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Gf touched guy friend arm

90 replies

Notquitethere01 · 04/04/2021 22:17

Met my gf friends. She has a good few guy friends. We met up with one who's a good friend of hers and another guy and girl I noticed that my gf touched the arm of this guy when they were chatting. Kind of alarmed me. She has said she always used to be a flirty type of person but now she's met me she has zero interest. Should I be worried about the arm touch or am i over thinking? She has known him a good few years. Alot longer than I have been with her. We met today for the first time as she introduced me to her friends

OP posts:
FlashesOfRage · 06/04/2021 13:56

Half term can get boring

CodMouth · 06/04/2021 13:58

Was his big flaccid penis draped down his arm?

OysterMonkey · 06/04/2021 14:07

😱😱😱😱 OMG SHE TOUCHED HIS ARM 😱😱😱😱
Seriously dude. Get a fucking grip.
And get some therapy on how to have mature, healthy, respectful relationships. Pronto.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 06/04/2021 14:32

OP has made the opening post, and then run off. I think he's stopped reading.

Worriesome · 06/04/2021 14:56

@Notquitethere01 - I don’t know why everyone is jumping down your throat on this one. I can see why you’re uncomfortable about the arm touching because it probably made you feel uncomfortable and it’s hard to put that across to people on a forum who weren’t there when it happened. You know your Girlfriend and you know if she was being flirty or just plain friendly. Go with your gut x

meanwhilebacktobasics · 06/04/2021 14:57

Oh you remind me of my ex..yes that is ex OP. Have you told her you " trust her but not everyone else " yet?? Classic controlling and jealous behaviour. I saw your other thread too. You do know that you will drive her away with this..hope she doesn't stay as long as I did. Might sound Harsh but it makes for an abusive relationship for the one on the receiving end and she will realise that reassuring you will never be enough.

OldEvilOwl · 06/04/2021 15:35

Your being ridiculous

CloudFormations · 06/04/2021 15:37

You’re massively overreacting. You need to work on your jealousy!

BeagleEagle · 06/04/2021 15:42

@Notquitethere01

Met my gf friends. She has a good few guy friends. We met up with one who's a good friend of hers and another guy and girl I noticed that my gf touched the arm of this guy when they were chatting. Kind of alarmed me. She has said she always used to be a flirty type of person but now she's met me she has zero interest. Should I be worried about the arm touch or am i over thinking? She has known him a good few years. Alot longer than I have been with her. We met today for the first time as she introduced me to her friends
Unless it's his third arm, chill
allmycats · 06/04/2021 15:47

You need to back off. If I was your GF I would be moving on.

Opaljewel · 06/04/2021 15:56

Sorry but grow up.

PinotPony · 06/04/2021 16:01

From your other posts, we can see that you're late 20s, been with this woman several months and you don't like her getting messages from guys, touching their arms, or voicing her emotions.

Either this is a wind up or you lack the maturity to be in a relationship. Your jealousy and overthinking are going to ruin your relationship... and probably future relationships... unless you work on your own issues around insecurity.

BilboBercow · 06/04/2021 16:03

Low effort op

MotherOfDragons27 · 06/04/2021 16:32

You say she used to be flirty but since she met you she has no interest. Judging by your past posts what you really mean is that she is scared to be herself and has stopped being herself since being with you for fear of being accused of cheating on you. Honestly the best thing you could do for this woman is to leave her. You need help to deal with your insecurities and jealousy issues before you should be in a relationship with anyone.

BeagleEagle · 06/04/2021 17:08

@MotherOfDragons27

You say she used to be flirty but since she met you she has no interest. Judging by your past posts what you really mean is that she is scared to be herself and has stopped being herself since being with you for fear of being accused of cheating on you. Honestly the best thing you could do for this woman is to leave her. You need help to deal with your insecurities and jealousy issues before you should be in a relationship with anyone.
I have a friend who flirts with everyone - we say she'd flirt with a cat. In fact I'm pretty sure she does. It's no worry to anyone because she's just got that kind of presence, and she means no malice. Any guy she's with knows this about her going in and doesn't try to control it. I wonder if this is the kind of situation that's unfolding?
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