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How’s that for a title?!

Well, I’ve done a deal on the car. Actually it drives very nicely. I can see it’s practical. And it’s not an old banger.

It’s not very me. But it is sensible, and sensible I must be.

Actually got some kip last night. 9-5.

How’s everyone else doing? Justilou is it warm in Oz? One of my best friends lives there and I haven’t seen her for too long. RandomMess have you managed to have a better night / find out when you’re going home?

I haven’t told him about handing it over to the solicitor and no mediation on Friday yet. Waiting for the notes and financial summery from the mediator first. Hopefully today.

How many crackers have you made by now?! You’ve reminded me, I must get some.

Sorry about the hiccup in service. I didn’t go for a fag, I went to bed with one of the kids. I don’t smoke in front of them, in fact Gellar thinks I’m a social smoker. Erm....I used to be...must ease up a bit.

Anyway.

It is what it is. And it will be fine. Yes, still going to church. Will be having walks with friends rather than chilled out days filled with games and fun.

We had a big fuck off row this morning. Apparently I hate him (not true) and I am planning to move 400 miles away.

He was a shit to the kids tonight.

I am just so DONE. 28 days til I get the keys, 29 days until the movers come.

I might start crossing it off, like a prisoner in a cell. I’m starting to see Lindy Bancroft’s point about abusers becoming worse when they know you’re nearly out and away from them. He wouldn’t hurt me, not physically, but he’s trying his best to have a go with words.

He cooked dinner tonight. You’d have thought he’d won an Oscar.

Only 6 crackers, took some doing and I forgot to put the chocolate I bought especially in them 😭🤦🏼‍♀️ ah well I'll just stick the box of them on the table instead.

Talk about setting a good example to my teens - a cigarette lighter and scratch card each - plus lavender candle and lypsil 😉

He really is an arse!

I think I suggested you get an advent calendar? But it on display and make a big important show of consuming it let him shit himself about what you are counting down to...

Hi OP.
Totally agree with you on the shit show that is our PM. All these people making travel plans, buying food etc. All to increase the spending but then to be told we can only go for Christmas day! Bet it was all planned (got my tinfoil hat on and Conspiracy Theories for Dummies next to me here )
My name is because I'm from a town in the North East where the inhabitants nicknamed Monkey Hangers.

@StuckInPollyannaMode

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I have cried SO MUCH tonight.

Bloody bloody COVID. I hadn’t realised just how much I needed Christmas Eve and Boxing Day with friends. Such a fuck up on so many levels. Worst of all is that we were all allowed to get our hopes up. Massive Comms error on part of Johnson - how’s he going to last past the end of Jan? It’s worse because we were all allowed to make plans and gets hopes up. If it had never been allowed then it wouldn’t have been such an issue. Not wishing to derail and get into politics but I honestly just despair.

Geller has been in full drama Queen mode. Kids all excited and shrieking about Strictly:

‘I hope you’ll meet someone who puts up with this level of shit from the girls. There’s ZERO respect and discipline in this house’ stomp stomp.

I have wine. I would go out for a fag but it’s pouring down with rain.

So I’m going to eat chocolate instead.

Ha. You probably will meet somebody who is nicer to them than he is. After all, not all men are whining cockwombles with a persecution complex. If you want to meet one, that is.

@MitziK that did make me laugh!

Just posted in Chat. DT1 is desperate to have this t-shirt and I can’t find anything - is from the Netflix show Seven & Me - any ideas, friends in my phone?

Heading out shortly to see the planets. It’s pouring down, but the kids are excited. And there will be wine. Meeting a friend and her daughter so the kids can run around and get muddy. Fun fun.

Looks like the show is a few years old so unlikely to be a current shirt, there are some nice cat T-shirts on Etsy......

@TheFrenchLieutenantsMonkey I'm from near there too x

Found something acceptable and tshirtish on H&M, hurrah!

Been out in the freezing cold for 4 hours today on a mammoth scooter session (kids not me, I drank coffee and ate mince pies with a friend!). Joy, it's now raining again.

Keep bursting into tears at inopportune moments, like driving along. Guess it's going to happen. I also don't feel great a lot of the time, it's stress I know, but it's kind of starting to hit me now. Plus I'm super spotty and comfort eating. The car has been serviced and fixed and I'm formally buying it at the end of the month. Signing rental contract on New Year's Eve. It just all suddenly feels real. Plus I really really miss my mum, and my brother, even though after about 2 hours in each others company we start irritating each other. This time last year we were all skiing for Christmas and I was rushing around placating either Gellar or my folks. I was totally shattered by the time we came home!

Gellar has started packing.

I've bought myself a scratchcard for Christmas Day and a Terry's Chocolate Orange.

How's everyone else doing?

I've started doing short exercise classes again, strength and stretch. Walked the dog, bit of housework. Chatted to a couple of friends which was lovely.

I feel more Christmassy than usual probably because I have done far more than DH towards it for a change.

The tears and outbursts of emotion are entirely to be expected. However relieved or desperate you are to split it's still very sad and you need to grieve.

Sounds like you brought up to be the placater, sounds exhausting!

The dog being subjected to her too small reindeer outfit...

The tears will come and go, its natural and normal. Not long now til your free and settled in your new home. All you can do now is try to eat enough, get enough sleep and count down the days.

I've just plopped down with a glass of wine, decompressing after a busy day that included a strong debate with a member of boot's perfume section on whether Anais Anais is a real perfume , if they do stock it at all and whether it was in store.

Just think how totally and wonderfully different your next Christmas will be!

Oh darling tears are naturally because unlike Geller, you’re a not a bloody robot, you’re a human. A living, feeling, human. You can’t go on forever protecting the kids from him and his reactions without cracking! Not to mention carrying the load for him and everyone else!!! Sheesh! Nobody’s been nurturing you at all (apart from gin deliveries). Sweetie, this is further proof that you are real and alive and doing the right thing. You simply can’t go on pretending anymore that things can continue.

& following on from justilou... "You simply can’t go on pretending anymore that things can continue." it is sad, it does hurt, you didn't expect to be here at this point of your life, but by God you cannot continue to live the life you lived, that would be sticking the rest of your life out of reach saying, I'm unhappy, I am lumbered with a stuck up sponge of disapproval for what is meant to be the rest of my life.
Your life matters, your DC will see you flourish, your will be happier by far, but yes, it's a big disappointment.

Can you start painting your new fantasy life in your head? Images of dinners with your kids without the anxiety of him in the house looming and moaning around you all? That sense of anxiety lifting? The lightness you feel when all of you can simply dick around and be “normal” without fear of setting him off? How about “Your Space”? How does that feel? Mark your own territory? Decorate with YOUR colours? You don’t have to worry about his fucking opinions anymore!!! What about the kids? If they want Barbie Lego Spaceman Unicorn Autopsy Hedgehog Ballerina duvet covers, who fucking cares??? They can put fairy lights on the bannisters, they can have shower curtains with grizzly bears if it makes THEM HAPPY!!! You don’t have to worry about his feelings anymore!!! You don’t have to tiptoe around his moods because they are not your problem! If the kids are “naughty” (normal) you can tickle them until they laugh it off and nobody will scold you. You will know it’s because you have insight and compassion and you’re not a selfish, greedy, sensitive, shouty fucker who hoards his gold like a dragon under a mountain. You and your kids are going to be in clover once Geller is in your rear-view mirror!

Emotion is totally normal during such a stressful time. It's difficult with such expectations at this time of year, look after yourself and try to have an ok Christmas.

PS Everytime I see your thread title it makes me laugh

Big hugs

I love you all, people in my phone. Your messages are helping me get through. Thank you. I will try to imagine.

I dreamt about our wedding last night. I hated every minute of it. My mother dominated the lot and my MIL disappeared in tears for 2 hours.

I let the kids stay up late last night to watch All Creatures Great and Small- is brilliant, if anyone needs a gentle something to watch. As a result of going to bed so late, they didn’t wake up til 9 🤣 Gellar MOST perturbed.

Bloody raining again.

Love the reindeer dog outfit.

My beloved cat wouldn’t let me put anything on her - she’s the original fraidy cat. Just got to be happy with looking so pretty!

Dreams can be bastards.

I'm not having the best of mornings - and neither is DP;

Please see here for the reasons

Why can't your kids sleep till 9? It's the school holidays! My teenagers aren't up yet and it's noon!

Jeez, when you leave, you need to spray paint 'Killjoy woz 'ere' on the front door.

Every time Geller does a Geller, visualise a frozen leg of lamb in your hand, and a new patio being built. . .

God he’s weird... he doesn’t like them when they’re awake either!

HahahahahahaHAHAHAHAHA

The new glasses he picked up today are AWFUL. Like, really, REALLY BAD.

God I needed that laugh.

Even the kids have whispered to me Daddy looks funny. I have said they just need to get used to them and he looks fine.

@MitziK I’m sorry you’re having a bad day. Big hugs.

I have just frozen my braised cabbage. I do actually have a leg of lamb in the freezer....!

Was he trying to emulate this (can’t upload the pic so have had to post the link)?

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Gf banoffee pie?? I'm a coeliac and it's my go to, quick and easy to make and incredible. Failing that, I've got a gf Yule log from Tesco's which is also dairy free, & a raspberry and white choc roulade in the freezer. Tesco's do free from
Profiteroles and they're tasty