him?
Dinner and drinks is way too much for a stranger meeting. Always do coffee first.

Your friend is not someone to ask about dating. I am sure she means well and wants you to have a lovely time but she's not giving you good advice. I learned you need to have a cynical/realistic friend for OLD. She isn't your dating wing woman!

On the lead up to the date he kept saying he loved high heels and he couldn’t wait to see me in my sexy heels.

And you learned that the first time someone comes up with this line, you immediately bin, right?

'I love high heels.' 'Go out and buy yourself a pair then.' - block and delete

'I can't wait to see you in your sexy high heels.' 'Going to be waiting a long time then, I don't wear heels and won't be meeting you in this lifetime and hopefully not in any other.' - block and delete

'I like a woman who makes an effort to impress her man.' 'I like a man who's not a sexist, objectifying tosser.' - block and delete

'Will you be wearing a dress for me?' 'No, I'll be blocking and deleting you, for ME.' - block and delete

'Do you want a see a photo of my cock?' 'No.' - block and delete

He sounds stupid and repulsive. How old is this man for goodness sakes?

I do think you should cancel sooner rather than later.

@walkigonsuncc

He hasn't text this morning. I'm kind of hoping he doesn't text and I don't have to say I can't make it.

When he said he was trimming his beard ..I said I was going to trim mine.
He actually thought I was being serious.

FFS! You honestly shouldn't be OLD. Your boundaries are too limp at present. He is not going to cancel! Grow a spine and tell him 'It's a real pity but something's come up and I'm not available to date at present. I need to cancel and can't talk any further. Best of luck to you in the future. Goodbye, walking.'

And you block because he's going to get nasty.

Take yourself off OLD for now and read the section on it here. He should have been binned the second he came out with that gentlemen/woman impress man/looking her best crap.

Yes! Go!

And report back to us

"I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best."

That sounds hard work to me!

I made an effort on dates & at first, but "nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best."-that's not me at all.

RUN!

He sounds like the kind of bloke who would declare love on the first date and be a nightmare to get rid of.

Don't wait for him to text/not text. If you don't want to go, tell him. You don't owe him anything.

Run OP don’t even consider this date.

Massive creepy twat! Dodge.

Lol, can you not go op just to tell us more about what an idiot he is?

Seriously no though. He is objectifying you (hair, nails, dress) for a start and this 'are you doing that to impress me' shit suggests an inflated ego. He sees you as below him and that he's doing you a favour by meeting you, so you're going to have to put in an effort. In summary, he's a dick.

Awful. What a creepy tosser. I’d run a mile.

Give the bloke a chance. It's just some food and drinks. Then make up your mind.

Madness. The guy is only fit for a blow up doll. Not even a sex one. Just a cut price job that he can dress how he believes a woman should look. He can pop a dress on it, a wig with long hair done to his liking. He can go to town on the make-up, nail polish, pop some high heels on it, splash of his fav perfume even. His ideal woman and the only one that would ever put up with this shit.

Oh god. I remember the disappointment of talking to someone I thought was a nice guy online and then the pervy comments start to come out

If he’s giving you the ick I would cancel, nothing worse than two hours of awkwardness with a stranger!

Tell him thanks for the warning and cancel.
I mean, most people do try to impress a date don't they?
But being told to dress up to impress them is a warning.

I'd not even cancel. I'd just not show up and block him.
He's an absolute creep and it might teach him a lesson.

ew christ no

no no no no no no no no noooooooooooooo

Follow your gut instinct Op. I remember back in the day getting lots of messages from a bloke who I’d arranged to see saying “c u sat” .... never met him 🤣

I'd have cancelled it with 'a effort'.