How did you know you had found "the one"

[Peanutbutterjelly10]

I always find these threads lovely. So how did you know? Was it a instant feeling, more or a slow burner? Was it something they did that made you realise?

I think after 30 years I've finally found my one! I have never felt this way before. And I felt it from the moment I met them.

We went to high school together. 'Went out' for about 3 weeks before he dumped me. I was heart broken but we were both troubled and went our separate ways.
22 years later, having looked him up on Facebook several times over the years, I was drunk and sent him a friend request.
I'd just left a man child who was practically stalking me. Had left my ex husband 2 years before that who is an absolute nightmare. We'd been together 13 years, almost 3 of them married and have 2 sons.
He'd travelled round the UK for work and settled down with someone from work and had 2 sons. They'd been separated a year after she met someone else.
We talked for a week, then had coffee. I moved the 50 miles to live with him 4 months later and I'm now 32 weeks pregnant with our first child, a little girl.
He's the kindest, most patient, supportive, wonderful person I've ever met. Despite issues with my ex, learning to live with each others children, supporting me through therapy we are each others best friends. We have the same sense of humour, have tons in common and I've never once doubted how he feels about me.
My life isn't perfect but I'm so happy he was worth waiting for and we make each other better people x

I’m not sure I believe in ‘the one’. I had met my now partner online chatted a bit but that was it. Reconnected a while later. Finally met up.

Def a slow burner rather than instant boom, I’m glad I stuck around though. He is just what I need in life and we have a great life together, we are close and get on so well and enjoy lots of shared interests but also have different ones too, and I know some don’t always agree with partners being friends but he is my absolute best friend but with the sex part too. I have long standing really good friends too but it’s different.

I say slow burner, we did spend the night after the first date. So maybe not that slow

It was sort of a slow burner. He was dating someone else (casually) when we first met but I knew I wanted him in my life from the first day. Then around a year later (when we were friends and fortunately both single!) I realised I was in love with him. What made it clearly different is I didn't care what anyone else thought and I didn't have any of those little niggling worries you often get early in a relationship. It just felt perfectly right.

I don’t believe in ‘the one’ either but something shifted in me when I met DP. We met through OLD and the first time we met in person it took every fibre of my being not to hold his hand. There is a real ‘physicality’ about the relationship, not just in terms of sex (though also the sex) but we are always touching, holding hands, etc. even after six years, which I’d never experienced before. We’re very ‘together’ - not in a snogging in public kind of way - but in a very calm, relaxed, ‘this is us. Here we are’ kind of way. Do you know those middle aged couples you see on the street and you know that they’re still enjoying each other and having great sex together? That’s us 😁

I knew after about 5 minutes of meeting him that it was likely to go far. I don’t believe there is just one person for everyone but I do believe some people just click instantly and I definitely felt that with my husband.

Genuinely he is the only man I’ve met that’s able to find me totally inoffensive 🤣. I can be rather outspoken and acerbic and he just raises his eyebrow at me and we carry on. The man is an angel.

Love how there is a mixture of slow burners and an instant feel or love. All stories are so lovely

I knew he was the one when I was walking home one day and I realised that I was happy. Not just nice day happy but content to my soul. There was no uneasiness, eggshells or difficulties.
We made ea h other better people and supported one another completely in everything.
We have supported each other through serious illnesses, premature babies, life treating birth defects for our children, bereavements and nothing fazes us.
Our relationship is a safe space for us both with no compromise.

The first day I saw him. I said to my best friend 'I'm going to marry him one day!' and years later, we got married :)