I've been seeing her since the end of August (ish).
I like to take things slow and obviously covid hasn't helped.
In mid-Aug we'd had 3 dates and she literally begged me to go official, I relented but I didn't like it.
She is so kind, generous and personable. (My most recent ex was an awful person and this is so nice to have)!
She's gorgeous-couldn't be much more my 'type' physically if she tried.
I feel so guilty because she is just so lovely.
The issues are (and this is going to sound SO bad)!
I think we're too far apart intellect and culture wise.
Examples;
I mentioned I was reading something about FGM, she's never heard of it. I mentioned it again a few weeks later and she still claimed to have never heard of it.
'This is a bit melodramatic isn't it!' (while watching TV) didn't know what melodramatic meant.
Didn't know what articulate meant-tells me to stop using 'big words'.
Our financial situations are very different but I won't go into that. I would prefer someone on/close to my level though-is that bad?
She is great at a lot of things I am not and I like being with her. But I don't know-I'm interested in academic subjects and have two degrees-she left school without GCSEs at 15-it shouldn't matter and I am sure doesn't in some cases but in this one, I feel like it does :(
I want to be able to discuss things with her and not have to keep stopping to explain what things mean.
I want someone who's interested in me as a person, she can't be because, a lot about me, she'll never understand?
Her friends are a bit much for me too.
It just doesn't feel right. I don't feel I can fully engage with her as a person because of it.
There are other issues. She is very close to her large family. She lives 2 hours from me and I couldn't ask her to relocate at any point. I don't want to either, but I definitely don't want a long distance thing.
Sex. I've tried guiding her and tried telling her what I like/don't like.
I've listened to hers and I am sure I've pleased her as much as possible. She's hurt me nearly every time :( she just isn't getting it and she really cannot fully excite me, just not enough foreplay and not confident enough.
I am awful, aren't I. I don't want to hurt her, she's lovely.
She is SO happy with me, and I think she thinks all is great and she definitely doesn't see the above issues as a problem. She seems to think that we both like one another and are attracted to one another and that's all that's required.
Am I wrong?
How can I finish with her at Xmas sort of time-should I wait?
She has mentioned she felt suicidal after her last LTR ended too. How is best to do it? Phone? In person? I genuinely feel awful.