When did you meet the one and have children?

[FNN88]

I'm almost 33 and yet to find this - is there hope?

I met my husband when I was 23 but we were just starting university so didn't get married for 10 years, and had children at 36 and 40

Met DH at 31 - 1998
DS1 born - 2002
DS2 born - 2008
Married 2015
22 years of happiness

Met at 36. Had children at 38 and 40. He was 40 when we met and had given up hoping for a wife and kids, he still can’t believe he has us years later, bless him.
My Mum met the man she truly adored at 58.

Met when I was 18, married when I was 25 and had DS at 27. Pregnant with no 2 at 29 (will be 30 when due)

Met DH at 19, DD1 at 29 and DD2 at 33.

DH died however shortly before DD2 was born.

Met DP at 37, we don't have anymore children through choice but I'm certain I could have. Good luck OP, you definitely have time.

I've had two children - they're now 22 and 15. I've never found 'the one' or even had a decent relationship.

If I'd waited for 'the one', or even for love, I wouldnt have had my amazing children.

Ha ha still waiting for the one. Had my first at 35 and second this year at 40 with my DP, he did propose this year bless him. I don't know if we will marry,I'm pretty used to him now, but he has many faults and is pretty antisocial. I might feel a bit of fraud declaring my love for him, but small needy children that don't sleep certainly impact your head and heart space for your partner.

@FNN88 definitely you still have time. Met DH at 35 in 2016, moved in together the same year, married in 2018 and had DD this year. He is a few years older and is most definitely the one.

There is no such thing as the 'one'. Until you let go of that juvenile idea you'll never meet anyone.

Met at 34, no kids yet. Might never have them (would be nice though but there are other nice things in life if kids don’t happen, like travel for example)
My mum met her the One at 59 yo

For the full Youtube experience, here is the beautiful Tim Minchin singing about the One ...?

met at 17. Married and first baby at 19, then more at aged 22 and 25

Been together 33 years

There is no such thing as the 'one'. Until you let go of that juvenile idea you'll never meet anyone.

I cannot agree enough with this statement.

I've never hung around waiting for a man to come along to do what I want, I've done it anyway whether it's having children, spending a year abroad or whatever.

I've planned my life not expecting to meet anyone otherwise you just never start living. Some people manage to settle down and get married to someone nice, others pick utterly useless men who aren't worth having.

I have a lovely son I brought up all on my own, I've got my own house, job, pension and will have a comfortable retirement. I've never met a guy I want to spend my whole life with, they've all been chancers passing through.

Met at 25, first 2 kids at 31, 3rd at 33 and married at 33. There’s still time!

You don't. There is no 'The One'.

Met at 20,1st at 21, married at 25, 2nd at 26. We had a bit of a whirlwind romance.. we went on a date, my taxi didn’t turn up so I went back to his to sleep in his spare room and I just claimed squatter rights 😂😂 28 years later we still make each other happy 😊

Met ex at 21 and had DD fairly young. He was extremely controlling and became financially abusive. Left him and quickly (too quickly) got into another relationship with a man who turned out to be very jealous, called me all sorts of names and accused me of sleeping around. It didn't last long and ended very badly when I discovered he was actually still married and not divorced like he had told me.

I did a lot of work on myself and then met "the one" just by chance. I didn't believe in "the one" before I met him. We took things slowly which I wanted but were together for 2 years. He dumped me last week and I'm staying away from him but I'm still in shock and struggling to accept it.

I'm 34 now and I don't know. I think I give up on it all. I was never actually looking for a relationship but now I actively don't want one. I don't want to ever feel this way again.

My bitter advice is just focus on yourself and work on you. If someone comes along then that's great, but make sure you look after yourself above anything. Never settle for any man who makes you feel bad about yourself.

I didn't ....

There is plenty of time to meet someone compatible that you'll be happy with in the long-term. There are many of them out there to pick from, amid all those you wouldn't be compatible with and/or wouldn't be happy with.

Obviously, I'm not a 'the one' kind of person and, unhelpful for you, met someone and had kids in my teens, but know plenty of others as shown by this thread who found that in their thirties and beyond.

I dont believe in " the one" either. And I believe soul mates exist more in a sense of people who you were supoosed to meet but not necessarily be romantically involved with, just someone with whom you have a connection with.

I think " the one" is alot of pressure to put on yourselves tbh.

But maybe I've been unlucky , but I've never seemed to have both. Anyone I've ever had chemistry with, well they were never long term boyfriend material. And the man I just spent 15 years with i sacrificed the chemistry for something else but that hasn't worked out either I guess.

I'm 40 now... and I'm done for now..

Met at 24.
Got together at 27.
Married at 28
First baby at 31.

17 and 11 nearly 12 years later we had our first son!

Met DH when we were 23 , married at 26 and started TTC after our first wedding anniversary but had fertility issues so we were 36 when we finally adopted our first DC.

Met just before I turned 21. Married at 25. Pregnant at 26. DS born when I was 27 and DD born 3 weeks ago and I was 30. My husband is nearly 10 years older though so his numbers are obviously bigger.

In my friendship group from school I am absolutely an outlier only one other is married with a child. At baby groups I was normally one of the younger mums and often by a fair bit. With DD now in my 30s I'll be close to representative.

Met at 20. Engaged at 29, married at 30. DC at 31 and 33. Still together 30'years later