What age did you meet the love of your life?

[Herewegoagain22]

I’m 33, had three long term relationships, but never been married or had kids. I would love nothing more than to settle down and find my ‘person’. I’m just out of a relationship where I got very hurt, and I’m taking a lot of time to focus on me and be on my own. But at 33, everyone around me is settling down, buying houses (I already own my own), getting engaged, marrying, announcing pregnancies. I just don’t think it will ever happen for me. I would be lying if I said seeing all this whilst I feel so shit isn’t making me envious, because it is.

What age did you all meet your ‘person’ and settle down? I know I’m only 33 but with everything I’ve gone through in my life I feel about 50.

I don't think I have. If I was to find myself single, I'm going to stay that way.

24 - I'd only had one relationship before then.

37 after a failed marriage and a 2 year relationship with a manchild. I sometimes feel like I wasted so many years when I could have been travelling and pleasing myself. But I'm finally, genuinely happy x

I'm 35 and still haven't. I honestly think obsessing about age and fertility is the main reason. Instead of just chilling out and enjoying life, I started worrying from about 29, thinking I'd need to meet someone in the next few years to date a while, get married and have kids by 35. which isn't exactly unreasonable, given that I have literally grown up with having it shoved down my throat that you absolutely have to have kids by 35 or it's too late, and that meeting someone gets really hard the further into your thirties you get.

My obsession with this led me to make some poor decisions and to stay with unsuitable men way longer than I should have because of sunk cost fallacy ('I've wasted two years with him now, I don't want to throw it all away') and of course was happened was that I ended up exactly where I was so worried about being...35 and single. I look back now at photos of myself aged 31 and wonder what on earth I was worried about. I looked so young, fit, had so many options, 31 is no age at all, but I just couldn't see it at the time. It didn't help that I didn't make loads of money, so any hope of ever being able to buy a property was going to need a second income, and that further fuelled my stress.

I advise you OP to just put the age thing out of your head. All it does is make you think in a really unhelpful way. Who really cares what age other women on this thread met their partners? It's not going to help you in any way. I'm trying to totally reframe my thinking and focus on myself more, looking and feeling as good as I can and just enjoy meeting new people. Focusing on my age has never brought anything good.

I was 21 and DH was 19.

We've been together 28 years now.

We were quite young in my opinion now but it's always just seemed right and I have no regrets at all. I like the fact that we share so many memories together. We can reminisce about a holiday we had 25 years ago and both know exactly what the other is talking about.

18, we have been married 13 years together 19 years. 2 kids, a mortgage, pets the whole lot. If for any reason K found myself single I wouldn't be on the look out for another partner I wasnt even looking for this one!

Well I can't say he's 'the one' because ultimately I won't know that until my death bed, but after several 'serious' relationships of varying lengths and one short lived and awful marriage I met my DP when I was 36 and we just slotted together like jigsaw pieces, nothing has even been easier or as uncomplicated. Within about a month of meeting I couldn't remember not knowing him.

Never I'm 50 and have two children.... I would say they are the loves of my life 😃

At 17 (him 18). I'll be 29 in a month's time and everything is still just as perfect as when we first got together. Add in more positives; we own our forever home, we're engaged (my choice to wait to marry as I want all of our children to be part of it too), we have a 3yr old son, 19 month old daughter and I'm just over 2 weeks away from the due date of our 3rd baby. I can honestly say in the time we've been together I've never had a dull or unhappy moment and I've definitely found "my person".

28 and a half 😁

I came out of an abusive relationship just after my 28th birthday. He was the devil. Then after a 6 month healing period I went out on a sort-of date with a friend. Three and a bit years later we are living together, engaged and baby due in 4 weeks.

40 and still waiting.

That's a lovely story @BlueLobelia I think that kind of love is rare, lucky you

15, and him 17. We were always getting together and breaking up and eventually decided to call it a day when I was 21. 2 years later we got back together, stopped with the making up and breaking up, and have been happily married now for 13 years.

I’m 31 and think I found him but he got away. Either way I’m still looking sadly.

I was 21 and a single parent. Im 50 now and DP (nup, never married and we are very happy, been through some very difficult times. I couldn't imagine ever being with anyone else and consider myself very lucky. We have a dd together also.

BUT i sort of wish id met him a little later and did more independently if that makes sense. He is definitely the one though. I never really did the single independent life which is a bit scary really.

18

Early fifties and like other people after being married to the wrong person for nearly twenty years. Dragged myself out of that marriage, got into therapy and after several years on my own was ready to make a good choice for once in my life. I wish I had met him in my twenties/thirties and had children with him.

Aged 13
Aged 29
Aged 48

Last one is the best

38 the only man I could see myself with long term. Had dd at 40 and married at 45. Now 47 and feel content.

I met DH when I was 34.

I was 54, we get married next month (I am now 57) but sadly it is likely to be short lived and I will be widowed within the year.

33

After One failed married and two long term relationships

Couldn't be happier, totally worth the wait and expecting dc1 with the right man

@bloodywhitecat I'm so sorry

41, after seven happily single years.

My grandma met her true love at 72 and married him at 74, when he was 81. It's never too late to meet someone :-)

That's sad, @bloodywhitecat - hope you can really savour the time you have.