Social media stalking?

[alm23x]

Hi, it's my first post here so be kind!! Lol. Also still learning all the abbreviations so go easy on me with your replies 😂

Basically I'm just wondering how much interest your partners / SO's take in your social media posts - whether this be what you share, pictures, statuses, just in general?
For example - how many likes you get, how often you post, who likes your things, who follows you etc.

If someone could pm me the secret place, I'd really appreciate it.

Would love to continue supporting you through your journey with all the other women here but if I don't see you again, good luck and well done!
So proud of you xxx

I've been quietly reading your journey and as the daughter of a Mum who was abused physically and mentally, I applaud you.
Please let me know the secret place as I'd like to hear how you are getting on.
Best wishes to you and your children x

you don't owe any of us a new thread or anything

Well said, Plantpotpat. It'd be good to know how Alm gets on, and we're all here to offer support if she needs it, but, Alm, don't feel pressured. You've got enough on your plate!

I'm another who has been following and cheering you on silently. I really didn't have anything useful to say, so just stuck to reading. I think you're incredible, and the advice and support you've had has been amazing. I agree that you shouldn't feel under any pressure to update people. It's your life, not a soap opera. Having said that, if you wanted to I'd love to hear how you get on. You're so strong!

Be grateful if someone could pm me the ‘secret place’ as well. Following and silently cheering on.

Can some one pm me the secret place aswell please

Can someone pm me the secret place please

Hey everyone thanks for all your lovely lovely comments !! I appreciate them all SO much! I've been so busy I haven't managed to get on here, and my inbox has gone crazy. Will try and reply to everyone tonight :) before I stop commenting on this thread I just want to say thank you so so much for every single person that has checked in, commented, not commented but has had me in their thoughts, prayed for me or whatever...I will be greatful forever for all the support and love I've been shown on MN. If anyone is reading my thread and thinking of leaving an abusive relationship then please believe me when I say you can do it! I found the strength to leave by posting here, reading other people's threads and confiding in my best friends. You can do it! I never ever thought I'd get out, and never thought I'd see myself in a refuge but I feel so safe and looked after here...if you're looking for your sign to leave (sounds cringe but I did used to think this way) then this is it, and I believe in you xxxx

I’m so glad that you’re feeling stronger and more positive good on you. Like you said I’m sure your experience with really help someone else contemplating their future. . Lots of luck and best wishes to you and your children with your future plans. Take care alm xx

Hi alm,
As soon as I read your first post I thought. No no no, that is not normal behaviour. I'm so glad you posted on here and got some validation. The new year is just around the corner and you'll be facing it with so many opportunities now you've found the strength to leave that man. It would be great to hear an update in a year or two. All the best to you and your children xx

Aww that's lovely to hear. So happy for you.

I keep meaning to say, hope your dog is safe somewhere too.x

I havent a clue about the secret place either lol. But alm best of luck for the future you are so wonderful. Have a lovely xmas with your little ones. X

Good luck, you've been amazing. No idea about the secret place either!

Another who’s been reading from the beginning. Also don’t know secret place! All the best for Christmas and your future alm although I think you’re a lot stronger than you ever thought you were and I have no doubt you and your 2 will be just fine! Xxx

I’d like to know your secret place too, so I can follow your journey and be cheered by your courage and determination.

I spent at least 3 hours reading the whole thread last night (I'm fairly new to MN and don't know how I've missed your posts but I was still awake at 2.30am reading).
You are so very brave .
I wish you and your children all the best for the future!!
I too would love to know about the secret place.

Hope your doing okay OP, if anyone has found the new thread If they can’t message us and tell us, could they update us on how OP and the kids are getting on :) xx

omg where is the secret place, can someone tell me please.

OP I am so happy for you, and glad you are considering low contact with your Mum.

I do found so much strength on here and with other threads

Very best wishes

You have done AMAZING !!!!

Wasn't going to post on this again but just wanted to leave an update because I'm so proud! Typing this from MY new house..I did it! Moved from the refuge into my new rental the weekend before Christmas so it's been all kinds of crazy but so worth it. Thanks again for everyone's well wishes xx

Well done. You have been amazing to do this. Best wishes for the future. I waa in a similar situation 7 years ago and mumsnet helped me to see what was wrong and give me the strength to leave.

@alm23x
Well done, that's amazing and I'm really pleased to hear that you're in your new house.
Wishing you all the very best for the future.
Good Luck and onwards and upwards.

The secret place is here on MN, people are encouraged to post there if they've escaped from Domestic Violence. Or if they don't want their thread to be found.
It's only called the secret place because it doesn't show up on internet searches. For example if an OP's husband searched relevant keywords that place won't show up.
You don't need anything special to access the place, it's there hiding in plain sight.

Wow that’s amazing I’m so pleased for you. You should be very proud of yourself look what you’ve achieved. You are a very strong woman😊