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What age did you meet the love of your life?

242 replies

Herewegoagain22 · 11/04/2021 13:34

I’m 33, had three long term relationships, but never been married or had kids. I would love nothing more than to settle down and find my ‘person’. I’m just out of a relationship where I got very hurt, and I’m taking a lot of time to focus on me and be on my own. But at 33, everyone around me is settling down, buying houses (I already own my own), getting engaged, marrying, announcing pregnancies. I just don’t think it will ever happen for me. I would be lying if I said seeing all this whilst I feel so shit isn’t making me envious, because it is.

What age did you all meet your ‘person’ and settle down? I know I’m only 33 but with everything I’ve gone through in my life I feel about 50.

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Boho7 · 11/04/2021 19:31

19
Were 30 now x

alloverthecarpetagain · 11/04/2021 19:35

@Bluntness100

20.

We’ve have been together 32 years.

To be honest, I’m not remotely romantic and certainty wouldn’t declare him the love of my life, as I find it a bit cringe, but I guess he is. Just I don’t think like that. I love him. He loves me, we’ve been together most of our adult lives. I’m very independent and don’t do soppy shit though. I would say he is “my person “ though.

Similar situation here. Not really a believer in someone being 'the one' but he is the person I'm choosing to share my life with and we are happy. Met when I was 27.
motherofawhirlwind · 11/04/2021 19:37

Met him when I was 18, together since 19 and it's been 26 years. I feel very lucky to have met so young.

alloverthecarpetagain · 11/04/2021 19:37

@bloodywhitecat I'm so sorry to hear that x

MummyBtothree · 11/04/2021 19:41

23! We are still together 20 years down the line, married with three sons

Klarajannsson · 11/04/2021 19:44

Like a PP, I met my DH the week I decided I was happy being on my own and to stop looking.

I know what you mean about everyone seeming settled before you though, and I definitely felt this. But I am early forties, and some of these people are now divorcing. Mr or Right is much more important than Mr When!

Justa47 · 11/04/2021 19:50

@Herewegoagain22

15 and we were apart for 28 years

Whoopsies · 11/04/2021 20:03

I had just turned 21. I had taken a long time to get over my ex (first 'love') but finally felt better and more confident so I decided to try out a one night stand, met a guy in a nightclub and brought him back to mine. We swapped numbers and started messaging and meeting up for sex again...13 years later we are married with 2 kids. I'm still not sure how it happened!!

Milliways · 11/04/2021 20:07

Met at 11, married at 20, 35th anniversary this year.

DenisetheMenace · 11/04/2021 20:08

Week before my 23rd birthday. 56 now. Excellent instinct 😁

Trinacham · 11/04/2021 20:09
  1. I appreciate we are unusual and lucky. That was 11 years ago. Still get the flutters I got in the beginning! Had a couple of wobbly times in those teen years where I never thought we'd survive this long. Can't imagine being without him.
IpanemaChic · 11/04/2021 20:09

27, married with 3 dc 20 years later. He’s definitely my soul mate.

Derrymum123 · 11/04/2021 20:10

23 he was 36. Unfortunately, wrong time in my life. Both married to other people now. Will never love anyone like I loved him. He truly was the one that got away and I miss him daily, more than 30 years on, but will never be together again.

25bucksandacracker · 11/04/2021 20:15

@Herewegoagain22 I met my partner 3 days before my 36th birthday. On my 35th I had cried in the toilets at work in despair at being single. Now pregnant and we're house hunting. Don't give up hope!! I kissed a LOT of frogs...

Desolate2nite · 11/04/2021 20:16

Still waiting at 54

Untrained · 11/04/2021 20:17

I was 17 (and a half!) He was my first 'proper' boyfriend. We were together nearly 23 years until his death. The thought of having a relationship/being intimate with anyone else makes me feel physically ill. He was my first and will be my last.

snowone · 11/04/2021 20:33

16 but we actually didn't start dating properly until we were 29. Been together 10 years, married 5 now 😊

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 11/04/2021 20:35
  1. We were engaged after 5 months and got married 18 months later. That was 20 years ago.
Biscuitsanddoombar · 11/04/2021 20:37

29, been together 21 years and married 18

MrsPsmalls · 11/04/2021 20:38

'The love of your life' What absolute bollocks. There is no love of anyone's life. Do you think its written in the stars?? The 'one' is nonsense. Come on people, why do we try to sell each other this romantic claptrap. You meet someone. You get on with them. They like you back or they don't. You make a good choice or you don't. Life goes on. We are not special. Our partners are not special. Our lovelives are not special.

Ninkanink · 11/04/2021 20:38
Mystraightenersarebroken · 11/04/2021 20:42
  1. After two mainly unhappy marriages. I am very thankful to have found him
Karmatime · 11/04/2021 20:44

51, I’d been married, divorced for 12 years and was absolutely not looking for anything serious. I loved my single life, but I love him more.

Hopeishere52 · 11/04/2021 20:45

34

Mystraightenersarebroken · 11/04/2021 20:46

Before we got together I would have said I didn't believe in 'the love of your life'. I still don't believe in 'THE one' but he's one of the ones.