And the gifts are about power as well. It’s to prove that he’s right and you are wrong. Because he did a “ tiny thing wrong “ and your threw him out and refused to listen to his apology, even in the face of his generous gifts.
In fact it wasn’t even anything wrong , it was just a misunderstanding . And you flew off the handle, just as you normally do. He onoy said he was leaving because he thought that was what you wanted.
“ Yes, I didn’t like to tell anyone before but she’s often irrational like this, I’ve been putting up with it for years. “ #poorlamb
“ I try to do everything right but nothing is ever good enough for her. It’s the children I worry about “.
See - in a few short sentences I’ve rewritten history. It’s easy- when you are a manipulative, self serving, gas lighting bastard.
And as for the gifts - they are worse that meaningless . They are more proof that he thinks he can get his own way by money .
He’s doing what’s cheap and easy for him, as a PP said. He will never say the words you want because that would change the power balance, he won’t admit the truth - that he finds your domestic servicing useful and value for money compared to the alternatives.
I know want him to say that he was wrong and that he will be a changed man and love you and be a wonderful husband for the rest of his Life but you know he will never say that and actually mean it.
The best you can over hope for is “ So what is it you want then - for me to apologise ? Ok I’m sorry . There I’ve said it now - are you happy ? Will you now stop this game so we can go back to normal ? “