Online dating in your 40s - Part 2

[StarlightSparkle]

New thread as I don’t think we are anywhere near done on this subject!

I don't get why someone wouldn't want to meet 'yet'. If you met in the real world there would be none of that nonsense. What is there to say in endless messages?!

@Angelofdeath I thought it did too, now it's just being allowed to which is the problem. I want to meet sooner rather than waiting but we are both in tier 4 areas so we shouldn't really. He addressed the elephant in the room last night and brought up the age difference, asked if I had a problem with it because he didn't. So that is out the way when we meet up.

I don't understand the constant messaging without meeting (unless you're in tier 4) I would rather get the meeting out the way. Mr Computer Geek was big on messaging but kept putting meeting up off.

Even in tier 4 you can meet for a walk.

I’ve tried Tinder and POF, but it feels like all the men in my age range are way outside what I find attractive. (why do so many men in their 40s in my area think big chunky jewellery, backward baseball caps, and sticking their tongue out in photos are attractive? Or fish.)
Can anyone suggest where the grown ups might be?

@Angelofdeath problem is we live an hour and a half from each other (not sure how we matched as my limit is 20 miles) so we would have to travel quite far. I may suggest something like a walk somewhere in the middle (unless the zoos open)as it would be nice to meet.

@Angelofdeath to getting kicked off sites. I probably would too.

I'm so unsure on how other people see meeting up I'm not sure how to broach the subject(tier 4 isn't going anywhere it seems) , I mentioned to my lodger about possibly meeting up with this guy and she got all funny with me about travelling out of my area.

Not sure why people are signing up if they're not happy going for a walk or similar

@Angelofdeath she has just said to me maybe I should have suggested going to the zoo tomorrow to him.🤦‍♀️ I'm just going to see what he is up to this weekend and see if he wants to meet up.

Happy New Year everyone. Fingers crossed 2021 goes better for us all.

So I asked Mr Essex if he wanted to meet this weekend to go for a walk or the zoo as tier 4 isn't going anywhere. But I added I'm happy to wait obviously (I don't know how he feels about breaking lockdown rules ). He said "he thinks so, in January sometime would be nice". I assume the think so was about waiting(not meeting as it was his idea to meet in the first place), but at least he wants to meet just not told me when in January🤦🏻‍♀️.

Happy New Year everyone🎉 here's to a better year for us all x

Happy new year everyone!

I'm back to 'can't be bothered' mode for the moment. I don't think I can bear a walking date atm.

I also want to get back into decent shape before going on any more dates, so I feel a bit more confident.

Happy New Year everyone! 🎉

I have a virtual date this weekend, which will be my first date since October. He seems nice enough though wondering if he might be a bit dull. He lives over an hour away so at least by meeting virtually I won’t be wasting half a day with driving/ walking!

I think meeting up with someone for a walk is totally fine though and if the date goes well I’d be up for a walk at a halfway point.

Found out why Mr Essex couldn't meet today, he was seeing his 2 week old nephew (for only the 2nd time). I don't feel quite so bad now as he had a good reason so I'm going to suggest next weekend to him and see what he says.

Hi, just catching up. Happy new year to you all, things can only get better right? Certainly hope so!

I had a few walk and takeaway coffee dates during the November lockdown. It was either that or not able to meet and much as it wouldn't have been my first choice of what to do, they were all fine. Obviously most of them didn't go anywhere but it avoids getting into long periods of messaging with someone that there might not be anything with when you meet in person. The hardest thing was what to wear to look nice when it's freezing cold or in one case it starts raining as soon as you meet!

Still seeing mr check, have made plans for the one weekend we both have child free this month, funnily enough going for a long walk somewhere we've not been. Managed to get out for dinner the night before New Year's Eve which was nice.
Have moved into tier 3 now so fed up that my gym can remain open but can't run classes as that's my favourite. Going to be much harder to lose the Christmas lbs I have gained!

Two days later and I've had a change of heart again 🙄😁

I'm now speaking to a guy I spoke to a few months ago but the conversation dropped off, and a guy who actually lives locally to me and who shares my obscure hobby.