Online dating in your 40s - Part 2

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New thread as I don’t think we are anywhere near done on this subject!

I wouldn't keep speaking to anyone who sent me a dick pic or tried to get me engaged in anything sexual at all before we'd even met. Its fucking gross.

@OutingMyself thank you exactly what I was thinking. I just found the whole thing so uncomfortable and just ended the call when he started doing that. I had no warning. I've just sat here feeling like a complete fool. Mr Events did warn me he would send dick pics, I didn't believe him. Mr Computer Geek is another thing altogether and that came three weeks into our chatting.

I'm hoping Mr Essex is actually a decent guy.

@Isitreally77 without sounding harsh I really think you need to up your boundaries. Anything sexual/ dirty talk early on is a massive red flag and needs to be blocked. If a guy wanted me to watch him wank over a video call I would of ended and blocked immediately.

Sorry just read you did end the call.Sadly there are still men that think this is acceptable when it is actual sexual harassment. Shame these guys can't be reported for their behaviour.

Thanks, he is blocked, unmatched and I've reported him for inappropriate behaviour on Tinder. Not that anything will be done about it but they really need to do something about these people. It's vile, I'm no prude but it's just not nice. They can go and watch porn if that is what they want to do.

I finally heard from Mr Events last night. I suppose it's been Christmas and he has been allowed to see family and go out (unlike me in tier 4) but he went into tier 4 yesterday. I'm still convinced he is married, regardless of what he says, which is why he only seems to message me late at night.

So it looks like it's Mr Essex and Mr Sales and Mr Sales is a conspiracy theorist. I don't half pick them.

@Angelofdeath thinking about it I'm also replying to Mr Events at that time so using my logic I probably look like that married one who only messages when her husband is asleep(truth is I sleep so badly) . Until I can meet him and see him in person there is no way of knowing if he is telling me the truth. And he does want to meet, when we are out of this damn lockdown at least, and was happy with meeting just for a drink or a coffee.

I've been talking to someone 15 years younger than me. They are late 20s. Is it gross? Would it be gross to meet up with them?

@OutingMyself

I've been talking to someone 15 years younger than me. They are late 20s. Is it gross? Would it be gross to meet up with them?

Two consenting adults of a decent age. Not gross at all! I say go for it!

@OutingMyself nothing wrong with it if you are both happy with it. I've chatted to a couple of 29 year olds nothing came of them but that's because 2020 is rubbish . Mr Essex is 32 and Mr Events is 33 so 12 and 11 years age gap respectively. They haven't brought the age difference up.

I'd assume 15 years younger would mean they were just after sex.

That's shitty @Angelofdeath. I had a guy I was speaking to unmatch me because I didn't get back to him quick enough on Christmas fucking day

Thanks for your thoughts everyone. The 15 years younger person is female, which for reasons I can't put my finger on makes the age difference seem different somehow? But then that's surely sexist of me.. I don't know.

Yes, you're probably right.

Perhaps your guy was married. It does seem weird.

Hi all, would like to join you: So after being single for over 2 years I decided I would do old because that seems the way to go. Joined match in sept. Thought if you paid it might be worth it. It was a shock put it that way. They block you just for looking. Block you mid convo. Young guys wanting older women, some make me laugh though. Met some really nice men but no spark. One guy who I viewed but had a boring bio messaged and we got talking for about 2 hrs. Decided to meet, well his photos didn’t do him justice he was soo handsome and the chemistry wow.
Unfortunately I believe he was still with his wife, the old line of separated but still living together, which can be true because it happened to me before I got my own place but So ended it. Gutted is an understatement. Came off the app for a few months. Decided to go back on last night. Lots of the same people. Why do some just text hi and their name, it’s so boring. Another oh your so pretty. I would liked to have unwrapped you for Christmas!!
I just don’t know whether to reply to these people or not. Also for anyone on match why do they like you but don’t send a message are they waiting for the woman to message first? Thanks if you have read all this and hope you all had a lovely Christmas

Hi Angelofdeath thanks for the reply. Yes I was replying to everyone at first but got fed up of explaining. So I then updated my bio and said looking for someone near to where I lived, it cuts out a lot but some still don’t read it.
There must be someone out there for us surely they can’t all be taken. Also is it too much to ask to be attracted to them.

Yeah you could probably write anything down and they don’t read it.
I do find it all weird. If I like the look of someone I will read it and see if we have things in common etc. If we do i send a message. Even then they don’t reply.
The guy that I met let’s call him Mr Green Eyes read all my profile, asked me questions, we had so many things in common, great chemistry, amazing sex. Could talk forever never an awkward moment. Almost too good to be true. Wasn’t the right time for him going through a breakup. If he even was going through it. I want that again but very doubtful it will happen.

Mr Essex wants to go to the zoo with me, we were talking about our favourite animals and zoos being open in tier 4 and I suggested that we should go when we meet up(his suggestion to meet up) so not a random thing. I've had a message from Mr Events but it was only a how was your Christmas, now he has read the response and not replied. I sent Mr Computer Geek a link to a petition on the government website earlier and he has read it but not responded, I was pretty blunt and said I don't care if you don't reply just sign this petition(I find it odd that he is reading my messages still and not responding though, it feels like he is playing a game or trying to keep me interested).

@Kat2000

Hi all, would like to join you: So after being single for over 2 years I decided I would do old because that seems the way to go. Joined match in sept. Thought if you paid it might be worth it. It was a shock put it that way. They block you just for looking. Block you mid convo. Young guys wanting older women, some make me laugh though. Met some really nice men but no spark. One guy who I viewed but had a boring bio messaged and we got talking for about 2 hrs. Decided to meet, well his photos didn’t do him justice he was soo handsome and the chemistry wow. Unfortunately I believe he was still with his wife, the old line of separated but still living together, which can be true because it happened to me before I got my own place but So ended it. Gutted is an understatement. Came off the app for a few months. Decided to go back on last night. Lots of the same people. Why do some just text hi and their name, it’s so boring. Another oh your so pretty. I would liked to have unwrapped you for Christmas!! I just don’t know whether to reply to these people or not. Also for anyone on match why do they like you but don’t send a message are they waiting for the woman to message first? Thanks if you have read all this and hope you all had a lovely Christmas

Hi Kat

I might join this thread too but not sure if OLD is for me.
Considering lockdown is in full force, I may not have picked the right time to think about dating again