DH masturbating after sex. Male advice welcome!

[HermionePotter123]

NC for this for obvious reasons. Just to start off I have no issues with my DH masturbating providing it doesn't replace our sex life (at one point he basically was replacing sex with masturbation but after a frank chat we got things back on track). Anyway, DH isn't the most discreet of men and would often leave 'used' boxers/socks etc lying around. We share the laundry 50/50 but he's currently on a set of night shifts so I tend to do the housework when he's working nights (plus I'm still on maternity so I've more free time). Anyway, I've noticed that DH has a habit of seeing to himself later in the day after we've DTD. We had sex this morning then when I was tidying up this evening I noticed a badly hidden sock sticking out from under the bed which he'd obviously used. Normally I'd roll my eyes and get on with it, but it got me thinking there does seem to be a pattern of him doing it a few hours after sex. My minds now in overdrive thinking do I not satisfy him? Or could it be a case of sex making him more horny? Like I said, as long as our sex life is good I've no issue with masturbation/porn but it's just the way it always seems to be after we have sex that makes me wonder if he doesn't feel it's satisfactory enough. Obviously I can't ask him as he'd be mortified and I know it's none of my business really. But just curious to here other poster POV.

@coronaway

I don't understand the whole men and the sock thing, can anyone explain? Surely a tissue is more practical and hygienic.

Socks are to hand and easy to use. Tissues stick to them and come off in bits.

To OP, maybe he had a higher sex drive and needs another release later after sex. Maybe he is still thinking of the sex and becomes horny again. If you are up for it a few hours later then let him know and you both get another orgasm? Or maybe it's when you are asleep and he doesn't want to wake you?

Have a chat.

I second porn addiction. Ugh.

I have a high sex drive and although female I find that the more I have sex the more I want it. So I masturbate during the day sometimes thinking of when he was with me earlier - maybe similar. Sex and masturbation are perfectly normal. I do think he should clear his own mess up though

Why does he need to wank into a sock??

For heaven’s sake, the pussy-footing around.

He’s wanking into socks and leaving them on the floor. He doesn’t care that you know. He expects you to pick up his wank-filled socks.

Don’t try to say he doesn’t, because he could wank into a tissue. Or, if the sock is part of the fun he could NOT throw the wanky sock on the floor for you to deal with afterwards.

What a grim weirdo he is.

I mean, unless you forgot to tell us that he’s 14, or something?? And then it would be less him that’s the weirdo...

@Lorw

I second porn addiction. Ugh.

I am female and masturbate when partner not around and don't have a porn addiction - perhaps the OP's partner is similar?

@Sparklingbrook 😆 I think we’ve got stuck at the sock issue, which perhaps isn’t helping OP with her original question 😉

@SpringTimeDream have you also got a history of choosing masturbation over sex, and of becoming used to wanking into clothes and leaving them lying around?

It’s the overall picture that suggests porn addiction to me, having been in a relationship with a porn addict and having spoken to many people in the same situation I was.

A grown man wanks in a sock or underwear?!

[quote Whatliesbeneath707]@Sparklingbrook 😆 I think we’ve got stuck at the sock issue, which perhaps isn’t helping OP with her original question 😉[/quote]
I think that's right though. He has no respect for her. Although I think it might be interesting to see all the men that hang about in the Sex Topic trying to defend his behaviour.

Leaving wank socks for OH to clean up? I'm not sure thats normal adult male behaviour. Maybe OK for an 15 year old going through an antisocial phase?

The wanking I could deal with providing its not replacing sex with you, which it doesn't appear to be. Any porn use would be a deal-breaker for me (due to the exploitative nature of it towards women).

However, hiding leaving spunky socks around for you to find, pick up and wash? Erm no. Thats is disgusting and massively disrespectful. He sees you as his cum-sock skivvy. I couldn't be that low on someones priority list I'm afraid.

I would assume he was taking viagra.

The sock on the floor made me feel really sick, and would be the biggest turn off of all time.

Obviously I can't ask him as he'd be mortified and I know it's none of my business really.

No, he wouldn't. If he was mortified, he wouldn't leave disgusting wanky socks everywhere. Bleurgh.

And why on earth can't you ask him that?? You have sex with him, you should be able to talk to him.

@SpringTimeDream

I have a high sex drive and although female I find that the more I have sex the more I want it. So I masturbate during the day sometimes thinking of when he was with me earlier - maybe similar. Sex and masturbation are perfectly normal. I do think he should clear his own mess up though

Well I'm a man and I agree with this observation - I often wank later in the day when we have had sex in the morning. It's partly the stimulation and partly an ego trip - I'm early 60s so I want to prove to myself I can still cum twice in a short time.

I sometimes use clothes, it washes off easily enough, though I wouldn't leave them on the floor for my DW to find.

I disagree with the poster who said he was faking it - how could he fake the - er - result of an orgasm?

It is totally disrespectful to leave socks around like that, I would absolutely be talking about this!

Why is it okay to do that?

It is disgusting.

I really need to know, are the socks clean when they’ve been used to clean up??? Otherwise, why the fuck is anyone using something that was on their foot to clean their genitals?!? 🤢🤢🤢

I would be more disgusted at the dirty socks or pants laying around. Tell him to do it on his belly and clean up after. Revolting

@coronaway

I don't understand the whole men and the sock thing, can anyone explain? Surely a tissue is more practical and hygienic.

Yes, you can just use your hand, with or without lubrication.

Some people want sex more than once in one night (or day, whenever). He shouldn't leave evidence of his masturbation around for you to clear up though.

As he does the laundry 50/50 could you possibly make a light hearted mention and suggest he does the, 'sock method,' on his laundry days?

You keep saying you don’t have a problem with him wanking as long as your sex life doesn’t suffer as a result of it, but you’ve said your sex life now is good so.... methinks the lady doth protest too much.

If you can’t talk to him about this I’d be worried about what else you couldn’t talk about either. Communication is important, just have a grown up conversation with him but you need to be honest to yourself about why this is really bothering you because you contradict yourself.

“Obviously I can't ask him as he'd be mortified”

You’re married and have a child.. but you can’t have a conversation? That’s not healthy.

I’m a big fan of masturbation, but this thread has me feeling sick. I think it’s a combination of the cum-sock and the “he would be mortified if I brought it up”. It sounds like a mother talking about a teenager. If you leave a cum-sock lying around, you’ve blown the ever-so-delicate masculine mystiquery tbf.

How comes most husbands do this but none of us find anything?? is it because they are discreet and use tissue and don’t leave disgusting socks for us? It is possible not to be so gross! Have a word with him
He’s probably doing it to sleep. Does he do it on those days he isn’t doing nights?

I think he probably just wants sex more than once in one session, plenty do.

Could be worse OP, my ex used to stand up at the crucial moment and throw it on the carpet so to speak. Luckily we never lived together and I stopped going barefoot at his.