He forgot it's my birthday next week. Should I tell him it's coming up?

[popcornapples]

I'm asking because he forgot about Mother's Day as well. Which I didn't think I would care about, but it actually really bothered me as it's my first one and it's been a hard year.

I asked if he's got anything planned work wise next week (he's self employed). My birthday is next Wednesday. He told me what he's doing on what days, nothing mentioned about my birthday. I'm pretty sure he's forgotten. I'm a SAHM with a 7 month old baby. Together for 4 years, engaged.

Should I remind him? Or just be all passive aggressive and let him forget, then mention on the actual day.

Ah brilliant, glad he did something nice for you and that you’ve had a nice belated Mother’s Day and birthday!

Yay. Happy birthday 🎂

I'd say give him a reminder. I didn't remind mine of my birthday last year and he forgot and it was pretty upsetting. I was worried he'd think I was patronising him by reminding him but apparently he'd have been glad of the reminder.

Happy Birthday when it comes! xx

Ah just saw your post! Glad he remembered and Happy Birthday! xx

Feliz Cumpleanos !!!

Have a lovely day. xx

great update OP, glad you had a good day and Happy Birthday

My birthday is in July and my hubby kept thinking it is in June. So as a joke I would write in his work diary a date in June and say it was ittakes2 birthday. It confused him but he never forgot my birthday was in July after that.

@IM0GEN

If he’s got enough intelligence to hold a driving licence and earn money then he can work out how to set reminders on his phone or use a pen and a post it.

It’s not that he’s not capable, it’s just that he doesn't care enough to make an effort.

I’m sorry.

Yep