Dating a man 16 years older than me...

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I have just started dating a new man, he is 16 years older than me (I am 24, he is 40). I met him online, and never considered dating someone that much older than me, but I thought I'd give it a go and it turns out we are getting on really well!

It is very early days as we've only been dating almost a month, but we get on really well, I feel comfortable around him already, he is very courteous and attentive. We have been on lots of socially distanced walks (we see each other every few days) and can spend hours talking without getting bored or having awkward silences. We've had some flirty banter, not slept together yet, but some of my friends have mentioned he is probably only interested in sex with a younger woman! However, I don't feel pressured into sex like I have with other men. He has 2 teenage sons and I've got a child at primary school. I mentioned wanting more children one day (I didn't see the point in wasting either of our time if he wasn't interested), and he said he would have more children one day as long as his children weren't adults by that point. He's said he is looking for a long-term relationship.

I am worried about the age gap, it's not something I've experienced or any of my friends/close circle have experience with. Has anybody had this kind of age gap/situation and it's gone on to be a successful relationship?

Glad to hear it's going well OP. Unfortunately I was going to add my so so experience, my DH is 12 years older and we met when he was 40, he seemed young and attractive. He's now 47 and to be honest he seems to have aged 20 years since then, not 7. In looks, personality, interests, social life, everything. It pretty much dropped off a cliff around age 45. Sometimes he talks about when we retire, I think actually "we" will never retire, you'll retire, live out your retirement and die, then later I may retire.

But anyway this guy might be different, so just have fun for now and see what happens, maybe it's meant to be.

Hello everyone. This is my first post here!
I recently started dating a man 16 years older than me. We both were previously married for a long time with 3 children each. We have this amazing connection despite the age gap and I have very strong feelings towards him. As a couple, we are very compatible and we have loads of things in common. He is a real gentle man who knows exactly how to take care of his woman. He simply makes me happy. The problem is that he comes from a very conservative and religious background and I know for sure a liberal woman like me will never fit in and I'll never be officially introduced to his social circle. He himself, practices religion but je does it out of habit as this is the way he was raised. He never had any issues with my ideology or tried to force his beliefs on me. My question is, would you hold into a relationship that makes you feel amazing while you are almost sure there is no future for it? Or would you stop before the break up becomes so painful.

This is what I have encountered recently. I met him on a dating app. He lied about his age. I had been already hooked by him before I found out he is actually 16 years older. I would have never wanted to date a man that much older than me…I am 47 and have 1 teenager and 1 primary school kid, his are all grown ups. We are meeting up this Sunday as I am really curious how he looks like in person. He sounds quite active and healthy, just climbed up Macchi Picchu a couple of months ago.