Is he an arsehole? Or am I being a fool?

[imabarbiegirl]

We have had a on/off thing for a while but it's off now.
I wanted a relationship and he wanted to sleep with anything with a pulse,he didn't care what they looked like,if they were married etc.
He would even flirt with men if they showed him attention.
He told me he wanted no ties etc
This is what wound me up..
He said "Louise" (his daughter ) told me I need to knock this on the head and finally settle down and stop being so wild.
So I responded "yes Louise is very sensible for her age,you are wild and you deffo need to settle down"(him knowing I had wanted that for so long )
He replied "so I'm now going on a date next week"
I said "a date ? We are in lockdown,I thought you didn't date?"
He said a socially distanced walk in the park and he wasn't even looking forward to it..I asked why he was going and he said Louise has spoken.
A week later we were texting and he said he was getting ready to go out,I asked him was it his date and he didn't reply.
1 min later he writes on Facebook
"Off for my date,me being me we will be checking in at New York tomorrow,can't wait"
Then on this "date" posting pics on Snapchat of him and this woman (it's a woman he told me had been after him for a year and he didn't fancy her and she was annoying)
After the date he said "I didn't like her,not to worry two more dates next week,don't be jealous tho"
I didn't reply
Is he a arsehole for rubbing it in my face like this?

He screams of misogyny

Your a fool OP. That’s the issue. I think it’s all so immature cut contact forever.

I think he must get some sort of weird kick out of knowing I'm hurt/upset.
I've cut contact now.
The thing is I thought I was good enough for him

How long until he worms his way back in, though?

Save your future self even more heartbreak by blocking him now.

He is never going to want a relationship with you.

He is not good enough for you more like

Good grief. Block this loser on everything. Delete his details. Change your number if you have to but get rid and never ever have any contact with him again.

He is not good enough for you. He is trash.

Why on earth would you want to be chosen by womanizing trash?

Don't waste another second of your life on this loser.

He’s not good enough for you and he’s rubbing your face in it!

Why waste any time or thoughts on him?

You haven't cut contact though have you, there will be another thread from you in a few days about him 🙄

@imabarbiegirl

I think he must get some sort of weird kick out of knowing I'm hurt/upset. I've cut contact now. The thing is I thought I was good enough for him

By the sounds of it you are too good for him

For God's sake OP he is walking all over you, taking the piss and enjoying torturing you with all these stories of dating other women.
You are far too good for such a waste of space. Be strong, ditch him for good and block him.
He is just so bloody awful. Please realise this and move on.

If I'm brutally honest - he doesn't sound like he's trying to rub it in or hurt you. It sounds like he's just not into you and is a bit of a player idiot.

You clearly think more of him than he thinks of you.

Move on and meet someone who wants to be with you. I'm sure there's lots of better choices out there than this guy.

Why are you seeing someone who doesnt like you the way you like them in the first place? That's a reslcipie for disaster and pain.

He sounds like a right narcissist. What he is doing now is called narcissistic triangulation - when they use one woman to make another jealous. Going forwards he would get to play you off against eachother. Banging on about how amazing she is and 'you should dress like her she has great style' ect. Telling her you are just some psycho who is obsessed with him or 'just a friend's even though he sleeps with you.

Have some self respect now and walk away. No, run. Far and fast.

I would go with utter fool. He has let you know from the beginning the type he is. You are choosing to be treated badly. Stop giving him permission to do so.

I’m not sure if I’ve read your previous threads. So taking this as your first, you are utterly incompatible.
He wants to be seen as a crazy spirited carefree bachelor. I see him as an arse.
What is more important here is why you think this is all you aspire to deserve? Being single is preferable to this painful nonsense.

FFS, get some therapy.

Narcissistic and emotionally immature. Not the qualities you would want in a husband or father to a child. I would feel a failure if my child ever said that to me. Urghh.

He doesn't want you babe. Find someone better.

Is he 12?

@imabarbiegirl

I think he must get some sort of weird kick out of knowing I'm hurt/upset. I've cut contact now. The thing is I thought I was good enough for him

The thing is I thought I was good enough for him

The issue isn't whether you are good enough. The problem is that he has too many issues of his own.

He won't settle with anyone.

I know loads of men who are still single in their 40s and 50s because they cannot commit.

He won't change. They never do.

He is self obsessed and emotional immature.

Why is your bar set so low?

Oh and get to a GUM clinic. He sounds grotty. Ew.

Give yourself a hug and so seek some therapy.

I don't mean this in a horrible way either. Explore why you think you're not good enough and why someone treating you like this is so acceptable x

What redeeming qualities does he even have?

He sounds like a narcissist. Is he ?

Literally pains me to see people putting up with this

Firstly If he likes to fuck around and is now thinking of settling down because his daughter said , chances are hel prob end up cheating etc anyway because he sounds a player .

So even if you can get your head around that part your not even the person he is thought of when finding someone he might try settle with

Like ... come on love . Wtf are you doing . Forget him

I've seen this one play out a few times, and been in it myself. He's being awful, and clearly showing you he thinks nothing of hurting you or your chances as a couple. He won't change, and it's not you. You deserve better. You're not a fool unless you go on with it now he's shown his hand.
And if he shows up a few years from now, begging for you to come back, don't believe him. He will just start this ridiculousness again. I had one friend who left their marriage for an old flame, who pulled this and swore they should and would be together forever, and after a couple of weeks the old flame pretty much said that they've been having a bad time and said some weird stuff, and broke it off.