Cheated for 2 years now he’s madly in love with me

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So about 4 years ago I went out with this guy for 2 years and he cheated on me for the whole 2 years I was with him, start to finish.

I would find him asking 20 + girls to meet up for sex and he even took a girl on a date and he would send girls the same nudes he’d send me. He really didn’t care about me finding out but I caught him on many occasions by going into his phone but I decided to stay..

I eventually left him. And we stopped speaking for a year and then got back in contact. We’ve had sex a few times and I’ve allowed him to stop at my flat aswell. I do not want a relationship with him, I am no longer attracted to him and there’s just no spark, we’re very opposite.

He sends me gifts, writes me paragraphs on how much he loves me and how I make him the happiest man ever. How he can’t live without me etc and has been doing this for the past year. He says our year of not speaking made him realise how much he loves me.. he talks about having kids with me and how he has never thought like that about any other girl, he says he wants to marry me. I could go on and on..

He seems to have changed, but I just don’t feel the same way about him the way he does for me..

And he doesn’t just wana be friends

He used to also treat me as his trophy girl back when we used to date, telling me to wear certain clothes etc etc.

The thing is I feel pressured into being with him, and I need to give him my final decision soon. I don’t want to break his heart or hurt him. I’m 22 and he’s 27.

What do I do???

He loves the thrill of the chase, as soon as he realised you had lost interest he became interested in you again. When he knows he has caught you this time OP he will lose interest and be chasing other women. That’s who he is.

You say you don’t want to hurt him. What is wrong with you? Do you really want to waste years on this cheating loser?

[quote 98xox]@ohfourfoxache I feel like I’m letting him down. He tries to include me in his future so much like him getting his own flat so we can spend more time together, me and him travelling 😭[/quote]
This is such bullshit.

Also, in your opening post "I need to give him my final decision soon" - do you fuck! He's not the boss of you ffs.

He is a cheat and an arsehole

As if that's not enough you've also said that you're just not that into him.

So what exactly is the dilemma??

Move on, don't waste any more time on this.

Eugh, he is guilting you in to ignoring his cheating.

If you'd cheated with 20 plus people, would he be guilted in to over lookign that?

I’m confused, you don’t fancy him and he cheated on you for 2 years, what are you thinking?!