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Gf touched guy friend arm

90 replies

Notquitethere01 · 04/04/2021 22:17

Met my gf friends. She has a good few guy friends. We met up with one who's a good friend of hers and another guy and girl I noticed that my gf touched the arm of this guy when they were chatting. Kind of alarmed me. She has said she always used to be a flirty type of person but now she's met me she has zero interest. Should I be worried about the arm touch or am i over thinking? She has known him a good few years. Alot longer than I have been with her. We met today for the first time as she introduced me to her friends

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StrapOnSallyChasedMeDownTheAli · 05/04/2021 08:27

Did she touch your arm afterwards? You might want to get checked out.

Run lady, run!

elfycat · 05/04/2021 08:29

I have 2 close male friends from school. One of them is also an ex-boyfriend (we dated for 6 years). I hug them when we meet - proper bear hugs.

They are our DC's Godparents - DH's choice.

You either trust her, or you don't. If you don't? Please leave and let her find someone better.

Moondust001 · 05/04/2021 08:29

I hope this is trolling, but if not, do your girlfriend a favour and dump her. She deserves better.

TwinklyTits · 05/04/2021 08:45

LTB
An arm one day, cock the next

TwinklyTits · 05/04/2021 08:46
Biscuit
Vetyveriohohoh · 05/04/2021 08:49

Arm or penis?

You need to seriously think about what this says about you

ThrowingAShellstrop · 05/04/2021 08:59

The red flags are on you mate.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/04/2021 09:02

What??
Oh yes, she’s tots into him. Ffs.

StrapOnSallyChasedMeDownTheAli · 05/04/2021 09:16

After reading your previous posts, it's definitely you with the issues, OP Confused

trevthecat · 05/04/2021 09:25

My friends, hairdressers, dog walkers, cousin got pregnant from arm touching. Get out now whilst you can

KenAddams · 05/04/2021 09:31

Ltb

ladymuck111 · 05/04/2021 09:32

As long as she's touching his arm and not anything further south I don't think you have anything to worry over.

sashh · 05/04/2021 09:32

Oh no, not the arm.

Does she wear patent shoes too? The complete hussy.

Quick build a tower with no door to put her in so she can't have a normal life.

Atalune · 05/04/2021 09:34

arm touching is a gateway to sex behind the dustbins in the pub car park.

You’ve done well to spot this slattern now. Take her to church to heal thine ways

IslaMann · 05/04/2021 09:34

Please show your GF this thread. I have a message for her.

Dear GF- run. Run fast. This guy will make your life a living misery. He's controlling, jealous and frankly way to immature for any sort of relationship.

Starlia · 05/04/2021 09:42

I mean this in the kindest possible way OP: you need counselling. Getting help will assist you to understand why you are so threatened by your GF touching someone else's arm or hugging someone.
Controlling somebody is actually a crime in some jurisdictions. You need to get on top of this before you become a DV offender.
You need immediate help. And your girlfriend needs to be free of you for now. This is no way for her to live.

Reassuranceneeded14 · 05/04/2021 10:09

You‘ve just given me the ick, and I’m not even with you. I couldn’t imagine someone being so controlling and concerned over your OH touching someone’s arm. Absolutely bonkers!

Carbara · 05/04/2021 17:29

Looking at your other threads, have you tried not being a total shitshow? Don’t have a girlfriend at all.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 05/04/2021 17:34

Looked at your other threads.

You need to have some counselling before being in a relationship.

That isn't saying you're a terrible person, it's saying you are not at all in a healthy mindset for a relationship.

You're either continually choosing to engage in incredibly unhealthy dynamics or you enjoy the drama of volatile / angst ridden dynamics on some level. It may not even be conscious.

But relationships aren't supposed to be like this. Constant agonising over meanings and motives - you've been at this for ages and it's not working.

Are you not willing to have some counselling so that you can have healthy relationships at some point?

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 05/04/2021 17:34
Hmm
DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 05/04/2021 17:40

The arm bone's connected to the shoulder bone.

The shoulder bone's connected to the neck bone.

The neck bone's connected to the back bone.

The back bone's connected to the pelvic bone.

The pelvic bone is practically the home to the willy.

She basically wanked him off in front of you.

Ltb.

NoLactose · 05/04/2021 19:21
Biscuit
Mylovelyhorsee · 05/04/2021 21:06

Have you told the church elders!?

canigooutyet · 05/04/2021 21:09

She touched another persons arm and you are pissed off? Could understand if she touched another mans cock whilst in a relationship. But an arm?

Do the woman (not a fucking girl) a favour and end this relationship and go and get some help with your insecurities,.

Itsseweasy · 06/04/2021 13:52

Well, yeah it would bother me as we’re meant to be social distancing are we not?
But aside from that - no, it absolutely wouldn’t bother me (though it would have done when I was in my first relationship aged 15).