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Gf touched guy friend arm

90 replies

Notquitethere01 · 04/04/2021 22:17

Met my gf friends. She has a good few guy friends. We met up with one who's a good friend of hers and another guy and girl I noticed that my gf touched the arm of this guy when they were chatting. Kind of alarmed me. She has said she always used to be a flirty type of person but now she's met me she has zero interest. Should I be worried about the arm touch or am i over thinking? She has known him a good few years. Alot longer than I have been with her. We met today for the first time as she introduced me to her friends

OP posts:
ij96 · 04/04/2021 22:21

Rather concerning that you're so bothered by her touching someone's arm. 🤔

indemMUND · 04/04/2021 22:22

You're this bothered because she touched another guys arm? The issue is yours and speaks volumes.

elsaesmeralda · 04/04/2021 22:22

An arm touch, really ? 🙄

Iggly · 04/04/2021 22:22

I would touch my friends’ arm - covid has put paid to that obviously.

So not sure what’s the issue

Wanderlusto · 04/04/2021 22:22

Lol are you serious?
So you'd never have a girl mate that you'd touch to show affection? Or hug?

If this isn't a joke post then I'm.assuming you're a young lad but it is perfectly normal for friends to touch each others arms sometimes.

As long as she isn't putting a hand on his crotch, it's all good.

Take a chill pill lol

Luzina · 04/04/2021 22:23

Huh? She touched his arm and you’re worried? Sorry, I don’t understand what the issue is

MadMadMadamMim · 04/04/2021 22:24

Really overthinking.

If I were her and you mentioned this to me I'd immediately dump you. It's someone she's known for years. You don't get to arbitrate on her behaviour.

Massive red flags for me on your behaviour, frankly. Are you always this jealous?

AutoIncorrect · 04/04/2021 22:24

I’d worry more about why you’re so jealous/suspicious, this is your problem. Don’t make it hers.

imalmostthere · 04/04/2021 22:24

Yeah you really need help if you are this concerned over her touching someone's arm. You sound horrifically controlling.

daisypond · 04/04/2021 22:25

Eh? What’s the problem here? It’s not her, it’s you.

LawnFever · 04/04/2021 22:25

You sound a bit unhinged, you’re actually upset because she touched someone’s arm? Are you usually so overly possessive?

RandomMess · 04/04/2021 22:25
Confused

I hug my male friends (in non Covid times)

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 04/04/2021 22:26

Unless arm is a euphemism for cock I'm failing to see the issue Confused

AnyFucker · 04/04/2021 22:27

Oh fgs, try harder

Saltyslug · 04/04/2021 22:27

I touch my friends arms when chatting sometimes.

ilovesooty · 04/04/2021 22:28

I'd be dumping you. Forthwith.

Springb0ks · 04/04/2021 22:29

One of my best friends is a guy. We hug hello/ goodbye and he is just the best. My husband has never, ever been threatened by this and enjoys his company just as much as me. This is a non issue.

HollowTalk · 04/04/2021 22:31

His arm or his arse?

Sally872 · 04/04/2021 22:31

Arm touch is fine. Also she has known him a while if they wanted to be together it would have happened before now.

Massive overreaction to be concerned, you should work on that. Hopefully you can become more secure. Flowers

SpookySonne · 04/04/2021 22:31

Oh no! Not an arm! Get a grip.

titchy · 04/04/2021 22:33

Maybe arm's a euphemism for cock?

AramintaLee · 04/04/2021 22:36

OP you are either very insecure, very young or this is a wind up.

Chloemol · 04/04/2021 22:49

You need to grow up

Itsokthanks · 04/04/2021 22:52

You don't need to worry but I think she does.

Onjnmoeiejducwoapy · 04/04/2021 22:54

If this was 1821–that wench will never find a husband with her sluttish ways!

2021—what the hell are you thinking?