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Social media stalking?

952 replies

alm23x · 08/11/2020 19:03

Hi, it's my first post here so be kind!! Lol. Also still learning all the abbreviations so go easy on me with your replies 😂

Basically I'm just wondering how much interest your partners / SO's take in your social media posts - whether this be what you share, pictures, statuses, just in general?
For example - how many likes you get, how often you post, who likes your things, who follows you etc.

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MzHz · 29/11/2020 23:23

Great idea :)

S00LA · 29/11/2020 23:38

That’s an excellent idea OP.

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alm23x · 29/11/2020 23:41

It won't let me change username, wondering if it's because I'm on my phone so I might just make a new account under my new email anyway! Then post under that one x

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alm23x · 29/11/2020 23:57

Will leave this up til tomorrow lunchtime & then I'm going to ask for this thread to be deleted xx

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JamaicanJamboree · 29/11/2020 23:59

I just wanted to say I have been following your thread and I think you have coped incredibly well throughout all of this. You have done the right thing for you and your DC’s and I hope you go from strength to strength now. I am very glad you are all safe and will have the support you need. Flowers
(I don’t know about the secret place so I’ll PM you).

Daftapath · 30/11/2020 00:12

That's a great idea, @alm23x. Do be careful about anyone pm-ing you though as you don't know who they might be!

Graphista · 30/11/2020 00:13

You can't change username on the app but you can on the mobile site you just need to go into settings and select a username nobody else is using and changed it you'll need your password - no need to create a new account.

Sorry don't know what secret place means if anyone could illuminate me via pm I'd be grateful.

You're doing amazing op! Onwards and upwards for you and the dc.

Sassysally12 · 30/11/2020 00:19

If anyone knows where the secret place means can they PM me too as I don’t know how to send one myself Grin and want to follow OP amazing story xx

Baileysandcream · 30/11/2020 00:22

A new thread is a great idea, I'm glad to hear you've got a new email Smile.

I'd be grateful if someone could pm me about the secret place too, I think I know, but not totally sure.

Hairyhat · 30/11/2020 01:19

I'm not even sure how to get pms! Never mind the secret place. But if I don't catch up with you Alm, I'm so so happy you got away. I will think of you often and your shiny new life beginning abuse free! Well done. I have followed this thread more than any other and have rooted for you from the start. Especially as you mum has behaved despicably and you've had to do it all alone. You have done your kids proud.

SnowdogFarts · 30/11/2020 07:00

You are doing amazingly well. You are absolute right to be cautious about your posts being recognisable. I would like to keep up with your amazing progress.

witchofthenorth · 30/11/2020 07:21

Followed this thread from the start but never commented. Loads of other much wiser posters than me. I am amazed by you Alm. So brave and you totally rock!

I had no idea there was a secret place so if I don't manage to find you again, just know I think you are bloody amazing. Much love to you and the DC, you've totally got this.

Speakeasy22 · 30/11/2020 07:55

Another person who may never find your next thread I'm afraid OP but wanted to say that I've followed the whole thread and am full of admiration. Very well done for all you've accomplished. You've managed an incredibly difficult situation fantastically. And thanks, too, to Eckhart and others who have given you such good supportive advice. MN can be a great place...

Blanca87 · 30/11/2020 08:01

Sending you all the love in the world. 💕

wishywashy6 · 30/11/2020 09:00

Followed this from day 1 and think you are so brave and strong!
I'd love to continue to follow your journey but completely understand if you don't want to share the 'secret place' with too many
Whatever happens take care and I wish you every happiness for the future xx

Grrrpredictivetex · 30/11/2020 09:20

@Sassysally12

If anyone knows where the secret place means can they PM me too as I don’t know how to send one myself Grin and want to follow OP amazing story xx
Me too please. No idea where it is.
justilou1 · 30/11/2020 09:33

Great idea @alm23x. I will follow you there. I’m so very proud of you. I know that one side of your brain is telling you the same thing that we are all telling you - that you have done the right thing and we will continue to be here to do this. That side of your brain is currently winning over the side that normalized and minimized the abuse and kept you and the kids where you were, but it will still be there in the background nagging at you when you’re vulnerable. Please don’t let it gain traction. Please put it in it’s place. You will not be lonely forever. You have such strength and so much emotional intelligence, once the world opens up again after Covid - and you start to find your feet, you will evolve so quickly!!!

amihavinganervousbreakdown · 30/11/2020 09:54

Can someone please let me know what this secret place is? I had no idea there was one and would really like to know you continue to be okay OP, you're amazing.

MotherOfDragons85 · 30/11/2020 10:08

@amihavinganervousbreakdown

Can someone please let me know what this secret place is? I had no idea there was one and would really like to know you continue to be okay OP, you're amazing.
Me too I’d like to follow it but I’m not sure what the secret place is
DPotter · 30/11/2020 10:48

Totally understand why you want to delete the thread. Is there a way for you to keep a copy - there's so much good advice on here to loose.

very best wishes to you and your children

Powerplant · 30/11/2020 11:21

Hi alm best wishes with your life changing journey and I’m glad the kids seem settled at the moment. Not sure how to follow the secret place but I wish you and you little family well and good luck with your future 💐

IToldYouIWasFreaky · 30/11/2020 12:12

Another who's been following but not commenting and would like to wish you all the very best Alm
I am totally in awe of your strength and courage. You've done an incredible thing for yourself and your children.

Honeyroar · 30/11/2020 12:18

Good luck to you all. Stay strong. I don’t know how to get to the secret place either and don’t think you should be adding people that you don’t know. The lady off Mumsnet whose dog I had was nearly discovered because someone alerted her husband to her Mumsnet posts.. Being extra careful is probably a good thing.xx

Speakeasy22 · 30/11/2020 12:50

I'd be grateful if someone could PM me the secret place too. Thanks.

PlantPotPat · 30/11/2020 13:04

Sending you all the best @alm23x

I don't know the secret place either but your life is private, you don't owe any of us a new thread or anything. If I don't get to see anything from you again, I wish you and your little ones a peaceful Christmas and a positive and strong 2021. Keep going! 💪🏻