Online dating in your 40s - part 3!

[StarlightSparkle]

A new thread, so we can continue discussing the depressing reality of the above!

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Hi @bangheadhere40 - Yes I sent him a message over an hour ago, no reply, and he apologized last night that it was too late to talk, and he needed to keep me interested for another 24 hours before we talk! Well, he hasnt done a very good job! I know an hour isnt very long, but its a well known fact how these men behave isnt it!

[bangheadhere40]

Yeah it's tricky.. something could have come up, but if it's a complete switch in communication all of a sudden then seems odd.

Hopefully he will get back to you...but if he is a flake probably best you find out now ☹

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Something could have come up, but I always think the worse. Doesnt take long to send a message does it, Hes not read mine dreaded Whatsapp. Hes been anything but flaky, and he was the one that suggested talking on the phone, he was very apologetic that it didnt happen last night! Oh well, it was nice while it lasted, Im not going to get all sad over it

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Well, I still havent heard anything and he finishes work at 3pm. I dont know whether to just block him all together, or message and ask if he is ok? Very strange considering the last few days he has messaged none stop, why do they have to be so cruel? If he didnt want to talk anymore, I am a big girl and can take it, its the blatant rudeness that pisses me off, he hasnt blocked me on anything! Really do not know what to think...any help would be appreciated

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Ok...he just messaged, said he had no charge on his phone, but he also said last night when he took over an hour to reply to me that he hadn't looked at his phone because it was on charge.....am I dealing with a dick? Or am I being paranoid?? Feeling like my tiny little bubble of happiness that I had has just been popped!

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

@Angelofdeath - It could be, but you do realise when you are running out of charge, and I thought he may have sent me a message saying I'm running low, but Ill message later? Am I asking too much, isn't that just courteous? Calls not been mentioned, he just apologized, and asked if I was ok, and explained his phone ran out of charge, I haven't replied, I will in 6 hours

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Sorry @Angelofdeath - I didnt even ask you how youre doing? How are you? I have been thinking and wondering about you! Hope you are good

[LuckyLinda3]

Yeah @pineappleonpizzaornot I'd play it cool and see.

[bangheadhere40]

I think it's okay pineapple and it's genuine.

I would watch out for it happening again though....just the not being near his phone etc and excuses could signal a girlfriend/ wife etc.

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Thank you ladies - I have asked regarding a partner, he has assured me he is not married and there is no significant other, and he hasnt done anything to make me believe otherwise, I know he finishes work at 3pm, and he lives half an hour drive from his work, and he text at 3.30, so the time frame works, it could be genuine, it could be a load of bollocks. Its not as if we have even met, but I just felt we clicked, maybe I was wrong. I just dont want to be messed around.
I will reply eventually as Im not into tit for tat, but I will start playing it cool from now on and Im not mentioning the call. You lot are a godsend -

[bangheadhere40]

Mine is still going well. He keeps saying how it's good to speak on the phone but hasn't asked for my number.

I don't like speaking on the phone though...not to someone I've never met, it scares me slightly 😆

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Awww @Angelofdeath - Hope you told him youve been on ages because you are super picky and dont settle for anyone - especially ones that cant be bothered to put photos on!
Hopefully we will be going out again soon, I know you have your kids a lot, but to even go out to the park for a picnic with them and enjoy the warmer weather would be amazing! And theres always single dads hanging around parks! and weirdos

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Pleased it is still going well @bangheadhere40 - Go on, pluck up the courage, have a glass of wine first though

[bangheadhere40]

We haven't swapped numbers yet though. I kind of would rather he asked me!

If I have a glass of wine I might get over it and ask myself...not sure 😄

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

Yay for some extra time for you! Ive had my brother with me the last 2 days and he is 39!! How you ladies have got through these lockdowns with small kids is amazing!!
I would have just told Mr No Photo Arsehole to f**k off, you are much politer than me

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

@bangheadhere40 - Its a funny thing swapping numbers isnt it?
I dont really see it as a big deal as there is still a "bock" button there too! But, I have found that it tends to go downhill when I have swapped before, apart from Mr Homeless, but hey he is probably another weirdo too!
If you really want to swap then ask if you arent too fussed then dont, he could be shy? Mr Homeless asked me, but he was worried he was getting ahead of himself, he may just be as worried as you to ask.

[pineappleonpizzaornot]

We need to start a new thread soon!

[Shayelle2009]

Hey ladies 👋
Oh pineapple im so fricking disappointed to read your update!! Wtf... maybe hes got a really squeaky voice and is scared of putting you off!! Ill message in that new thread so its up to top of them .. damn pineapple ive been looking forward to reading a good update... damned men!!! 😕

[Shayelle2009]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/4169194-Online-dating-in-your-40s-part-4

[Shayelle2009]

I would just say @pineappleonpizzaornot keep your cool for now... if he doesnt turn it round in the next couple of days then its another dead end.. try not to get pissed off with him for now.. thats only what i would do though