Online dating in your 40s - part 3!

[StarlightSparkle]

A new thread, so we can continue discussing the depressing reality of the above!

Ooh @ivegotthisyeah how did it go? Was he what you expected? Did you get on?

I've cancelled my date on Sunday. He's been very nice about it and asked why. I didn't know what to say really, how can you say, I think you're a bit rough and sweary for me?!

Nothing new on the horizon. I've swiped right a few times, but no matches. Maybe because I was looking further afield, about 60 miles.

@Angelofdeath @Zoomme I was ok the conversation flowed and was t that awkward we are going for a walk tomorrow so will see more. He did however plant a kiss and I was a bit a taken back and said that's enough 😂 I mean it just feels odd kissing men I've never met although we have chatted a lot on messages.
Slightly slightly rough around the edges but I'm going to give it another go x

That sounds like it went well. Both times I went on a walking date they kissed me, the first time I wasn't ready for it and it wasn't fully on the mouth, the second time I went for it and it was spectacular, pity he turned into a sleaze. I felt awful afterwards, because of covid and washed my mouth out with mouth wash 😆 I probably shouldn't have kissed him with hindsight 🤔

Dont feel like that Angel you were just replying to him! Doesnt mean anything does it, it is just really hard work. I deleted tinder after another slimey twat sent a creepy message. Feel like i need to be on something though otherwise there are NO lines of communication open to the outside world 😂 all the sites are awful though im just so bored of them all.

Exciting @ivegotthisyeah hope the 2nd date does well!

Do I feel I'll wake up in the morning with full on anxiety that I have covid 😬 it wasn't me it was him but yeah I had a good time and you know what that feels a million dollars right now x

@Angelofdeath

That's brilliant ivegotthis. I'm a bit old fashioned with stuff like kissing so I would wait until after the first date. Do you have another date arranged?

Zoomme I'm very covid-paranoid, I'd of probably had a boiling hot, disinfectant shower as well as the mouthwash

I almost did! 😆 I stripped right down when I got in and washed all my clothes, then showered. Maybe a bit over the top, but I was getting paranoid.

I find it really strange when they message as if theyve never spoken to you before. When your pics and profile are exactly the same as the first time round. Like do they just see all women as one identical lump? Do we all look the same? I always remember who i have and havent spoken to.... also if ones matched me before but then not spoken i never bother matching them again. Waste of time!

@Angelofdeath did your previous one message back in the end? Your site sounds busy... ive never heard of that one.
Trying to muster some enthusiasmn to go back on one of the apps... just dont want to though 😭 its horrible lol!!

Haha well done Angel for being up front. He could have just said oh sorry I didnt reply at that time then asked you about something to just initiate friendly chat... instead he did that so its good you didnt bother. Knob!
Well it sounds like there is a good amount of activity so one day a decent one will appear. My friend who was on pof and met hers she was on it a year when they got together. I cant even stick it on there for 4 days haha!

I was talking to a guy (on the app) last night and then fell asleep mid conversation. I replied a couple of hours ago but have heard nothing back yet. Maybe he's still asleep I suppose. I don't want it to be another of those 'left it too late and they got bored and stopped replying' ones.

Nah :( I think that's it now. Oh well!

@Shayelle2009 mr work sounds promising? Keep us posted.
@Angelofdeath there’s no harm in messaging first or messaging back, I’m like you and don’t have much success when I do that but I’m sure it was because they weren’t interested anyway. If us messaging first puts them off it doesn’t bode well anyway! Same for your guy @OutingMyself, if you didn’t reply because you fell asleep and it’s put him off then not really worth it is it? He could still be asleep now or not have checked the app.

Had date 3 with mr beach at my house last night, we chatted and ended up in bed. Safe to say it wasn’t mindblowing. We’ve been texting today and said last night that we’d get together again to watch a movie.

Yeah I'm not wasting time worrying about it. He was the first in ages that I didn't feel a bit 'meh' about though. I'm speaking to another guy now, but I already feel stuck for what to say.

What kind of thing do you all ask people? I find it so hard not to worry about coming across as weird or boring that sometimes I stop replying at all

@onemorerose that's a shame! Are you going to give it another go?