The reason for this morning’s argument: for 2 years I’ve been asking him to fix or replace a certain thing in the house. 2 years. But I refuse to do it because he a) said he would and b) we agreed house maintenance was his responsibility.
Finally he gets a new thing. Spends more than is needed. The fucking thing is soooo complicated to use. Whilst removing the old one he discovers it’s very easily fixable. Suggests we now have two and keep both.
I go to use the new one this morning and can’t figure it out, asked him for help and he kind of shrugged and said “haven’t you read the Manila, I don’t know”. So I try to read the manual but you need a sodding PhD to make this thing work and seems not to have basic functionality.
So I said “I’m getting a bit frustrated with this thing because it’s too complicated. I just need it to simply do X”. He’s pretty much ignoring this yet getting impatient because we were also trying to head out the door.
So he ends up saying “fine I’ll take it back”. I said “yes may as well seeing as the old one works, so we can save £600, and that thing is like a spaceship and is driving me nuts”
He says “stop going on about it, I said I’ll take it back”.
I say “yes I know you said that but can you not see why I’m frustrated?”
He says “I’ve said I’ll take it back”
So the thing itself is all very petty but for me this is a stereotypical conversation we’ll have. It’s like he’s offended that I don’t like the thing he bought. So because he receives that as a criticism he gets uptight and closes me down. Never mind the fact that this topic has been an going issue for 2 years, he spends hundreds on something we don’t need, doesn’t help me figure it out, and then basically tells me to shut up about it.
Then we go out and I try to say “I felt really frustrated then, and you were just trying to shut me up”, it’s met with “everything’s always my fault isn’t it”
Rant over.