When did you meet the one and have children?

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I'm almost 33 and yet to find this - is there hope?

Met at 27, married at 38, baby at 41. There are no rules.

I met my DH at 34, moved into together 6 months later. I gave birth to my eldest at 36 and just had my fourth at 39. And in between having 4 kids in less than 6 years, we bought a house and got married. So don't despair!

Met at 35, married at 40.
No kids - too old

There's no such thing as the one IMO. I'll probably be flamed for being the cynic but I mean it in a good and encouraging way.... I just feel like there are people who we gel with and feel a spark with more than others, otherwise it seems to me that it's a massive coincidence all these soulmates just happen to live so close to one another or at least speak the same language and live in the same country. Of course you hear of long distance love across continents and language barriers but the former is the usual. Anyway, to conclude my rambling there are many many compatible people with you and you will find one of them, mathematics is in your favour

Met at 19, married at 24, DS at 29 following infertility treatment.

39. Baby at 40.

Hoping for another baby at 41/42.

Never dreamed I’d be this happy.

Can I just hop on and ask for the people who met in their 30s, did you worry about meeting someone? I'm only 29 but having been on a string of dates recently where they have either been players or I just haven't felt a connection with them I'm genuinely concerned about meeting someone I could settle down with now

We met at 18, had dd at 19, married at 20, had ds at 21, and the Mister had the snip at 22 as we knew we were done.
Married for 23 years, he still rings my bell.

I have a good friend who met her Mister at 38, had her dd at 39 and married him at 42.

There is no right time, or right way. People fall in love at 80, for crying out loud!
Life happens, and as it does, you meet people along the way that can change everything.

Don't give up on new chances, meeting new people, and new opportunities; as long as you have breath, you have more chances.

Met online when I was 37/38 and we had a baby just before I turned 40 x

Oh and same as @Shatandfattered I don’t believe in ‘the One’ I think there’s several people you’ll meet who could be your partner for a while or for a lifetime - i think it’s more if you both grow in the same direction through the years

@nutella202 yes of course I worried - I was with someone from 26 for 10 years and we split just as we were about to marry....so single at 37 was scary but I went on to meet the dad of my gorgeous DD

I’d given up nutella!

Met when I was 34 and married within 18 months. We never had children (too old now) but I don’t think it was my age, it just wasn’t meant to be.

@nutella202, Yelp , just about given up, and totally fed up of being told that he's just around the corner ( how many ruddy corners do I have to go round ! )
Then my mum was talking to an acquaintance who had this lovely nephew who can never find a girlfriend .. they contrived a meet up for us ... the rest is history
A friend ( more recently ) went online dating and met someone who was a friend of a friend , they now live together and are wondering why their friends didn't match them up

Married at 31, kids at 33 and 36, split with exH, met the one at 39 ❤️

30, kids at 34 and 38.

I know of a few people who met later and conceived though. Don't despair!

I would add that there is a lot more to life than marriage and babies but I appreciate it's easy for me to say this and perhaps not so helpful. (I've just seen a few messy divorces lately and custody battles over the years).

DH and I got together a few months before I turned 35. Had a baby at 37, bought a house at 39 then got married at 40. I'm also a step parent as DH had a long relationship before.

A friend met her partner at 38/39 and is happy and settled. No kids or plans to marry.
Most of my friends seemed to get married early-mid 30s, it did feel like it might never happen for me and I was trying hard to get my head round that.

I'm not sure about 'the one' but my DH is the right person for me. Maybe not quite a soulmate but certainly someone I think I can bear to live with for rest of my life! 😁

Met when I was 21 and he was 28.
Bought a house together when I was 24
Had our first baby at 25
Second due next July and and just bought a bigger house 🙈

8 years we've been together next year.

I'm not sure I believe in the one but we have a good happy relationship (most of the time) but it takes work.

Met at 29, married the following year, had DS the year after that. Only one of my friends had a child at that stage, a few months before me.

My friend met her DH at 35, got married at 36 and had her two DC at 37 and 39. Other friend met her DH at 39, had 2 DC and got married at 45. Both of them were torn about splitting up from earlier LTRs but both said better to be single than with the wrong person.

Met at 34, married at 37, DS1 38, DS2 41.

Agree with the pp who said that dating in your thirties is different. Less about wanting to discover "the one", more about being happy in my own skin and only prepared to be with someone who was going to add to that. I had done a lot of sorting myself out, found a new job that I enjoyed, focused on being me, hobbies, family, old friends, making new friends . . . Then a good man was a bonus.

I had come to terms with the fact that I might not have kids, which took the pressure off.

Nutella I had started to worry a bit about finding someone, but being older now - nearly 60 - I can say that most of my friends are happy. Some didn't settle down until their late thirties, or even forties - one didn't marry until her late sixties, and she was probably the happiest of everyone! She had been a single lady all her life, built her life around work, retired, and pulled a very glamorous silver fox, and had a helluva retirement!

HTH

I met the 1st ‘one’ at 16 and the 2nd ‘one’ at 30.

Agree with @Fullmoonparty there are lots of people out there that you could be happy with. I think often women get caught up looking for the perfect one and forget in the search that they themselves are not perfect so how can they expect that from a partner

Met when I was 23, fannied around until I was 27, married at 29, pregnant with first at 32 (ended in a late termination for medical reasons unfortunately), and were hoping to crack on trying again in the new year - i'll be 33.

I was 34 when I met my DP. I was 35 when I had my daughter (9mths old now)

Thanks everyone, I totally agree I don't believe in the one either. I just want someone who has similar values as me that I am really attracted to, feels not much to ask but seems bloody hard to find!

I also get so many people saying you'll meet the right one when you aren't looking always happens that way, but it kind of annoys me because I date a lot so I'm never not looking if that makes sense!

Met at 20 married 22 first baby at 23 second baby at 26 and I'm 28 now