Would you go on this date? Red flags ?

[walkigonsuncc]

I started talking to a guy a week ago and we have a date arranged tomorrow (meal and drinks)
He has been annoying me past couple of days ..I don't know if I'm just being picky.
Some of the things he has said...

I like a woman who makes a effort to impress her man,nice hair,nice nails,always looks her best.
Would you kiss on a first date? Do you think I have nice lips.

Then he went on to say tonight (trying to flirt I think)
What's your plans tomorrow?anything fun(wink face)
So I just replied "washing my hair ha ha"
He replied ...
"Oh you washing that hair to impress me,are you painting your nails too?"

I replied yes ...
Then he replied "are you doing that to impress me"

Then I just mentioned my friend is booked into same restaurant next week and she's asked me to take a couple of pics of the food

He text "oh so your only meeting me to get pics for your friend"
"I bet you will be making a run for it half way through"

Then asking if I'm wearing a dress for him

Is he just too much?
He's irritating me a bit ..
I haven't really dated In years ..is this normal ?

Best case scenario is that he's socially inept and nervous. But he's giving me the I ick just reading his messages

He is 36.
Separated with 2 kids.
I know I shouldn't but I found him on Facebook and he only has 16 friends on there.

He started off sounding like such a nice guy.
How he was a gentleman
Then the conversation got worse.
At first I thought,even if you go and don't like him ..it's a nice night out.

Thinking about it now...I think I'm gonna just order a chinese and watch a film.
Nothing is worse 2 hours of that is it.

Absolutely not! I hate it when men do this. I've blocked many that start talking like this before a date. Puts you off big time!

@scotsllb

And I bet he turns nasty when you cancel as he will be the type that doesn't accept rejection

I agree. Cancel and then block him.

No it's not normal.
No I wouldn't go on the date.
No I wouldn't put up with that level of 1950s chauvinism at all, so no, it wouldn't be worth it even for a night out and a meal.

A man who displays that level of "Me Man, you woman, you do things for Me" bollocks isn't going to be worth it. Unless you're also a 1950s throwback Stepford wife wannabe, that is!

Having said that, I'd have some fun messaging first - ask him what HE is going to do to impress YOU! So far it's all been about him, but he's offered nothing other than his hand to keep you warm (boak!) - ask him if HE is washing his hair, and dressing nicely, and making sure his nails are trimmed and clean - see how that plays out.

Then tell him "that don't impress me much" and bin him off.

One word - yuck.

Reads like he’s a sleazeball.

I think your hair might need washing again.

Any man who says he is a gentleman almost certainly isn't

He told me he has take a days leave today so he can get sharp.
Hair and beard trim

I don't know why he has made it so intense.
Asking me if I'm going to kiss him..well mate no I'm not.
I go with the flow.
No expectations
Your a stranger.

There has to be better out there surely ?

@nolovelost

Absolutely not! I hate it when men do this. I've blocked many that start talking like this before a date. Puts you off big time!

Any guy who tells you he is a gentleman, is not one.

Oops sorry, quoted nolovelost's post t in error

@Beeeeeeeeeeeeeep

Any man who says he is a gentleman almost certainly isn't

100%! Or 'I'm old fashioned' 'I'm one of the good ones' 'I'm old school'. Seriously, up your bar big time. Personally I just stopped bothering to OLD and this was years ago. Too many creeps to bother sorting through.

I'd be tempted to turn up, all dolled up looking fab and then say, " Oh I thought the dressing to impress and looking good to please worked both ways? Sorry pal, I'm out." And walk away.

But we know this guy would get aggressive.

There is definitely better out there.

Any man who tells you he is a gentleman most definitely isn't. It shouldn't need saying. There ARE better ones out there, value your time and don't give him another second of it.

That's probably not his real FB account if only 16 friends.

Also, remember, this initial chatting is him showing you his BEST side, trying to woo you. This is as good as he gets. Ugh.

@walkigonsuncc

He told me he has take a days leave today so he can get sharp. Hair and beard trim

I don't know why he has made it so intense.
Asking me if I'm going to kiss him..well mate no I'm not.
I go with the flow.
No expectations
Your a stranger.

There has to be better out there surely ?

You know why he's told you about the leave? To make you feel bad if you call it off after this date. It's manipulation, pure and simple.

When is this meant to be? Tell him now you've changed your mind then block as he sounds the type that will pester

Gross! Don’t go on the date, ick ick ick.

Why have you not cancelled yet?

If he’s giving you the ick before date one how could it possibly be worth it? End and block before he gets even more unpleasant.

More fool him if he really has used a day of annual leave for a haircut (who does that?).

I’d have asked him if women run out half way through dates on him a lot. Sounds like it’s a distinct possibility.

As long as the nasty little scum doesn’t know where you live have some fun taking the piss out of him before you dump him. I couldn’t resist pulling this bloke’s chain. He really won’t like being laughed at. Only if he can’t track you down though.

@walkigonsuncc

You said you are quite new to this.

May i suggest that you make first dates something easier like a quick coffee?

You can always go on a proper date soon after.

Less effort for you, fewer expectations of getting dressed up, and if you don't like the person you can leave at any time and won't feel you have to sit through dinner.

Good luck with OLD.

No no no. You don't need 7 pages to tell you this is a bad idea. I've been on so many dates and thinking I'd rather be at home with my dog.

Drinks and food do not a nice time make. If the company is shit. And it is, you'll regret it.

If you must go, please make sure you have your get out of jail phone call after 30 mins!