When did you meet the one and have children?

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I'm almost 33 and yet to find this - is there hope?

Definitely, I met DH at 33 unfortunately cannot seem to get pregnant and needing IVF but Im one of the unfortunate ones, many of my friends of similar age could get pregnant. I found DH on a dating site, we clicked & got engaged/ married quite quickly.

28, took us a long time to conceive though.

28. Married at 31, had DD at 32 (nearer 33 though) and expecting DC 2 in five weeks (I'm now 35).

I met DH at almost 31 and married at 32 and had a baby at 33. A lot of my friends are similar. Don't lose hope. You're at a age where you can easily eliminate the fools and find the one as that one will also be searching for you! You will probably get married a lot quicker once you meet the one. My cousin recently got married at 35 (summer small wedding due to covid) and heard she is now pregnant. She met the one at 34 and took off really quickly. Good luck x

I’m 35 and still waiting. Sitting through the crap men but it will be worth it one day. Don’t settle for less just to say you have something

Met at 27

1st child 32
2nd child 35

Plenty of time

Met 23, married 24, ds1,25, ds2 32

36

Met at 33, married this year and pregnant. I’m about to be 36

44

We met at 25, married at 27 and ds1 at 29 ds2 at 31

But most of my friends were all mid to late 30s as we had so many great weddings and were the only ones juggling childcare.

What baffles me is the new definition of a long time to conceive I came off the pill at 26 and didn't fall pregnant until I was 29 with no protection etc so I guess in today's world that's a long time, but we really didn't think anything of it at all and just assumed it would happen.

But I'd say average of our friends was around 30- 35+ for weddings and then babies late 30s early 40s.

I met my husband at 36, no children as we didn't want them.

I had children with an ex who was not the one. Met the one three years ago.

I met my one at 36 after a long stream of idiots and time-wasters, a failed marriage to an abusive narc and most of my early 30s spent single and convinced I'd missed my chance.

37 now and we're TTC. Never give up hope x

Met at 21, married at 27, DD at 28, DS at 30. 32 now.

Met DH at 29, 2 kids by 32. Married at 39

Met at 31 (blind date), got engaged and bought a house together 32, married 33, DC1 at 34, DC 2 at 37. We knew almost immediately we were right for each other. I'd almost settled so many times before (2 broken engagements), so glad I waited for the right one. 10 years together in January and I still love him to bits.

I met DP at 34 on PoF. We hit it off immediately, and have been together almost 10 years, with on DD7 🥰

Met 35, married 37, kids 38 and 40. Very happy :)

OP - I am a decade older then you and in the phase of life where people have already met, had kids, and are in various stages of their relationships (from divorced to oK, with shades in between). So - here is a bit of advice....
Don’t focus too much on the concept of The One.... Doesn’t really exist. There are people whose relationships work out, and those whose don’t. And it has nothing to do with the strength of feeling like they were The One - back when they met.
Then you are at the age where you need to decide how important having children is for you. And if it’s something that you really want - you still have time, but there is a certain time limitation that you will have.
And based on that - just don’t necessarily wait for some sort of fireworks-full arrival of The One.
I find that dating&falling in love as a 20-something is very different from dating your 30s when you are trying to decide who you’ll have kids with. In addition to the emotional/physical connection one also can’t avoid some of the practical and mundane considerations.
Thing is - having kids is difficult and it challenges many relationships. So - you want to find someone who is not only great at arranging candlelit dinners, but also will be there in the middle of the night helping to change diapers. Etc.

But to answer your question - I met my H when I was about your age. Just after I broke up with a man I thought was The One, who I met in late 20s. But The One and I just didn’t work in real life, there were fireworks and not always the good kind. My H and seemed better suited and we went on to have two kids.

A friend met her one at 37. By 40 she was married with 2 little kids. I met mine at 19. By 33 I was married with 3 kids. Now 40 and on the brink of divorce.

Met at 22 (him 24), married at 30 (him 32), kids at 33 and 35 (35 and 37).

Theres no formula - people I know who got together in their 30s and 40s got married and/or had kids a lot quicker than we did.

Met 21, married 22, baby 24 (we were apart for a year due to work placement ). Took us 9 or 10 months to conceive... I have very long cycles, that was about 4 cycles. DS is now 4 months, might try again for number 2 in a few months! (Gosh, feeling brave!)

Met at 32, married at 35 and had dd three weeks shy of my 37th bday. We didn't get together properly until I was 33 so fast tracked a bit!

Already had kids before I met the one at 28, married and had another.