Online dating in your 40s - Part 2

[StarlightSparkle]

New thread as I don’t think we are anywhere near done on this subject!

Well I'm definitely coming then! I got the old "don't be shy" message after I ignored someone's first "hi" message today! They have some balls don't they! If someone read a message I sent and didn't reply, I would just think hey ho, they aren't interested, let's not lower my standards and act like a desperste middle aged lonely single woman, but they are like dogs on heat, I felt like replying, I'm obviously not interested in you mate....but then I'm like Angel and realised I just didnt care enough to do it 😂
Hope things are going good with Mr Tall! 🤞

Not sure if I'm uploading this right....but I bet he gets loads of matches 😂😂🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Sounds promising with Mr Tall Angel, will he not even meet for a walk and takeaway coffee?

I don't reply to messages if I'm not interested, like you I used to but I think the message should be got across that if you don't reply you're not interested.

This mornings date Mr Scott has confirmed he's still coming, weather isn't great so no idea what I'm going to wear, should have thought about that before now!

Had a call with Mr Check last night, very funny, a bit flirty, possibly trouble. So of course that appeals to me, and will probably end in my tears (remind me of this!). Meeting Saturday for a walk and coffee. Obviously if it happens!

woke up to 2 messages -
Message 1 - he cant stop staring at my profile and wants to marry me - BLOCKED
Message 2 was from someone who messaged me a couple of months ago, but I deleted my profile, then reinstated it - He sent exactly the same message he sent me 2 months ago, I pointed this out, and he said dont you like the deal? (some shit about him being small enough to fit in my pocket and I could keep him all to myself!) - I said I didn't like it 2 months ago, and if he cant remember who is messaging the same message to, maybe he needs a new "generic" message as his current one is clearly not working....he unmatched me
@Angelofdeath - Mr Tall sounds promising, sometimes the shorter messages and to the point are best to start with, you dont have to feel you have send paragraphs that hurt your brain thinking about what to write back!
@VivaVegas - Good luck with Mr Scott - what are your plans with him?

I have more on my blocked list than I do active conversations - So bad!

They really are so shallow aren't they? Why is it so god damn had to find another normal human being with morals? There's bloody billions of people on this planet, I only want 1 of them!

So I hadn't heard from Mr Computer Geek at all on Monday and I was quite happy with that. Then I realised he was due to have an operation this week so I messaged him on Monday night. I was out yesterday morning and was thinking to myself he may have started to understand my point of view when I said I was taking a step back last week as I hadn't heard from him. Lo and behold whilst I was in tesco up pings a message from him saying his operation was that day. I send him a good luck message and leave it at that. Last night I messaged to ask how it went. Have heard nothing. I'm overthinking now and have to realise that he is either busy at work or is at home recovering (I don't know what the op was for but he said it was investigatory).

Ironically it was my idea to take a step back and I'm worrying that he may actually be doing that🤦‍♀️ . Note to self be careful what you suggest next time🤣

@Isitreally77 - So he hasnt bothered to tell you that it went well and he is ok?? In my opinion, unless he has had his arms amputated then that is just plain rude! I think you need to take more of a step back from this guy, and more like run away and dont look back, this really sounds its never going to go anywhere, and you are there for him when it pleases him. If it was to be anything (even a friendship) a step back shouldnt even enter either of your heads, it should be natural and equal amount of effort on both parts, and not full of worry and making you feel shitty. Sorry if I sound harsh

@pineappleonpizzaornot not harsh at all. I hadn't even thought about him not telling me as being rude but now you say it, it is isn't it. And you're right it really shouldn't be this hard even as friends.

@Isitreally77 - Im sure you treat people how you want to be treated, and if he had asked you how you were after an op, Im sure you would reply that you were ok and appreciate the thought of him asking. To me he sounds like a selfish ass....please dont hold on for him, there are plenty of decent men out there no idea where though that will appreciate us

@Angelofdeath - So he has to drive through your town first?? Why doesnt he just leave earlier and fit a coffee date in with you before he heads off to his family?
Bit soon to be meeting the MIL dont ya think

@Angelofdeath - Seeing as though he knows you cant drive you would think for the first date that he would come to you. Have you suggested the date either before or after his family meeting?

I have done something I never do and replied to a message that has no pic, I asked him why and he said he does have one but its hidden?? Anyway, Ive asked him to send a picture.....Im half expecting a dick pic or the sloth to end up in my inbox!

Well I received it.....it was sloth! I know Im a bitch

@pineappleonpizzaornot yes, when i had seen the doctor after he nagged me to go and get checked after the car accident last week, I messaged to let him know what they said. So yeah I treat people how I want to be treated. He is always quick to tell me how kind I am, how much of a nice person and how lovely I am when I tell him how it is (like the time I messaged him after he stood me up) so I think "oh he isn't that bad after all".

@Angelofdeath I think I know deep down it won't go anywhere, I think walking away will be the best thing but it will also be quite hard.

So, had a lovely morning with him, he is very nice, very chatty and very intelligent. He has his teenage daughter most of the time, full on job, own business and cycles competitively.
I’ve no idea how he would fit in a relationship!
He’s not 5ft 8, I’m only just 5ft 4 and would be taller than him in heels! Why do men always add a couple of inches to their height. He’s obviously very fit though.
He’s not unattractive, but I didn’t immediately fancy him.
We’ve exchanged messages since we got back but neither of us has mentioned seeing each other again.
I’m his first date though after being with his ex wife for nearly 30 years, so hopefully whatever happens it was a good experience for him too.
Would I see him again if he asked, probably, would I be bothered if he doesn’t want to, not overly.
Happy to just see how it plays out I think.

@Isitreally77 - Im sorry, its shit isnt it! you get all excited and think "this one will be the one", maybe Im being harsh, just be careful is all Im saying! I cant talk, I whimpered after my ex for 7 months after we split, letting him use me to his hearts content while I was hoping he might want to try again, I did this until I was totally and utterly broken! So maybe thats why Im so blunt now, I cant actually believe I gave him all that power over me....I saw him jogging the other day while I was driving, for a split second maybe 5 minutes I wondered how much "time" I would have to do if I ran him over , not to kill him, just break his legs and maybe an arm!
@Angelofdeath - I consider sloth the creature off the Goonies - Well, I hope he realises about the transport and offers to come to you! To have you running around catching buses wouldn't be good if he has a car!
@VivaVegas - Pleased your date went well, are you going to ask to meet again or leave the ball in his court? Maybe the attraction can grow the more you see him....but I like your laid back approach