Online dating in your 40s - Part 2

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New thread as I don’t think we are anywhere near done on this subject!

thanks @Angelofdeath - It was making me squirm in my seat listening to Radio 2 "All by myself" playing as I was reading the message....its a tad cringefest isnt it!....Ive tried playing it down and just said he sounds like a really nice guy, and you never know whats round the corner! Im no good at this OLD at all. Another one messaged earlier saying "How was your day going"...as in it read like my day had already ended, so replied with a bit of a joke back, hes not replied lol!

Its from one end of the spectrum to the other....no in between! the second guy thought I was probably being a sarcastic cow, that the trouble with messaging, I just wanted to get away from the "how are you", "what do you do", "do you have any kids", "what are you looking for" messages....hasn't worked obviously Mr Navy has gone quiet anyway, so maybe has found a new wife lol!

Mr Computer Geek tried to start the sexy talk and I quickly put a stop to that, every so often it would go that way but that was after we had been chatting for well over a week. Usually we chatted about every day stuff.

I caved and messaged him earlier just asking how he is, nothing cringey, nothing needy just a pleasant how are things to show I was thinking about him.

@Isitreally77 - When was the last time you heard from him?

@pineappleonpizzaornot Friday so not even a week. He did say he would be back, I'm just a)impatient and b) a worrier.

@Isitreally77 - The silence does that to us doesnt it!! Its not nice. Well I hope he replies

@pineappleonpizzaornot thank you. I think I'm being twice as much of a worrier this week as I have a friend's funeral this week so I'm already emotional.

Wow, lots to catch up on.

It's weird isn't it, I sometimes think blokes just don't know how to communicate. A few weeks ago I was having good messages on Match with a guy, we moved to WhatsApp and then the messaging was just dire, so I gave up. Very strange.

I won't chase anyone who doesn't message me back or goes quiet, I just think if they are interested they will contact you, however brief.

Had a 2nd date with Mr check on Monday night. He came to my house as no other option. We both live alone/part time with our children and work from home and neither of us has a bubble so from a Covid perspective we were both comfortable with that. I wouldn't normally have had someone round so soon and it was a little awkward at first. But we got on, we can chat for ages and there is definitely chemistry and we had a few good snogs which was nice!

We have been messaging since and will see each other again next week as both of us have our children this weekend.

Obviously I'm just waiting for it to go ti** up!

@Isitreally77 - Sorry to hear about you friends funeral...hugs!
@VivaVegas - They really actually have absolutely no clue how to communicate with us, I think the majority must have attended a "how to put women off you" school! Please Mr Check is going well, and you had some kisses! Wow, I've just realized I haven't had a snog for about 5 months!

I do love a good snog!

There is nothing worse than when you kiss someone and it doesn't feel good. Fortunately we were compatible in the snogging department!

It's important to try before you buy 🤣

lol @VivaVegas - So true, I had an awful snog with one OLD, it was so mechanical, I had to push him off in the end .
Well Mr Navy i back, his English is funny he asked me what I like doing in my spear time lol

I'm chatting to another one tonight, apparently I look so familiar , this one just came out and said do you want to go for a drink. No small talk or anything. I'm really struggling not to unmatch, I want a little bit of small talk at least. I'm trying my hardest not to be sarcastic.

I've met so many time wasters and flaky men through OLD....totally disheartened with it. I'm talking to a really nice guy at the moment though and we've FaceTimes 3 times and get on well. Only trouble is he lives 2 hrs away. I don't mind that as I'm busy with work throughout the week anyway but am free at weekends. Anyone else got any experience of matching and dating someone who lives further away?

Urghh he just offered me money to have sex with him, I couldn't tell whether he was joking or not. He got unmatched straight after that.

@Angelofdeath I just don't get it, he thought I was being funny when I said I was busy next weekend and then said that it was a long time to wait when I mentioned lockdown doesn't finish until Wednesday anyway so this weekend is out too.

Still nothing from Mr Computer Geek, it makes me sad now but he is only doing what I suggested I suppose. I've got to stop worrying. If he messages back that would be great but if he doesn't then it was fun talking to him.

I've never been offered anything in exchange for sex, I've also never had a di*k pick or any really rude messages 🤔
Is that because I've mainly been on Match rather than Tinder or POF or maybe I look like such a stiff in my profile that nobody bothers 🤣
I've had the usual one liners and in the summer a guy just messaged me 'I like your profile, fancy going for a coffee' and I did! He was really nice and we went for a coffee then a drink, didn't fancy him but a nice enough bloke.

@Angelofdeath I know it's exactly what I suggested, I think I thought friends would take the pressure off and stress us out less (in fact it's done the opposite for me🤦‍♀️). You're right I don't speak to my friends every day and can easily pick up where we left off. I haven't seen one of my best friends since a week before lockdown in March and I don't speak to him for weeks and we used to see each other weekly for lunch. I just need to chill and believe him when he said he'd be back.

As for the one from last night, no wonder he is single if they think offering money for sex is the way to go.

@Angelofdeath only a hundred pound, I mean it would have been useful as I don't get paid until Monday .

I've got the funeral this afternoon so I've put on my grown up sophisticated perfume and I'm going to take myself off for a walk in a bit. I think worrying (or obsessing) over Computer Geek kept my mind off today and I obsessed over him more as I didn't have the gym to keep my mind off him either.