Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

How long until you got engaged?

165 replies

Roo060720 · 14/12/2020 07:27

So just curious to know as I'm hoping soon I'll be engaged.

how long after your relationships started did you get engaged and are you still happily married?

OP posts:
seensome · 14/12/2020 07:58

First proposal 10mths declined as too young, second accepted after three years (same relationship) married at five, divorced at 14 years. I hope to get another proposal within 5 years of a new relationship.

bez91 · 14/12/2020 08:00

Met at 15/16, engaged after 6 years, married 3 years later and 4 years happily married, together almost 14 years with 1DC and still madly in love with him.

Bluntness100 · 14/12/2020 08:02

Three years, married after five.

Desmondo2016 · 14/12/2020 08:03

Bought first house together after 3 years
Engaged at 4 years
Married at 4.5 years
First child at 5.5 years.

Caramel81 · 14/12/2020 08:04

3.5 years to get engaged. We should have been married at 4 years but covid struck. We’ll get married at 5 years instead

jb7445 · 14/12/2020 08:10

This reply has been withdrawn

This has been withdrawn by MNHQ for breaking our Talk Guidelines.

Tempusfudgeit · 14/12/2020 08:10

Engaged after 3 months, married 18 months later, just celebrated 10 year wedding anniversary.

Mammyloveswine · 14/12/2020 08:12

Met in august 2010, moved in together august 2012 then got engaged Christmas 2012.

Married Christmas 2014, 9 months pregnant by Christmas 2015 and 9 months pregnant with number 2 Christmas 2017!

We are having a quiet Christmas this year!

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 14/12/2020 08:12

Got engaged after 2 years, 6 years later still not married, and now have no intention of ever getting married. We are quite happy the way we are.

stillfeelingmad · 14/12/2020 08:12

Engaged 19 months after meeting, married after 3 years Smile

Littlemissnutcracker · 14/12/2020 08:14

17 months. We didn't live together until we married as he worked down south. Married lten years.

KittenCalledBob · 14/12/2020 08:14

Engaged after 5 years, married 16 months later, have now been married for 17 years (3 DC) and still think he's amazing Smile

Olivetreekeeper · 14/12/2020 08:19

Engaged 2.5years, married 4.5 years. Been married 4years now.

Bells3032 · 14/12/2020 08:20

Engaged after 11 months and married exactly a year later. Married nearly 18 months and so far so good. Despite the slightly weird first year of marriage and I thank heavens for him every day.

My parents got engaged after three weeks of knowing each other and married four months later. My mum passed away after 30 happy years together. They just knew

Ffsnosexallowed · 14/12/2020 08:20

Engaged 2 months after we met. Together 27 years in Jan, still not married.....

BiBabbles · 14/12/2020 08:21

After about a month and a half after moving in together, having been long distance dating for about 8 months before that and known each other (online, with both of us on dial-up) about two years. We eloped 3 months later.

I think it's less time that mattered for me and more that we'd covered and wrestled with certain topics together - we'd discussed having kids and how we saw that going (mostly worked well though we had fewer kids than we thought back then), our ideal careers and how we would manage those (this didn't come to pass at all, but our priority of family over careers that we did discuss did), philosophical beliefs, handling family over holidays and aspects, and generally worked out whether or not we saw the future together in the same way and could deal with problems and changes to our plans that came up together well. For some people, that takes a while to work out, others face problems together sooner and find those sorts of things out sooner.

I vaguely recall advice of waiting until you'd seen someone ill before marrying them, something about seeing who they are when the armour is down (also really angry as well, I think). About a month into living together, my now-spouse was hospitalized and yeah, that really crystalized a lot of the things he and I had been talking about, made it all very real so when he asked a couple weeks later in the middle of a conversation about what we were watching on TV (it was not a planned proposal, it just came up), while it took me a day to consider it (18 year old me didn't want to rush it), I could see it and that's what mostly mattered to me - even not being able to see the future, I knew we could make great choices together. I still joke with him now that he's my best choice.

StylishMummy · 14/12/2020 08:28

Living together in 1 year, engaged in 2 years, married and baby by 3 years. 8 years in & very happy together

Superstardjs · 14/12/2020 08:30

Engaged after 6 months, married the following year. Divorced 15 years later .

MrsBartlet · 14/12/2020 08:30

Engaged 13 months after we started dating but we were already living together at that point. Moved in together after 10 months and I had spent 7 of those months on the other side of the world (moved in with him the day I got back). Married 18
months after engagement and been married 25 years. Honestly if either of our dc did this I would be so worried but as someone said up thread, when you know you know!

HawaiianPartyBunker · 14/12/2020 08:31

Best friends for 9 months. We weren't ever GF/BF - we eventually admitted we'd fallen in love and he proposed a couple of months later, so we went straight from friendship to engagement 😅

Getting married next year, and honestly couldn't be happier.

firstimemamma · 14/12/2020 08:32

Met 2015
Engaged 2018
Getting married 2021 Smile

Maisieme · 14/12/2020 08:33

Engaged after 10 months, married 2 years later. Still going strong 41 years later.

Dollywilde · 14/12/2020 08:34

Met in 2012 aged 23 and 26. Engaged 2016, married 2018, first DC 2020.

Glitterinthegrey · 14/12/2020 08:35

Engaged after 4 years together. Married another 3.5 years later. Still happy, 14 years together, 6.5 years married.

Mylittleturkeysandwich · 14/12/2020 08:37

Engaged after a year. Married 3 years later. We've now been married 6 years and DS is 1.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.