Who does what in your house?

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I've had this chat many times with friends and i'm really intersted to get a wider picture. Who does the folowing in your house if you're a SAHM?

1. cooking
2. cleaning
3. ironing
4. hoovering

5 food shopping

1. gardening
2. changing beds/towels, etc
3. washing

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . 11. DIY In my house: 1 - me, 2 - me, 3 - dh, 4 - dh (mostly) 5 - me - 6 - dh 7 - both 8 - both (dh more) 9 - dh, 10 - me, 11 - dh

1. cooking - DH
2. cleaning - BOTH
3. ironing - DH
4. hoovering - DH (I sweep the laminate)

5 food shopping - EITHER

1. gardening - DH
2. changing beds/towels, etc - BOTH
3. washing - BOTH

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - DH 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - ME 11. DIY - my dad!!!

DH is not working at the moment though and I am 37+5 weeks pg!

Cooking - both of us
Cleaning - both of us
Ironing - tends to be me, although occasionally DH will do it
Hoovering - me (I like it!)
Food shopping - both of us
Gardening - the gardener!
Changing sheets and towels - me (DH is grubby and would use the same towel for a month without washing it)
Washing - both of us
Putting out rubbish etc - DH
Arranging things - both of us
DIY - we're both shite, so we get outside help

Weird I was thinking of starting a thread like this today!

1. cooking ME
2. cleaning BOTH
3. ironing NEITHER! (oh dh does his shirts)
4. hoovering DH

5 food shopping ME

1. gardening DON'T DO ANY
2. changing beds/towels, etc ME
3. washing ME

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling ME 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . ME 11. DIY DH

What about the financial stuff? Can we add that? I do it all. .

dh washes dishes, sorts most of the rubbish, does half ironing, half+ gardening, some cleaning, some hoovering.

We both avoid diy as we accept we are crap at it.

yes, we can add that! i do that too

I work 3 days so not a full time SAHM. But the division of tasks is the same as when I was at home full time.

1. cooking - both (usually together)
2. cleaning - the cleaner, but DH packs and unpacks the dishwasher
3. ironing - DH does his work shirts, I do mine, everything else is crumpled!
4. hoovering - cleaner

5 food shopping - always me, via Ocado

1. gardening - both (usually together)
2. changing beds/towels, etc - we do the beds together
3. washing - both, but I do it more often

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - DH 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc - both, but I do more 11. DIY - DH

1. cooking - during week me, w/e both
2. cleaning - during week me, w/e both
3. ironing - contracted out
4. hoovering - during week me, w/e both

5 food shopping - during week me, w/e both

1. gardening - both
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me
3. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - both/me 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . me (although dh does arrange some social stuff but has to check with me mostly) 11. DIY - DH although contract most of it out 12. Financial stuff - me

DH leaves home at 7.30am ish and gets home 10pm or later so hence the division as to week days/ weekends. We're currently having a lot of work done and then plan to get a cleaner to do cleaning and hoovering and ironing (although ironing goes out at the moment).

1. cooking ME
2. cleaning MOSTLY DH, BUT I DO THE KITCHEN
3. ironing MOSTLY DH
4. hoovering DH

5 food shopping ME

1. gardening HAHAHAHA
2. changing beds/towels, etc
3. washing EITHER

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling DH 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . ME 11. DIY HAHAHAHA

i do all of those
plus looking after all of our animals.
sometimes my dad helps with number 11, depending on if it's minor or major.

I am going to show this to him, as when i ask him to help, he usually says " can't you. i've been at work all day!"
in his defence he does work long hours, and it is hard physical work - he is a dairy farmer - but actually reading through a list and realising that he does none of it......

1. cooking - me apart from sunday lunch which dh does
2. cleaning - both
3. ironing - me
4. hoovering - me mainly

5 food shopping - me but dh does at weekends

1. gardening - dh
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me
3. washing - me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - I put rubbish our and dh does recycling 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - both 11. DIY - dh mainly

i do have to confess that i do practically no gardening and i hate ironing so only do what's really necessary,

1. cooking

Mostly me

1. cleaning

Daily stuff - au pair; weekend blitz - 60% me, 40% DH.

1. ironing

Me

1. hoovering

Roomba, and then all of us (kids included)

5 food shopping

Me - may send kids to the supermarket with a list though

1. gardening

Mostly DH

1. changing beds/towels, etc

DH and me equally

1. washing

DH, me, older kids

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling

DH, me equally

10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc .

Me, forgetfully

11. DIY

DH

1. cooking - me children, dh us
2. cleaning - me and the cleaner, unless I ask dh
3. ironing - dh
4. hoovering- me and cleaner

5 food shopping - me on internet

1. gardening - beither of us
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me unless I tell dh
3. washing - me unless I tell dh

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - both of us when bin is full 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist -appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc - me. 11. DIY - neither of us. 12 financial stuff -me

Basically dh does do stuff, but just doesn't seem to notice when it needs doing. I was going to experiment this w/e and not tell him things needed doing and wait and see, but I couldn't risk the mess/lack of clean clothes etc

1. cooking mostly me but DH Will When I ask him too.
2. cleaning as above
3. ironing DH does it all
4. hoovering both

5 food shopping mostly me

1. gardening mostly DH but I will when time
2. changing beds/towels, etc both
3. washing me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling both 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc .me, not that we have a social life 11. DIY mostly DH

1. cooking - ME
2. cleaning - mostly ME, some DH
3. ironing - DH
4. hoovering - mostly ME, some DH, some DC

5 food shopping - ME

1. gardening - mostly DH
2. changing beds/towels, etc - ME
3. washing - mostly ME, some DH

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - ALL, mostly oldest DS-11 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . ME 11. DIY - mostly DH, some ME

1. cooking - mostly me but dp helps
2. cleaning - joint
3. ironing - hardly ever iron, when we do it is dp
4. hoovering - dp

5 food shopping - me with help from dp

1. gardening - dp with help from me
2. changing beds/towels, etc - usually me, not always
3. washing - joint

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - dp 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc .- me 11. DIY - no-one

you forgot present buying! - me

i work eveings, so am SAHM in the day IYSWIM, but then dh is SAHD in the evenings, so most things tend to be 'both.'

1. cooking - both, but he does weekday tea times, i'm at work
2. cleaning - me
3. ironing - no one, but he does his work shirts
4. hoovering - both

5 food shopping - me

1. gardening - PIL!
2. changing beds/towels, etc - me
3. washing - joint, but mostly him

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - both 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc .- me 11. DIY - him

So in my case DH is the SAHD mostly so might be interesting to see how it gets split compared to sahms...

1. cooking - Both (I make lunch, he makes tea, because I work evenings)
2. cleaning - Him
3. ironing - both, as and when required
4. hoovering - Him

5 food shopping - both, he does big shops, I pick up extras on way home from work

1. gardening - Me
2. changing beds/towels, etc - Him
3. washing - Both

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - Him 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - Him 11. DIY - Him

apart from gardening and cooking, which i do mainly i do everything else. I am a sahm but find i'm very tired and should do less and do more jobs with dh, esp after reading this!

1. cooking - Mainly me, because i'm better at it, and often enjoy it.
2. cleaning - Both
3. ironing - Rarely done, but me if we do.
4. hoovering - Him mostly.

5 food shopping - Both, but he also always checks if we need anything when he's on his way home.

1. gardening - Me, as i enjoy it and he's not bothered what garden looks like.
2. changing beds/towels, etc - Me
3. washing - Me

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - Both 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . - Mostly me. 11. DIY - Him, as i am useless at it.

dh does do DIY, wouldn't attempt that

1. cooking - Me, DH would if he was here
2. cleaning - Both
3. ironing - Both
4. hoovering - Both

5 food shopping - ME

1. gardening - gardening what's that??? - both of us when we get round to it LOL
2. changing beds/towels, etc - towels him, beds me
3. washing - BOTH

9 putting out rubbish/sorting recycling - BOTH 10. arranging things. eg docs/dentist appts. social stuff, babysitters, etc . BOTH 11. DIY - BOTH

me = all
except

1. dh does some of the cooking
2. I do gardening, but dh cuts the grass
3. diy

I do everything!

Thats it.

He works and hands me money to allocate where it needs to go.

Thats it.

He washied the floor today after a drink got spilt, its sticky all over where he just spread it around. A typical example of how handy he is.

He is a builder though and very very talented at any type of construction or diy. But getting him to do anything here for me is just not going to happen.