Online dating in your 40s - part 3!

[StarlightSparkle]

A new thread, so we can continue discussing the depressing reality of the above!

I went on a walking date today. He looked just like his photo, not classically good looking, but ok, but had some awful teeth. It was a pity, he was interesting, chatty, but I couldn't get past it. Gutted. He was really keen too.

There are so few men I actually fancy these days and if I do they don't reply to my message. I know looks aren't everything, but there has to be something there doesn't there? How are others finding it?

Mr young and mr old bother being super cool and aloof. Had a strange cheek kiss at the weekend. I recently decided, and have stuck to it, I will not chase any of them. If they don’t won’t to put the effort it I’m not interested. I mean I’m friendly and reply but I am done with trying to drag it out of them.

@Angelofdeath ahhh the graveyard messaging... sounds like its died a death there! Its just painful isnt it!
I dont think mr builder even lasted an hour.. think 4 messages were exchanged then I didnt hear anymore 🤷🏼‍♀️
Theres nothing wrong with giving people a chance just means you're a nice person, and I always think its better to have an open heart.. does leave you vulnerable to being hurt but thats life isnt it, life's all about taking a chance.

@Zoomme ahh thats a shame... its awful when you know instantly theres not going to be anything there on the attraction front!!

I'm not on a dating site so apologies for crashing again but I remember my last guy (whose now on day 24 I think of ignoring me after 4 yrs).. Was just so easy to chat to, met him it flowed, so many similarities.. Wasn't sure I 100% fancied him straight off and he was quite reserved like me.. But We hit it off so much. Then they start pissing you around 2yrs in and it's hard to walk.. And here I am with a broken heart not being more sensible.
I hope you all have more luck

No wonder you're struggling @Ntwa its still very recent for you

There was something there though, @Shayelle2009 until we sat down to talk and I could see more. Then I got rattled and my mind went blank

Oh no... well its not your fault, we like who we like, and if it wasnt there for you thats just one of those things

Oh god @Angelofdeath that did make me laugh too. I think we should come up with a good standard stock response for the dreaded ‘what u up 2’ going forward... umm existing? Breathing?

Haha 😂😂 absolutely love it!! I always just blank what I dont feel like answering. None of their business if we are chilling with the cat, filing our nails, eating a pizza or anything else that makes us happy!!

On the verge of deleting pof. Only been on it since saturday but its truly vile!

Lol god yeah to the lies about what I’m actually up to 😂 maybe you’ll hear back from mr builder? @Angelofdeath aren’t we allowed socially distanced walks with someone anyway? Not that I’d be perusing him for one, what would he have to say to you if was with you and already knew what you were up to 😆
POF can be really vile, I didn’t last too long on it either.

Deleted it.. actually feels like a relief!!

What site are you on again @Angelofdeath?
And fwiw @Shayelle2009 I’ve never heard of anyone meeting a partner on POF so I’m sure it’s no loss.

Mr beach and I didn’t text til this evening today and for some strange reason I didn’t mind. I was glad when he did text but I wasn’t doing my normal freaking out thing. I think it really helps that I can’t see when he’s been online at all. Obviously he has been near his phone but I was busy so just accepted that he was busy too. Just a tip for anyone that is like me and can be a weirdo checking when an iron has been online 🙈

@Angelofdeath I did have a couple of long running chats from pof but eventually they both fizzled. One of them I met for a drink too but think he was in a mess after his ltr had finished and wasnt really in a place to be dating. The other I liked a lot but just dont think he was interested enough in me but I was a bit gutted about that one. That was all last year. Its so so rare that I actually meet someone I really like, its probably the same for you too? Have you been on many dates out of yours?

I might check out that app for bearded fellas! Dont mind a beard! Think its called Bristlr. Ill let you know how it goes! Bumbles totally dried up, not getting matches from that at all anymore.

@onemorerose thats really good youre taking your time with it.. maybe its how hes making you feel? I always found with a good one id be chilled and calm but it was because the guy was good and wasnt playing any games, so my inner psycho didnt rear its head
Apps without the online status are such a blessing arent they!! When you meeting up next?

Omg @Angelofdeath thats really nasty if that guy to do that - did he know it was your birthday?? Not that that makes it less worse even if he didnt! Its just really low behaviour isnt it. Glad you had some good support on here though
I just think this last year in general hasnt been the best one to meet anyone... even if you do get chatting to someone there’s always issues. However we all know of success stories too so there must be a point in it all.
Ive been single 4 1/2 years now, my last rship was 4 years and that was awful he was abusive and it nearly broke me but I got away, and I was single for about 10 years before that, it would just be nice to find someone decent to have good laughs with, dont get why thats so hard to find! (For me anyway!!)

I looked at the beardie one but it didnt seem too user friendly so i didnt sign up. Feeling like I cant be arsed with any of the sites, done them all to death!!