I fancy the plumber. HELP!

[PawPatrol24]

Recently single 26 year old Mumma here.
This particular plumber has come over twice the past 2/3 months to help with various things around my rented place.

He is is absolutely stunning. In his 30's. Three children. Not with the mother, but no idea of any girlfriend. Lovely to my very chatty, curious 3yo (obviously having seen her when fixing up the place).

I am sure there is a little chemistry but I'm not sure if I'm projecting. Something in the way he mentioned me being a full-time Mum, the smile on his face as he left and mentioning he's not with the mother.

He's said he'd keep me updated with various bits that need doing. Everyone says to see if he followed through with this but I can't eat or sleep properly. I feel like a 16 year old girl again!
I don't wanna step on no ones toes, but I also don't want to waste an opportunity.

Advice?!

@CatAndHisKit that's a lot of excuses there

I do wonder if thr posters saying chase him would do that themselves or are just key board warriors spouting shit to amuse themselves.

It’s great to have the confidence to ask once. But you don’t go then hassling them, making up excuses to get them to come to your home, asking if they got the message. It’s like where’s your dignity.

Fortunately the op has both more sense and dignity and won’t be following these suggestions. And if you’re prone to chasing men like this and making yourself look desperate then stop.

Yes please don't ask for a yes or no as the other poster suggested. I know you probably wouldn't.

No one knows whether he has seen it or not. He probably has but who knows.

Also how often do you need a plumber? Twice already and you're thinking about when he comes out next. In 10 years I've probably had to call 2 out but they weren't the same person.

@PawPatrol24
You're absolutely right.
But if things change and he gets back to you, do let us know.

Gah!!! Everyone be kind - OP you are fab, good for you to have the courage. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Good luck

Ahh you sound lovely but please don't contact him again.

Think it's pretty cool that you had the balls to do it in the 1st place.

Fair play to you for going for it op.

To point out, my previous post was not to upset you, I think you sound a charming lady who has opened up and that takes guts, don't let his lack of response put you off.

Just be careful, there are many out there who are not quite so truthful and open as you are.

@SkeletorAttack
Omg me too , I winced when I read that . Genuinely.

Just commenting on this but only because I recall seeing it a couple of years ago - so the Green Eyed Gardener one was a fake?! How comes? How did MN find out?! Seemed very plausible with the baby and all.

Everyone saying to the OP about not contacting him again, she’s already made it very clear at least twice that she has no intention of contacting him again! Must be so frustrating to keep reading the same message over and over 😩

Yeh the people saying contact him again definitely wouldn’t do it themselves, they are only saying it as people get way to invested in these types of threads then they feel like they are owed a response personally, so they want you to chase him up but it’s purely for their own entertainment. People really shouldn’t encourage others to do that. If he is a hot plumber then I can imagine this probably happens a lot as pp said, this is why I’m not a fan of asking out men first, you knew you liked him so if he did like you I’m sure he would have asked you out if he was interested.

*I think he may have missed the text or is taking his time to reply.
If nothing happens within couple of days, I'd text again in the daytime asking if he's seen your text. And add 'if you did, don't worry, I was just looking for yes or no, so I'm just checking if you saw it'.
I think that's assertive and would just sound like you don't want to sit and wait.

It could possibly be that phone was switched off and he got lots of texts from work etc in the morbing and yours got lost in that. If he does have a GF she may have seen it and deleted / questimed him. But I think it's likely he's just missed it*

I cringed so hard at this my eyeballs fell out

There was a similar thread with the postman a while back.

@mrswindass I remember that one I think!! Can't remember how it ended??

[quote havecourage8bekind]@mrswindass I remember that one I think!! Can't remember how it ended??[/quote]
I think it was a happy ever after but I'm not sure these stories are true

I remember a postman one but it wasn’t happy ever after, the post man never got back to the op,( just like this plumber) and the op never came back to the thread and I’m sure MN later said they de registered because people kept bumping asking for an update, Tbh I do doubt a lot of these stories.......

@Givemeabreak88

I remember a postman one but it wasn’t happy ever after, the post man never got back to the op,( just like this plumber) and the op never came back to the thread and I’m sure MN later said they de registered because people kept bumping asking for an update, Tbh I do doubt a lot of these stories.......

Ah OK I couldn't remember .Thanks .

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3690859-Does-anyone-remember-the-postman-thread

Seems I was wrong they actually did go on a date but then op never came back and de registered, but who knows if any of it was even true

@PawPatrol24

I'm not texting him again. I did state that in a previous message on this thread. It is very clear he isn't interested. It's not fair to make someone feel uncomfortable like that. And anyways, if it was a man that kept pestering a woman for a date or something if the kind, that would be seen as harassment. I don't see anything with asking once, but anything more than that is a massive no no.

@lunalulu. Maybe you're right, but what is done, is done. I'm not about to get hold of him again because I think whatever I say will just make the whole situation worse, especially if he has a gf. She wouldn't take kindly to the stranger to asked him on a date calling him up XD
I'm just gonna leave it. What is done, is done.

Yes OP totally - of course best to leave it.

Blimey he's be horrified/flattered/?? if he knew there was a huge discussion about him 😅

I hope he replies to you tomorrow but sounds like it could be a work phone. To be honest if someone from my work texted me at half 10 at night I’d think it was a booty call text and just delete it. However my ex partner had a work phone for the day he was on call and would always tell me don’t text him on that number after his shift as they wipe the messages and pass it on to the next person.

I reckon pp who said it's a shared work phone might be right. I can't envisage he'd be THAT rude and not reply.. Especially if you've had a rapport whilst he's been there at your place. Even if he's attached a simple message to say thanks I'm flattered etc.

God i wish i had a fit plumber come round. The one my estate agency employ is 100 years old and smells like an ashtray.. Have to febreze the place once he's been.

@MrsWindass do you fancy Gary Windass? Just wondering because of your username!

However my ex partner had a work phone for the day he was on call and would always tell me don’t text him on that number after his shift as they wipe the messages and pass it on to the next person.

This doesn't sound believable. Why would a business wipe messages without passing it on to the intended recipient? Mental way to do business.