Online dating in your 40s - part 3!

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A new thread, so we can continue discussing the depressing reality of the above!

Not Shreks swamp i hope @Angelofdeath!!

Hi, sorry everyone is continuing to find lockdown tough, it is so hard. I want my child to be at school and I want to see my friends in a bar, dressed up drinking wine and talking sh1te and not one at a time on a cold, wet, walk!
Still seeing mr check, 3 months this weekend. If it gives any of the newer posters hope, I met him on a walking date in the November lockdown on a Saturday afternoon, it chucked it down and my hair went crazy 🤣

I went on quite a few walking dates in November and it's so hard to know what to wear, you want to look nice but not over the top but you need to be warm and dry too. I wear converse and I'm 51 so I wouldn't worry about age!

For those that remember Flaky who messed me round a bit before mr check, he's very local and he was in the same local shop as me a couple of weekends ago, my friend spotted him, just from his one photo on the dating app, even with his mask on! She says he's been on the app ever since so he clearly didn't find anybody else when he blew me out without any reason. I think it's a hobby for some people, very sad for a 50 year old man!
I've no idea if mr check and I will last, but for now it's good and there's definitely potential, if not I'll be back in the apps again, hopefully not in a lockdown!

You must do @Angelofdeath as they are so funny and cute arent they, a lot of my friends have kids and they just run up and give you the biggest hugs for no reason! Love it! Big hugs are what we need right now. Nice for you to have a little time for yourself too as well
Hopefully in a few weeks to come things will all feel differently... its hard to imagine right now, but it must happen. We’ll hang on in there!

@VivaVegas thats lovely youre having good dates with mr check and im glad youre a converse fan too! What colour are yours? Mine are grey they go with EVERYthing!!

Hi
Long time lurker here
@Shayelle2009 and @bangheadhere40
Loving the description of a potato head man😂
What is wrong with these men?
I think they have mid life crisises and just want an ego boost.
I m sure you are all normal beautiful women looking for love and company like we all are.
Let's hope things get better soon this has gone on long enough now.
Good luck

@bangheadhere40 agree about nothing much to see on the apps. I had a look and everyone looks really old to me. Don't people want to show their best side? It's like all the normal decent blokes have disappeared!!!

Someone showed me this meme yesterday which sums it up

Haha yes @OutingMyself except that cats are genuinely always wonderful

How are you doing today

Eesha and Athena I know, there really doesn't seem to be any decent men on these apps, not sure where they are all hiding. Maybe they will all come out of hiding after lockdown.

The odd one that matches then doesn't write / reply or responds with one word answers.

Is there some secret app we don't know about where they are all there just hoping for normal women to come along 🤣

And yes to the ego boost men...no desire to meet or even speak properly.

Oh phew, thought all left me 😂.
@Angelofdeath, I hope you're ok? I've also had a down week, just fed up of looking at what seems to be the same man on every dating app,!:it's like it's a clone of Mr potato on every profile. And that cat pic is soooo accurate!
I'm just getting arsey on the apps now, one messaged yesterday, 10 messages in, asked if I wanted to practice making babies 🤮 oh fuck off you dick!
Why are they like this??? Who said 40 year old women want sexting?? They just piss me off.
I wear converse all the time 😁

Aw ladies its not easy. I'm really down too. I'm starting to think will I ever have butterflies again. I'm in that horrible place where I'm giving my last iron far too much credit just because he had manners and we had a strong physical connection (despite being so "easy going" he just didnt bother his arse). My single friends reckon it's all about forgive and accept but I want neither. Am I romanticising this....is it shit after a long marriage? Is there hope I will meet someone? Am I just looking to fill a void....send help please!!!

Same Linda...I gave mine too much credit. Even though he was an arrogant arse he was good looking, funny, and could string a sentence together!

I'm not sure what the answer is really....😔

@LuckyLinda3- I feel you, I'm exactly the same, I get so happy when I talk to someone and they actually ask ME a question....what have we turned into?? Grateful for an arseholes attention?? This isn't me! I'm worth so much more, I can only say that I hope there are nice ones out there, until we meet them, we need to remember our worth and not settle! Sorry I can't be any more help 😟

@bangheadhere40 and @pineappleonpizzaornot hugs and 💐. I think you are right pineapple we should always remember our worth!

Hey everyone 👋 hope everyones having a nice Saturday. Its bright where i live so been out walking by the sea which was lovely.
@LuckyLinda3 and @bangheadhere40 youre allowed to feel sad that you and your irons came to an end, youre allowed to have feelings from it, its natural to mourn even if it was a fling or just a bit of fun! Be kind to yourselves and give yourselves some time to feel better its even harder at the minute due to this bloody pandemic and less distractions from the bad feelings

Aw @Shayelle2009 thank you. My day took a very unexpected turn since. I was in town for my shopping and got a text from my ex iron to say he was in town too. I was taken aback as its not his local town. Anyway he asked if we could meet for a chat. I said ok as it's a small town and we would probably have bumped into each other anyway. We chatted and he said hed like to see me again and that we had a strong connection. I gave very little away from my end...he jokingly referred to whether I was back on the apps and i would have loved to have said I knew he had been. I think his hours have changed at work as hes off a lot the next 2 weeks. I'm so confused now...

Hi @LuckyLinda3 thats nice you bumped into him, how do you feel about it, do you think you might try and meet up?

@Shayelle2009 I'm confused. I do like him and I do think he likes me. I'm not great at just letting things take their own path. Could he just be on the scene as hes working less as some have suggested..

I’d be really careful about him to-ing and fro-ing like this Linda. Hes blowing very hot and cold.

@Shayelle2009...I agree.

I've posted before but have name changed.

I've two new irons this evening, both seem very keen. I spoke to one on the phone, twice! Both are happy to take it slow, ask genuine questions. I'm sure one is genuine, would have been happy to video chat and has added me on fb. I think the other is too. I feel a bit mean chatting to both, but I like them both! I'm also chatting to another a bit. None are very close by, so a meeting will have to wait a bit.

Crikey, it's a bit early for adding on Facebook isn't it?

So im back on pof. JD is on there.. So annoying thinking why was I not good enough to chat to.. its ok though, at least I stuck to my standards. He’s so damned fit though its hard 😂