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What age did you meet the love of your life?

242 replies

Herewegoagain22 · 11/04/2021 13:34

I’m 33, had three long term relationships, but never been married or had kids. I would love nothing more than to settle down and find my ‘person’. I’m just out of a relationship where I got very hurt, and I’m taking a lot of time to focus on me and be on my own. But at 33, everyone around me is settling down, buying houses (I already own my own), getting engaged, marrying, announcing pregnancies. I just don’t think it will ever happen for me. I would be lying if I said seeing all this whilst I feel so shit isn’t making me envious, because it is.

What age did you all meet your ‘person’ and settle down? I know I’m only 33 but with everything I’ve gone through in my life I feel about 50.

OP posts:
Tibtab · 12/04/2021 19:03

I was 16, he was 17, we’ve been together ever since and never come close to breaking up. We’re now in our mid thirties, married with 1 DD and another on the way.

RaininSummer · 12/04/2021 19:04
  1. Not yet.
Treacletoots · 12/04/2021 19:24

Met mine at 36 after divorcing the exH at age 33.

Have fun, enjoy yourself and above all, don't look too hard for a relationship, until you're genuinely happy in yourself being single. When you're ready, one will appear.

ZednotZee · 12/04/2021 19:31

28, a year after separating from my exDH

OneMillionSteps · 12/04/2021 19:34

41

Pebbledashery · 12/04/2021 19:44

Another singleton here and a very happy one. Been in two LTRs and the last one was horrifically abusive, I thought he was the love of my life.. But it was fear.
I built myself up from scratch, new house, new job, focused on being a good mum to my little girl.. Now I'm not sure any man is worth inviting into our lives and disrupting what we have..

frozendaisy · 13/04/2021 09:39

31

Giggorata · 13/04/2021 10:21

We got together in our late twenties.

mug2018 · 13/04/2021 11:00

You will meet the right person at the right time.
Focus on yourself & what makes you happy as it's your own self that brings happiness & meeting the right person just adds to the sense of completeness
I meet my true love at 50 - 2 years after leaving a 16 year abusive marriage. I felt unlovable: 50, divorced, single mum with no self confidence .. who would love me? So I focused on making a new life for myself & embraced the freedom of friends & family & then, totally unexpectedly, I met him.
Believe in love. It will happen when you're ready.
Good luck xxx

flametrees · 13/04/2021 11:03

28

ViolaFields · 13/04/2021 11:15

17

married at 19

been together 34 years

weegiemum · 13/04/2021 11:31

I was 18, 19 when we got together. We were both 24 when we married and have been married 26 years. Still know he's the One.

again2020 · 13/04/2021 12:06

I met my partner at 27 and we had good times and a lot of fun but he isn't the love of my life. I don't think I'm his either. Nearly 9 years later we are still together, not married but with one DD. He proposed out of the blue and 6 weeks later I got pregnant by chance. I adore DD to the moon and back, but I think without her we may have split up.

I like the stories about meeting the right one in later life, and hope it will happen for me. Probably sounds really selfish Blush..sometimes life doesn't turn out as you expect, but sometimes it gives you wonderful suprises.

cookiecreampie · 13/04/2021 13:41
  1. I had 3 kids already and a failed relationship behind me. Knew as soon as I met him he was the one for me. Married now with another DC.
cookiecreampie · 13/04/2021 13:43

Actually, I was 28.

Diamondnights · 13/04/2021 19:05
Crazycrazylady · 13/04/2021 19:12

Just remember op as well that if it got out at work that you approached your colleague about this issue, it would look really really bad for you ie that you were encouraging people to do less so not to show you up. Like the old sketch of the council worker being given out for working too fast and showing up his colleagues .

Crazycrazylady · 13/04/2021 19:13

Sorry op .. wrong thread

HomicidalPsychoJungleCat · 13/04/2021 19:32

I thought i had, it lasted 20 years. Last 3 I was unhappy. Ive now been in a new relationship for a year and recognise there might well be several loves of my life at different times. Im not sure there isjust one for anyone.

HairboStrawb · 13/04/2021 19:35

15 - been together 11 years, just buying our second house, soon to be married and have DS.

A2BviaCandD · 13/04/2021 19:39
  1. Been together half of our lives.
JillyWillyPops · 13/04/2021 19:47

I'm 41 and still waiting to find him!!
I've had 3 long term relationships where I think that he's 'the one' but it never seems to be. I'm still in the 3rd long term, been together 2 and a half years but don't feel like he's 'the one' if you know what I mean.
It's always a case if I give all that I have but never seem to receive.
I did enjoy the 3 years that I was single so maybe that is the way forward, maybe I am my 'one' 😂

nuggles · 13/04/2021 19:51

28, he was 30. Been together 12 years with 3 DC

NickMarlow · 13/04/2021 19:54

I met dh first week of uni, we got together just before he graduated 3 years later.
Also know the most lovely couple who got married when he was 70 and she was 50. First time for both of them, been married nearly 30 years....

TRC11 · 13/04/2021 21:24

39, baby at 44