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Married to someone with Aspergers: support thread 5
Bluebellforest1 · 21/12/2020 11:04
RelationshipOrNot · 30/07/2022 15:12
@SpringerLink I'm autistic too and find this thread really helpful. I know that some of my autism-related behaviour is hard to live with (rigidity, meltdowns, needing a high level of tolerance for my own emotional needs while not understanding other people's - although I do try to do this with much more success now than when I was younger and didn't/couldn't). It's helpful to see how the NT partners view certain behaviours or ways of speaking that reflect my own, so that I can avoid behaving like that or apologise and acknowledge why I was hurtful if I do. I wish people would stop trying to censor the thread, and I think it's disingenuous to pretend that a disorder which explicitly involves communication difficulties isn't going to have a negative impact on relationships.
TomPinch · 02/08/2022 19:04
You've made your point. Now please drop it.
Daftasabroom · 04/08/2022 14:55
people who accept they are autistic and that that means some differences in relational styles from NT people, do better in a ND/NT relationship than people who won't accept it.
This^, plus I am sure that for any ND or MH condition the sooner it is diagnosed the better, I suspect that many behaviours and personality traits are more and more difficult to change as a person ages.
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