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SmallBox · 13/07/2022 13:08
@Daftasabroom @Skye99 Thanks for your responses. I'm sorry you are living this life too. It's so hard. I feel like I live in a vacuum: he gives me no feedback about anything so I have no idea what he wants from me, if something I do annoys him, makes him angry etc. Nothing. Not even with expressions or noises or body language...I'm not expecting detailed praise or critique on my cooking, clothes etc but it can be like living in another country where you don't speak the language. I have decorated the house exactly how I wanted (and it's bold and bright and colourful) chosen which photos to frame or furniture to buy because he has no opinions on sofas, curtains, paint colours etc. Which my friends think is wonderful 'oh you're so lucky DH would never agree to wallpaper like that/have a bright pink bathroom' and that kind of thing but it's not my house it's our house and he just doesn't give a toss so I choose the tiles in the bathroom by myself and ask my sister or friends what they think and he just agrees to it without a second glance. It's so lonely. TMI - I know more about what my friend's husbands like in bed than I do him. And we really don't discuss it much - just things in passing, buying nice underwear or something. Sex was always silent and awkward with him so I never knew if what I was doing was something he liked and if I asked he said everything was fine. Everything is always 'fine'.
Ijsbear · 14/07/2022 08:03
I have noticed that after 12 years of marriage to an autistic man who doesn't want to acknowledge it, even though it ended 3 years ago I am unable to hold my end up in a proper natter any more. He silenced me so often and thoroughly that it seems to have stuck.
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Ijsbear · 14/07/2022 08:03
I have noticed that after 12 years of marriage to an autistic man who doesn't want to acknowledge it, even though it ended 3 years ago I am unable to hold my end up in a proper natter any more. He silenced me so often and thoroughly that it seems to have stuck.
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