2 days ago the man I was dating for 9 months dumped me in a snappy phone call. He is quite complex and I have been double checking how he feels this week as he's having some problems.
He was quite unkind on the day he did it. After all the good times it was hurtful. I've been going through the last two days feeling quite upset and a little heartbroken.
I don't like nastiness so I text him today and just told him I was feeling sad and hoped he was ok and to always know I cared. Xx
He wrote back I don't know what to say.
So I said I just didn't like what you said to me and hope you actually don't think I never cared as my feelings were real and it's going to be hard for me to move on anytime soon. Xx
He put same for me.
He accidentally pocket dialed me and I answered. He straight away said hello can you hang up I didn't mean to dial. So I did and messaged after to say I feel like I've lost my best friend. Xx
He replied and said
I don't feel to great myself.
I said that I hoped we could be nice about eachother and that we shouldn't leave things on a horrible note as we had such good times together. I said I hoped we could be friends eventually rather than become enemies and awkward.
He put I'm not your enemy.
(I just want to sort things out and not let things linger as everyone is hurting with these things)
So I said.
Based on your short replies it feels like you don't like me at all anymore. If you would like me to cut all contact and leave you alone for good then just say and I'll not contact you anymore.
He put I just don't want any silly messages.
So I put, I accept we are over but I'm asking you to tell me if you want us to completely cut eachother off or if you think it's possible to be friendly in the long run
(share the same friends and it's just nicer if you bump into eachother) (sent him a £30 candle set last week and now he hates me lol)
He wrote back I don't know what to say. I feel useless. I guess just got to get on.
I put why useless?
He said because I thought I was ready to meet someone (2 years single and dealing with his depression)
I said to him well maybe you are but I wasn't right for you (I also told him all his good qualities, wished him well and told him to be positive and he will meet someone right for him soon) I told him to be happy and not get himself down.
He put back an hour later. Sorry I fell asleep. Going to bed.
I just hate how awkward it is. I have some of his clothes here. We've bought eachother gifts. He's got one of my dvds. We've been through so much together and we felt so close. I think his depression got the better of us and he just can't cope with the stress.
So I am not some crazy texter. I wanted to try and discuss further the other day so we could seperate calmly and with respect for eachother. I am fine with whatever I just would rather know.
So in your views. He's not putting kisses anymore. He's replies are short. Blunt. I can tell he doesn't have much to say to me at all. I won't contact him anymore. But I'm worried he's not ok. Should I contact a friend to check in on him. Or do you think he's politely saying I don't want to speak to you. Sod off??
I know he's hurting like I am. I just can't figure out what to do next.
Please be nice.