Online dating in your 40s - part 3!

[StarlightSparkle]

A new thread, so we can continue discussing the depressing reality of the above!

angel are you on iPhone. I can't seem to do that. Or if I put it into Google images do I put it in Google search bar or safari!

Im the same @Angelofdeath its nice when they make an effort to start a convo with a point of interest from your profile.
Absolute zero going on with tinder! Not one convo!
happy friday everyone

And youre right it is the main thing.. its such a lonely isolating time at the minute that's its nice someone actually wants to put weekly catch in my diary for the next 2 months! 😊

*catch ups

Food is definitely a favourite thing of mine and is always welcome aww thats a shame the music guy was so far away. It does sounds like you get a fair few messages so one if these days soon one of them definitely has to be a good one!!
Its an instant left for anyone wearing a mask, or any profiles that don't have a clear face photo, its like they're trying to hide what they look like isnt it.

@Shayelle2009 - Mr Work is going to ask you out , so much easier when you already know them isnt it!?
I did like Mr Gas when he came round to sort my issue out, but then when we started exchanging messages he came across as a bit "wet", it made me wince a bit, sending me songs and saying how it felt so right, all a bit much for me!
Absolutely no other convos going on anywhere else at all!

Do any of you come across the same person with 2 different profiles? I have seen it quite a lot on tinder, why do people do that?? Still the same person, but different photos of them, and the same bio? Strange!

Haha @pineappleonpizzaornot maybe he will once we have a few of these weekly video chats hes set up, but maybe not... i will never ask him though, if he does like me in that way id leave it to him to show me. Made a promise to myself after my ex treating me like crap for 4 years that Id never go chasing a guy again.... we’ll see... thanks for your optimism for me though and it’s definitely soo much nicer when you already know them and dont have to go through the initial crap of trying to find out if they're a decent human or not, and worth your time!!

What about the guy in your last town? Did that fizzle? Awww you clearly made an impression on mr gas! Bless him!
I do see that but wonder if its a glitch of some sort... or maybe theyre just super hopeful and got two profiles

I agree with the chasing @Shayelle2009 - I stupidly chased my ex, think he gloated on it and I destroyed myself in the process, never again! I had moved across country to be with him, so it was my relationship, my home, possibly my job and the only person I knew in a 70 mile radius that I lost over night!
Its certainly taught me a few lessons. The guy from my last town, only started talking to me when I moved back to my home town....too far for me! He asked me out for a drink, then ghosted me .
Ive certainly developed a thick skin through OLD!
If Mr Work does ask you out, are you going to say yes? Is he fit?

angelofdeath I'm on iPhone. Doesn't seem to let me do it. I'm desperate to know who mr American really is.

I have had one very long relationship that gradually died out over the years until we finally split (amicably) and now divorced.
OLD - never tried it openly - too scared no-one would want me - why such a fear of rejection? So did it without a profile and approached a few men a couple of years ago and started dated one of those 20 months ago. Relationship started as fun with lots going on and now dying out - could be covid and lack of things to do but I'm wondering if it is me.... I feel like I put all the effort in/text/phone etc. He appears pretty ambivalent about it all but calls me beautiful/sexy etc but perhaps I am just 'needy' for reassurance after having years of ambling along in a relationship going no-where. We waited for the children to grow up then split...
So what do I want - excitement/chemistry/the spark/love - sex if really good and plentiful he has a high sex drive but there is something 'missing' HELP please.... I've kind of ended it so many times and then get back and think I am making a mistake. Is the massive love the stuff of fairy tales and I should grow up and realise reality isn't the same... seems to be some experienced daters here so is this a familiar tale or should I keep hoping/looking for more or am I just expecting too much.

I think I may have posted in the wrong thread -sorry

@ivegotthisyeah

Hi ladies ( and men?!) been lurking for a while on this thread but I need some help! So when you've met someone online and you possibly want to meet ( to see if you actually like them) wants the protocol? Are you going for coffees I see a few of you have mentioned coming to your house for tea etc but I feel a bit square in the fact that that scares me as I've never met them! Am I being too sensible or do I need to lighted up a bit? First time online dating so am clueless! In the uk on lockdown doesn't help us! Thanks

Before covid - I would have said a drink at a bar or cafe - chat and walk maybe and see if you get on. I would NEVER ever invite to my home - nothing to do with covid either - until I knew and felt comfortable with them.

I'm the type that likes to chat a bit online first to find out lots before meeting - when I said that a few men that seemed interested disappeared - maybe the ones that are after a ONS and don't really want to engage at all?

I think I did this the wrong way.

I joined and posted for advice then read the thread afterwards! I think I am moaning about nothing. He is a really lovely person, priorities in the right place (children first although now both have become adults), gets on with ex's, good career, own home, says he loves me and loves sex - yet here I am thinking there should be more - I think I read too many Mills & Boons as a teenager and didn't do the dating thing at all for real people
Is it normal to go through ups and downs and is it right is it not?

Well as painful as they are i believe they are good lessons we learned @pineappleonpizzaornot.. i was really in love eith my ex and chased him for 3 yes before we got together.. he never valued me at all though and traated me like a piece of crap in every way you can imagine , i believe because of the behaviour i exhibited... low value. It was more how i felt about myself back then 😔 So ill never make the same mistake.. and im stronger for it . my main thing now is for someone to really want and value me.. as its been a loooong time since i felt wanted or loved. So if mr work shows me he is interested... ill think about it 😉😁 haha... i think hes an absolute catch.. hes classy.. i think im a bit of a ruffian haha so dont know if id be his type. Keeping my cards 100% to my chest til i know otherwise. Until then we’ll continue to be pals
Another ghosting dick then from your old town.. ahh well you left that place behind anyway hey

@TwoHoots74

angelofdeath I'm on iPhone. Doesn't seem to let me do it. I'm desperate to know who mr American really is.

@TwoHoots74 there is a website called tinyeye.com which might show something - but no matter what you definitely made the right call to run a mile!

Actually that’s tineye.com

Thanks mayzee I'll look into it. Just feel sorry for the so called American who's photos the scammer if he was used.

I really quite fancied him.

It's put me off a bit. I'm finding a lot of extra guys on tinder just want to chat or have wank material. They're obviously bored with lockdown. There seems no substance to anyone. Think it'll be easier to become a crazy cat lady

Hey @Angelofdeath... are you gonna reply to mr latereply??
I would bet anything mr work wont.. think it will just a nice catch up I will 100% report back

I don't get the appeal of women sending messages first like on Bumble. I don't get the appeal to women anyway. All it means is we get to feel like shit when they don't reply, rather than them.

@Angelofdeath
@Zoomme
I went for my coffee date today ! Busy place lots of people around x